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writes:Hi, My boyfriend of four years spends all his free time in chat rooms I have discovered 1o5 contacts all females . I read numerous sexual conversations he has initiated, denies he has a girlfriend , I've confronted him several times he tells me he's bored, it's just for fun and he doesnt mean any of it, the thing is , he tells me he loves me does anything in the world for me, Im very confused , we have great sex, enjoy one anothers company, he assumed a a debt for me, we live an hour apart , he begged me to move in I did got a job and then I catch him chatting, he tells me I dont trust him, well not now he having sexual conversations with other women. He got upset told me this is who he is and he isnt going to stop and if I didnt like it , I neede to find someone else. Im hurt , confused, angry. Please help.
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reader, addictedtolove 76 +, writes (30 January 2011):
I'm going thru something similar. It's hard because mine doesn't mess around on me. But he has to have that constant acknowledgment that he is wanted. Maybe this is just the manifestation of low self esteem. His. Not yours or mine. Out bothers me but I know otherwise he is faithful. Maybe it is the same with your guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): I'd find someone else!
And while you are at it, fix your very low self respect and self worth so other women can not upset you.
google: self worth
after you have cut this guy loose!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 September 2010):
 You catch him having sex conversations online and then he turns around and accuses you of not trusting him?! Sorry, but he's a complete asshat who deserves to be alone. The internet is "not" fake. There are real people with real emotions and real cheating going on. You have every right to be upset at him, and the truth is, someone who's completely in love with someone else has ZERO appetite for chatting sexually with anyone else.
He is in love with himself first and foremost.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (23 September 2010):
 I'd find someone else and quick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): OMG, what's his name? He sounds just like my ex of 4 1/2 yrs. He used the same excuses and B.S. Lines! The thing is...he has already told you he is not going to stop, so thank your lucky stars that you found out about it before you moved in (I wasn't as lucky) so you can make an informed decision. Can you live with the knowledge that he is doing this or will it drive you nuts? If you are like me, this will turn into an emotional rollercoaster from hell! My ex did delete his yahoo chat many times and even went so far as to get counseling, but would have relapses, beg forgiveness, profess his love and then be good for a wgile, only to do it again. Eventually he did meet up with a woman he met on yahoo chat, when I was out of town..... He offered up that confession a full year after I moved out.
There is no reason for you to be confused, you know it's not right, it will lead to cheating some day, in the future, under the right circumstances, and he won't quit. You will never be happy while you are living this way. The sooner you leave, the sooner you heal and the sooner you will find someone to love and adore you properly. It took me 2 years, which is a long time, but the man I am with now, I can trust explicitly and that is a really good feeling and I am happy :) If you sstay, you will still be unhappy in two years :(
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