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writes:why doesnt he want to have title after two months of sex, me cooking for him, meeting his mom, him meeting my mom, and countless dates, and meeting his friends, hed rather not call it anything Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): Honey- he has a title for it, he's just not telling you what it is... It's a relationship of convenience.
If he's not willing to at least say it's an exclusive relationship (assuming that's what you two want) then I'd be prepared for 4 months to become 4 years...
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 September 2010):
 You're giving him everything without requiring a level of understanding/commitment. He's got the sex, the cooking, and the social connections with your family. A "title" would make him accountable to you and as invested in the relationship as you are.
It's not unusual at two months to not yet have a title, but most of the time, when there's sex, connection with relatives, and you're cooking for him, there is usually some sort of title or agreement to be "exclusive" to each other. If he's not willing to do that, I'd shut off all the "perks" of the relationship right quick.
Seriously, do you want a guy who just takes, yet can't give even the most basic of desires? For girls, there is an emotional connection that exclusivity can give, and it's not hard to give if he's're truly into the girl.
However, if two months have passed and he's balking, but not thinking twice about the sex and the cooking, then you're being used.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (23 September 2010):
 Maybe he has heard the old saying "fools rush in where angels fear to tread".
There is nothing wrong with taking your time, but if you are cooking and doing other domestic duties for him, maybe you need to pull back a bit as well, dont rush in, just take it slow for a few months. Two months is not long enough to get to know somebody.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 September 2010):
Two months is still a little early (just 8 weeks of dating) to put name on something like this. More to the point, be careful how much you do for him. You don't want to wind up being used. I think you can afford to give him more time. When you're at 5-6 months and he's still not sure, than that's the time to question where's it's going. At two months, I'd still say it's too early.
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