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writes: My dad just remarried not to long ago to a woman who has 3 kids. I am an only child. Her oldest is a year younger than me. I haven't gotten to know them a great deal but I'm cool being around them. Anyways I had a dream about the oldest and it was a sexual dream. But I wasn't grossed out about it when I woke up. I know dreams don't really mean anything but ever since I had that dream its been on my mind. Like sending him a text message or email or something and starting a conversation and see where it goes. I know my parents would prob freak out but to me, its not bad because we aren't related and we didn't chose this situation. Now whether or not he feels the same I have no idea. Is it worth mentioning? I'm not looking for a husband in him. We don't even live together. I'm with my mom but I'm there at my dads everynow and then. Any advice? Please don't driticize me about this. I haven't done anything wrong
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reader, ice_4fire  +, writes (6 November 2010):
Hi dear.
The fact is, this happens with many people and all those people feel guilty because somehow they are feeling something about their closed relatives.
It seems that the age stage through which you are passing is a main cause. You will have more feelings about it. But we- humans- need to control some things so that our family and society don't get disturbed.
Whenever you are getting out of control for this feeling, just see inside yourself and everything will be stopped.
All the best
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reader, Dizme  +, writes (3 November 2010):
Danger Will Robinson! This is definately a sittuation that I would not encourage. It isn't incestuous but it is a recipe for possible issues in the future. Too many times people think of the here and now without concern for future reprecutions. Sorry if my spelling is bad. :) Even if you aren't looking for anything serious like marriage etc you still would have to deal with things after, and even if you feel you can handle it can he? Will he be ok with it that way or will this be a forever cloud that can make things very awkward at family gatherings etc. Just do this. Take time to really think about these things. Make a decision that is logical, taking emotions into account. All factors weighed I think you will in the end agree that it isn't gonna be a good thing no matter how you shake it.
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Dont act on this at all. Yes, you havent done anything wrong, and he isnt blood relation, therefor its not ewww
BUT remember, you will have to face this guy for the rest of your life. If anything was to happen, ie you had sex, had a relationship, broke up..... there would be no clean break. It would always be there as a memory for you.
Best to steer clear I think.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Are you sure you have feelings for this boy, or do you just think you must have since you had that dream?
Your mind doesn't work like that. You dreamt of sex with him because your subconsciousness has found that he is a new male role model in your life, a part of your family. As with all male role models you will feel pulled towards them. That is what the sex symbolizes, that you are pulled towards, and attracted to, certain parts of them. These characteristics will later be what you look for in a male partner. These dreams however do not mean that you want to have sex with this or that family member. The dream simply means this man is a male role model to you, and you want to find similar characteristics when you go looking for a man of your own.
The brother-in-law you saw in your dream is not your real brother-in-law either, but only the way YOU see him. There is something about him that makes him a role model for you, but that does not mean you are in love with him, it does not mean he is your ideal partner, and it does not mean he's even a great guy.
Now of course, your interest has been sparked. And if you genuinely harbor romantic feelings towards him thats a different case. If you are merely curious because you had that dream I suggest you let it go.
Sex in dreams does not mean you are sexually attracted to that person in real life.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Of course you haven't done anything wrong! You two aren't related by blood, so there isn't that "ewww" factor going on like there would be if you dreamed about sex with a biological sibling.
However, the law in most states puts sexual relations with your step-sibling in the column of incest, making things pretty dicey.
I would divert your sexual interest outside your family unit, because things can get really messy if you ever open that Pandora's box.
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