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writes:I am a tall girl, but I'm not fat. I'm 5ft8 and 130 lbs. I'm 28, my husband is 38. My husband says I should lose weight and that my vagina is too big. But I'm not overweight, but I've definitely lost muscle and added fat since we've met. So I don't look as ok as before. But we both orgasm in sex. He did always, and for over a year now I've learned how to orgasm completely unassisted too. We been together over eight years total now. I don't know if my vagina is too big. Don't have a reference point. I have not been with other men in my life. But my husband has accused me of cheating on him almost since day one. For over a year now he says he is no longer just wondering if I've cheated. Now he says he is sure that I did. But he is wrong. When wet/aroused I can fit three fingers lined side by side easy in my vagina, it is only four fingers side by side that really put pressure, stretch out the vaginal wall to capacity. I have a feeling that if I was a tiny petite tight-vagina Asian girl, like the one that he says he's going to get if we break up... I have a feeling that he would treat her a lot nicer than me, just because she's small, and that strokes his male ego. Men, why do you act like such jerks to us tall girls?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): How tall is your husband?
Taller or shorter? If hes shorter, I have some respect for you, as you went against the grain.
If taller, well, you just followed your instincts, and he is doing the same - you deserve each other (probably).
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): I could ask myself the same question in reverse. Why do tall girls and short girls treat short guys with such disfavor?
I'd be watching that man of yours because it sounds like he's getting something extra on the side. He's definitely got something to hide from you if he's accusing you of cheating and you know you haven't cheated. He's using and abusing you because you're allowing him to do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): your husband sounds like someone who would cheat on you.
people who have no trust in others shouldnt be trusted.
i think theyve even done reports on how if a partner is constantly worried about their spouse cheating on them.....it means they themselves truly wish to do it.
anyways...i like tall girls. im 6'2 and am definitely more turned on by tall girls. i also like the fact that they arent regarded as being "mainstream-beauty". but thats also cause i dont like girls who think they can get any guy :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): Hey Fellow Beautiful Amazon! I am 6'2 and 260lbs and my husband is 6'9. Though I probably could shed thirty punds of baby fat, he has never told me I needed to lose weight or that my vagina was fat! If you have never cheated on him, I think it is his fault that he feels you are too big. My husband told me that men loose inches if they gain too much weight. (That is why he works out daily:) He might want to loose some weight himself! Leave or stay, you must work on your self esteem at this point. His tactics in the bedroom are just things to make you feel bad about yourself. Girl if he gets up and you have reached an orgasm- Masturbate! Tell him if he doesn't enjoy your vagina- you do! Learn to love your body no matter what size or shape- If you don't no one will!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): You sound completely normal to me. I am saying that to help you and know that the reason you ask is because the only thing you need to change in your life is that hideous man you are living with. 5' 8 is a lovely height - I would love to be that tall. As for your vagina - he is making sexually degrading remarks to you and now you believe you are horrible - that is not a platform for lovemaking. Get rid of him and find a man that fills you with joy - in every sense and every place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): Damn, with all due respect miss, your husband is a serious asshole to you. First, if he's accused you from day one of not being faithful then you guys clearly had a trust issue and being trust is a HUGE part in a relationship, let alone marriage, logically you shouldnt have gotten married. Hes abusing you, flat out, and to me, thats zero tolerance. Id split with him regardless of the emotions I feel for him as no human being deserves to be demeaned and treated like s***. Youre a beautiful woman, tall, sexy (I dated a girl 5'10" for five years). Get rid of this non gentleman and find yourself what you deserve. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): 5ft 8 is not that tall - you are not entering into freakish proportions yet. Why the heck did u both get married if he has treated u with suspicion since day 1?? I'm shocked that u have stayed with him so long. If I had a boyfriend say to me that I was too big downstairs or that he wanted a little asian girl then I'd buy him a one way ticket to (insert preferred Asian country here) and kick him out of my life forever! I can't say for sure because I don't know either of u but he sounds like an absolute scum bag! There are plenty of guys who are secure enough to have sex with a real women and not transfer their own size issues onto their partner. Don't feel like ur the one with the problem (if u can get off by having sex with him then there is enough friction downstairs). He is the one with the problem, not u. Save urself and get away from him.
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reader, SillyB +, writes (25 September 2010):
 Your husband is mentally abusing you. I don't think you see it though as that - you see it as criticism only. From an outside objective perspective, what you wrote, describes mental abuse. A good and loving man would not DREAM of telling you this stuff.
Hun, I want you to 1. Put aside what he says (it is coming from someone with abusive tendancies and insecurity himself. 2. I want you to go talk to a therapist, tell her all of this and walk through with him/her your thinking/this issue. 3. If he doesn't want to join you in counseling and doesn't want to change, please move on. This is NOT normal. Tell him that perhaps its not your vagina, but his little penis and walk away.
at 5'8" and 130 lbs you are super skinny. Your vagina is normal. He is just twisting things around to make you insecure and down. Hence the mental abuse. A strong confident girl would laugh and walk away - tell him he's crazy.
Please go with counseling and/or walk away. This is sooo not worth it. Its not normal or healthy. You deserve to be happier and with a good man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): Original poster: I just don't know what to do anymore, ever since he's convinced himself that I cheated on him, he is all the less tolerant of me, I give him a blow job everyday and we have sex often but sometimes after I come he'd rather finish with a blow job instead of sex, and he is so negative about our sex life he says that it sucks... and it's rarely ever decent, because I'm clutzy, too timid, not creative, proactive, self-confident enough in bed... sometimes he just gets so frustrated during sex he just walks out of the room in the middle of having sex... and I know that all of this comes from my size, both height and vagina. He is 5ft10 and has an average size penis, something like between 5.5 and 6 inches, so he's not small down there and not thin either, he just says I'm big, and has treated me with suspicion from day one. So I know it's not his size, it's my size. But our sizes don't bother me, they just bother him. It's just so discouraging because everywhere I go I see the average size men with short girls and the tall men with short girls. The short girls get preference across the board. And the tall girls get treated like cr**. So how do men look at tall girls, do they see them as inferior to short girls? Or just not as trustworthy?
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (25 September 2010):
 You've only been with one guy, correct? And he happens to be a massive jerk, so that's going to screw your perception.
Honestly, you need to ditch this guy and find a guy who will appreciate you, and trust me, there are guys who will.
Chances are that Petite Asian girl isn't going to want a pig like him, either.
Do yourself a favor and leave.
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reader, RainyDays93  +, writes (25 September 2010):
Tall is beautifull! I'm 17 years old and i'm 5ft7 and still growing!
If he is constantly putting you down he isn't worth your time, this is mental abuse. Don't be a victim! Kick him out and restart your life! You can do anything as long ass you try hard enough and i'm sure you could get the life you want. He sounds like he doesn't respect or trust you, these are vital things needed for a happy relationship.
You should love your body and be with someone who loves it too.
There's nothing wrong with your vagina, that is perfectly normal, as the previous answer stated he must have size issues of his own.
Not all men are jerks about tall girls, most like women tall and a man doesn't deserve you if he doesn't love your body exactly the way it is. Don't take any rubbish from any man about the way you are because they aren't worth your time!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (25 September 2010):
 Geeze, let me tell you this - I would pity any other woman, Asian or otherwise, who would ever cross paths with that moron of a guy.
First off, if guys hated tall girls, the majority of fashion supermodels wouldn't be tall like they are.
Second off, for this guy to outright tell you at 130lbs and 5'8" that your vagina is "too big" and that you need to lose weight is absolutely asinine. Maybe if he wasn't sporting a AAA Battery for a penis, he wouldn't be picking on your equipment.
Third off, there are many women who can "fist" (put their entire fist in their vagina) and it's not considered weird or "too big".
Fourth, I'd suggest you kick that mysoginistic asshat straight to the curb with his AAA battery and his jerky ways, and find a guy who will make you feel better about yourself. Life is too short to let anyone make you feel like this!
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