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writes:I tend to orgasm within 5 minutes during sex with my bf. I don't know if my bf likes the idea that I finish really quick cause I feel like he wants to go longer. Of course he gets to finish, but i feel like he wants sex to last longer... Obviously I should ask him how he feels about it, but I feel weird talking about it. Do you think it matters how quick a girl orgasms?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2011): I like that, I wish my gf would have quick orgasms all the time. Makes me feel like I'm good :)
On the other hand well some guys like the challenge of a girl who is harder to please. But if you want to look at the bright side of it, there surely is one :)
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reader, turbine  +, writes (6 November 2010):
It's okay if she orgasms fast. The good thing is that the chances are that she'll get ready for the next session faster than normal also!!
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (4 November 2010):
personally, i like it if the girl cums quickly. it usually means she can go again and again. if that's the case, great.
i'd rather she have multiple orgasms than just the one. I obviously want to orgasm myself eventually, but but there's little better than making ur gf orgasm time and time again.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (4 November 2010):
 I'm sort of like you I guess - I tend to cum easily - and I think it's a gift! Enjoy yourself and make sure your man enjoys it too. Nothing to get too off-kilter about.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 It would not bother me at all whether it was quick or took a while. All you do is set yourself up for multiples so its a great thing for you and for your bf because atleast for me nothing is hotter than seeing my gf orgasm.
I'm wondering do you get sore after and can't continue because then I could see why you are concerned?
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (4 November 2010):
 You are blessed! Do you know how many women cannot have an orgasm during sex?! Many women who can actually achieve an orgasm have to do it only by clitoral stimulation, no penetration at all.
Tell him that he doesn't have to speed things up on his end just because you finished first. I can orgasm pretty quickly too, but that doesn't mean it's over. I still enjoy the sensation, which you probably do too. Have you ever tried for multiples? They're fun. When I was able to do it once, it happened every time. Tell him you want to try for that. That will give him something to work for. And, if it works for you, you both will be very happy. You get more pleasure and he gets to feel like a stud.
And, just so you know, sex should never be a taboo topic between you and your significant other. Sex is an important part of the relationship and you should be able to be open with each other about it.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (4 November 2010):
 Oh man...don't change ANYTHING! You have what a zillion other women want - the ability to let go and enjoy yourself!
The way to make it last longer is in the foreplay - the stuff leading up to it. Also, you didn't mention whether or not you can have multiples. If you haven't tried it yet and want the fun to last longer, you may want to try new techniques to see if that's a possibility for you (it's not for all women, but some have that fun ability!).
Other than that, given the sheer magnitude of women who write on here that they've never had an orgasm, and the even bigger magnitude of women who can't have one with their men, you have something valuable beyond compare!
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