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writes:my boyfriend and i have been together for 18 months and he tells me he cant get stimulated through sex, and he has always been like that.Is this true, some please answer as this is ruining our relationship Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2010): have you asked him if there's something he likes that will stimulate him? some men like different things, for example prostate stimulation (where you put your finger up his but and rub the prostate from the inside) I know this might seem gross or weird to some, but some men like it, and also some men are afraid to say that to their partner because they don't want them thinking they are gay or being freaked out by it, but it's very common and lots of straight men enjoy that.
So ask him if perhaps there's something he does like that he hasn't told you, no matter what it is, try to be encouraging and don't shoot him down or say "ewww" to what ever he suggests, if he feels inhibited by telling you because you react negatively to what he tells you, then you'll never find out if there's something that he does like and things may fall apart.
Best of luck!
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 This could be two different things. One, he may have erectile dysfunction (like impotence), especially if he's the same age you are. If that's the case, he could have a chat with his doctor to see how to help that.
Two, he's hooked on porn and has gotten too used to achieving orgasm through manual stimulation. In this case, he needs to break that habit, and you can help him by manually stimulating him as part of the sex play.
When he told you that he can't be stimulated, did he seem to be bothered by that fact, or did he seem indifferent or unconcerned about that fact? That's a big issue here. I say this because if it's something that really eats him up, he'll still be motivated to make sure you feel good. If not, he's selfish and you'll be frustrated.
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