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writes:I have two sexual fantasies that people seem to find disgusting and a turn off. I see loads of evidence of them on the internet but have never met anyone who admits to liking them. Firstly I have a real love for Feet, i find them very sexually attractive. Secondly i enjoy the fetish known as sploshing or wet and messy. The thought of lobbing pies and having food/messy sex really gets me turned on. Why do the majority of people find me disgusting and weird?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): Maybe you are presenting your preferences in a way that is making your partner feel uncomfortable. To me, neither is a turn on but I wouldn't object if I was asked to part-take with my partner. If he asked me the same thing at the start of our relationship I may have been weirded out. Now I know and trust him and I would accept it was just a way for him to have fun...although the food thing would have to be scheduled:-)
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reader, Miamine +, writes (29 September 2010):
 Feet and mess, normal, but not common.. we are all different, some like chocolate some people like strawberry. You will just find it harder to find someone who shares your hobby because it's more like gold dust than common road dust.
No worry, find a partner who may not be interested, but doesn't find your fantasies disgusting and is willing to play. Feet are easy, (man who loves feet will help you make sure that they always look good) mess is harder. Sexual fantasies that are messy are best practised in the bathroom for ease of cleaning.
Look for feet fetish on dear cupid, we have many people who like that, mess is a new one for me, but it's not abnormal, just not that common.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 Your fantasies are quite 'standard', if anything, but you might want to think about whether you are disclosing them to the wrong people.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Because truthfully most people, regardles of their own kinky fantasies cannot handle hearing about yours. It changes things. It makes people judge you or mis-judge you based on something you should probably just keep to yourself. If you like shoes, just enjoy them secretly; you can even tell your girlfriend to strut in wearing some heels and nothing else, but I wouldn't go further than that and everything else can be your "dirty" (messy) little secret too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): If you have Itunes (get it for FREE), find Dan Savages "The Savage Podcast"- He gets a call from a woman dating a guy with the pie fetish and helps her figure out how to accommodate the guys needs.
It's Savage Love Episode 49 published Sept 25, 2007, the first caller he talks to in this podcast.
Like others have said... Feet are pretty common, pies not so much! Give it a listen, it's a really good exchange!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Because you are!
Just kidding. Seriously, a foot fetish isn't that rare. I met a girl once who greeted me by sucking my toes. I was a little weirded out because her bf was sitting right there and I didn't know her, but meh, that's her thing. The food thing is a little less common. The problem comes trying to find someone to embrace both. I could see that as difficult.
I'd recommend thinking about which you enjoy more and try focussing on that. If you find someone open enough to accept one fetish, they may be open to others.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (28 September 2010):
 The first fetish is actually a common one. Just look up "foot fetish" and you'll see a TON of things on it. The second fetish I've heard of as well, though I don't know how common that one is. However, no humans or animals are getting hurt by it, and I don't think either fetish is the least bit disgusting or weird!
You probably haven't met the right people if the ones you know have an issue with what turns you on! I say more power to you! :)
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