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writes:My question is relating to sex. I have been having issues enjoying sex and i'm not too sure why. Ever since me and my ex broke up 6 months ago I haven't been enjoying sex and have no drive to actually have sex. I had sex last night just to see whether not i'd enjoy it but I didn't. I know some answers will say maybe the other person is bad, but i've had sex with people i've had sex with before and it was good sex.I have no trouble getting hard, having an orgasm etc. but I just don't enjoy it mentally and not even as much physically. My question(s) is, is it possible that this is a result of my relationship ending? What else can this be a direct result from?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (2 March 2010):
 It is possible that it could be some subconcious dislike your mind has to sex, specifically there being another person involved. If it doesn't go away soon I would reccomend see a proffesional just to see what they have to say. The mind works in strange ways. I have heard of people recalling events close to thirty years in the past and suddenly they begin to affect their lives. I'm sorry to hear about your past.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (2 March 2010):
It is possible that it could be some subconcious dislike your mind has to sex, specifically there being another person involved. If it doesn't go away soon I would reccomend see a proffesional just to see what they have to say. The mind works in strange ways. I have heard of people recalling events close to thirty years in the past and suddenly they begin to affect their lives. I'm sorry to hear about your past.
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reader, xXRyanXx +, writes (2 March 2010):
xXRyanXx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's the thing though, I can get myself off fine and easy and I know what I enjoy in sex and what I don't. I'm a very sexual person and am extremely open with everything and it's just odd. To some extent I feel like I was traumotized by something (i've been molested/raped when I was 10...I am 20 now) but why would it manifest itself now?
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reader, The Realist +, writes (2 March 2010):
Its hard to say because you say that you know it is good sex which is the question in my mind. There may be a possibility that you may desire more then just sex like a fetish of some sort. I'm not saying anything really drastic but just something to keep your mind focused on the event going on. I reccomend trying to think of some sort of fantasy and finding someone to act it out with you then see if you enjoy the sex more.
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reader, xXRyanXx +, writes (2 March 2010):
xXRyanXx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not 100% over my ex, we went through a lot after we broke up and just ended contact a few days ago which is why I think that's a contributing factor. I can understand lastnight being unsatisfying due to my mind set but all other times leading to this have also been unsatisfying without that mind set. I have always been the person to only have sex with someone I love or at the VERY least am in a relationship with until this relationship ended I have been on a slight sexual spree I guess you can call it. I also am not exactly what you call emotionally stable but haven't been for quite a long time so I don't see that taking effect in my sex life now.....thoughts?
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reader, The Realist +, writes (1 March 2010):
I think that it is definitly something in your head causing this. When something makes you sad anything you found pleasurable in the past could lose that feeling. It will return eventually, probably when you have sex with a new girl who you love it will be much better. Take time to get your head through this and everything will work out in the end.
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