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writes:my boyfriend of several years is upset im not buying him a house, car, and lavish gifts. I make much more money than he does, and its a sore spot. Im a saver, he is a spender. He has had several flighs over the years and refuses couciling, stating the only way to solve the problem is to combine households. He refuses to discuss money, savings retirement or day to day expectations. I know i should leave but i fear him to be vindictive.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (4 November 2010):
 I thought of something else. Make sure you keep your personal info private. I could see him hijacking your credit/identity to get things for himself, and wrecking your good name in the process.
Make sure you keep an eye on your credit score, and shred documents on a regular basis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): Whenever making any decisions about giving him money always stop and evaluate before you do it, dont be pressured!
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Leave him otherwise he will probably take control of all your assets. Your nearing retirement and the last thing you'd want is someone so financially reckless.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 I think you should leave as well and be very careful about your money. Make the necessary preparations before you leave him so that you and your belongings are safe.
He wants to exploit you.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 November 2010):
You should leave him, and if you fear his retaliation, go to the police if you fear for your life or property.
Finances are the number two cause of divorce, and you do not owe him cars and lavish gifts. Does he love you for love, or is he looking for a sugar mama?
Why on earth would you combine households with someone who is irresponsible? No way! He's after your money.
Keep saving and being smart about money!
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