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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Am I fit for marriage? My anxiety over my penis size is worrying me. Don't want my bride disappointed in me.
Q. Friends, Need a suggestion from you friends, Im from India aged 28 and getting married to a girl who is 26 in 2 months. From the date of my engagement im worried about my length of my penis, When erect its 5.2 to 5.5 inch. When i measure from...
A. 9 May 2015: I am guessing many Indian women lie about the impotence issue just so they could get away from the arranged marriage and from men they don't really fancy. Maybe they secretly go on birth control then blame the men who can't make them pregnant.
I... (read in full...)
I end it but then take him back. I'm tired of playing this game!
Q. I am living a very unhealthy relationship, i have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, he is with me but he is not! he is here but he is not ! Our relationship was great during the first 8 months, but since 3 months he became another person! ...
A. 9 May 2015: It might not be a game he's consciously playing, like he's the puppet master pulling the marionette strings. He's just gotten lazy. His actions tell you that he can only be committed when there is a chase. Maybe he doesn't have a clue that women ... (read in full...)
How do I step out of my S and M past and into a vanilla engagement with the woman I love?
Q. So the problem is I'm trying to change my whole way of life for this woman I'm in love with. She's everything I could ever ask for but she's nothing like my old life. Before I started dating, let's call her X, before I started dating X i was in a...
A. 9 May 2015: If your girlfriend is not affectionate and emotionally detached, is she even able to enjoy vanilla sex? Seems like she's a challenge to you.
Uh no, for some people BDSM is not self serving. There are women who genuinely enjoys being subm... (read in full...)
Am I too young for the girl I think I love
Q. Basically I'm a teenage lad, and I don't want people to just brush this off because I'm so young. I've recently broken up with my girlfriend of 2 years, because I cheated, for the SECOND time. We first started dating and everything was fine, about 9 ...
A. 9 May 2015: You love her in your own way, but you love living "the life" more. You can't have it both ways. You said you could get her back by stopping the going out, then you can't guarantee if you could quit permanently for the relationship's sake. Never use ... (read in full...)
If we can't be honest then why are we dating?
Q. So I have been seeing this guy for a few months and things are okay. He seems to do more with his friends then with me. We won't talk or text for a full day then out of the blue he'll text me and want to hang out. We'll hang out then he'll casually ...
A. 8 May 2015: I am not sure if he's lying because he could have been doing both, movies and haircut. I would end it because there is not enough interest on his part. A few months of just hanging out surely isn't satisfying. As to how you should go about this, ... (read in full...)
I hated my job so I quit and now my husband is very unhappy with me
Q. hello everyone , it's been a while since I have been here.... I have got married recently and I was so happy to finally find the man of my dreams ... but couples' real life is a entire different thing that what I've expected... We have money diffi...
A. 8 May 2015: Most people are working a job that's below them. Believe it or not, your appearance and attitude affects the whole workplace. If you look like you hate your job, and that you are better than them then your coworkers would not want to see you there. ... (read in full...)
I think my Father is making a huge mistake! There is red flag after red flag with her!
Q. My Father is making a huge mistake. My Mom died over 12yrs ago and my Father has remained single for the most part. He is now in his 70's and met a woman 30 yrs younger. She is actually only a few months younger than my oldest brother. I ...
A. 6 May 2015: What if your dad doesn't mind being a sugar daddy? As long as he enjoys feeling young and wanted, he feels spending money is worth it. He feels life is too short to worry about divorce. You know the allure of feeling young and alive again? I've ... (read in full...)
Should my Mom and I continue to share the same boyfriend?
Q. My mom A fell pregnant at 15 and dropped out of school. She later completed her matric and qualified as a nurse. While my mother was studying my grandparents cared for me. My mother did not neglect me but regretted that she could not give me all ...
A. 6 May 2015: If the three of you were to be shipped off to an island, then yes you can continue sharing for as long as you want. We live in societies with rules and appropriate manners to follow. What you are doing is frowned upon and I bet the only people you ... (read in full...)
I believe in him, but is this level of jealousy healthy?
Q. So, can someone let me know whats really going on in my relationship? Long story short, my boyfriend and I came from one job we were working together to a new company. I got hired first, my bf started complaining that I get things easy, although...
A. 6 May 2015: We all get jealous at some points in our lives but when a girlfriend's the smarter one, it's hard to deal with. It's emasculating. I don't think your boyfriend shines through in this field of work. His talent is better used for something else but it ... (read in full...)
Could we be together again? Does she really want to just stay friends after all that's happened?
Q. Hello Everyone I'm coming to you for some help on if there's any hope for me and the girl I'm in love with. To try and make a long story short about a year ago I was engaged and that girl ended up leaving me, I bottled those emotions up which ...
A. 6 May 2015: Usually, no, when people got their heart broken they are less likely to try again. You hope the space you are giving her is for her to miss you and try to understand where that emotional block is coming from. I am afraid during this time she is ... (read in full...)
Initial start went well. Since Thursday it's all come to a full stop. Any advice of why this could be?
Q. I started talking to someone and we have a lot in common. We decided to meet up to see if we like each other in person. It went great we instantly gelled, few hugs and we even held hands. She even said she really likes me. She's going through so...
A. 5 May 2015: I am guessing the only issue that stops her from talking to you is that she's still hung up on her ex, or she's not really single as you think. Or she could be more specific about what issues they are, such as family so you don't have to guess and ... (read in full...)
Despite my initial good feelings about him: should I just cut my losses and move on, or actually try to make him reconsider?
Q. Three weeks ago, I met a man on an online dating site. We have a very strong connection and started dating, even though we live an hour and a half from each other. For the first time I actually felt really comfortable around a man, and let down my ...
A. 5 May 2015: I believe you, that you and your ex are platonic but your date thought you had something to hide when you first agreed that it would be a problem then backtracked and said your ex was important to you. It made it sound like you like him more than ... (read in full...)
How else could I have handled this situation? Am I wrong to be upset at his behaviour?
Q. I met my husband and child at a restaurant (took separate cars due to a reason) I parked my car then got out and looked around to see where they were. I waited for a while then called him asking where they were. He tells me they are inside t...
A. 5 May 2015: It depends on how young the child is. There are kids who can't wait for food, get fidgety. Parents get irritated. Maybe that's why he ordered food without you. He might also be blaming you for not being able to get there fast, that he had to deal ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has discovered the nasty things I said about him during our brief break up
Q. Hey there I broke up with my bf 3 weeks ago, our relationship lasted for nearly a year. i was so angry, broken , mad and sad. there was no reason for the broke up , i don't know why he dumped me , he just said that i lost my interest in you ...
A. 4 May 2015: I don't think getting back together would do any good. You would never get over the hurt that he did to you, and he would never forget what you said behind his back. If you never confront what's the truth, then the doubts would always creep in. Many ... (read in full...)
I've repeatedly asked him whether he wants to break up but he says he doesn't. Yet he's cold to me and unaffectionate.
Q. I'm 31. I met my present fiancé about four years ago and we've been in a committed long distance relationship. He's 48 and twice divorced previously. We've always got along well. Needless to say, I love him very deeply. Over the past three weeks...
A. 4 May 2015: He doesn't want to break up, that means he wants to keep you at a distance but still meet up with you whenever he's lonely. Because you are engaged you can't play that "just enjoy each other while you can" game. You expect a certain date for ... (read in full...)
Does he love me or is staying married taking the easy way out?
Q. My husband and I seperated mainly due to growing apart over the years. We were more like buddies and although we had a solid sex life , he was always using porn behind my back when we had agreed this would not be part of relationship and he would ...
A. 3 May 2015: If you were honest with him and tell him, you want to get back to him because there is no one better and you are getting old, that's not a romantic, passionate thing to say either.
You are waiting for him to work his way up to convince you to move... (read in full...)
Am I fit for marriage? My anxiety over my penis size is worrying me. Don't want my bride disappointed in me.
Q. Friends, Need a suggestion from you friends, Im from India aged 28 and getting married to a girl who is 26 in 2 months. From the date of my engagement im worried about my length of my penis, When erect its 5.2 to 5.5 inch. When i measure from...
A. 3 May 2015: I doubt she would be concerned, if she is then tell her you are a grower not a shower. My husband just put his shorts back on when he is flaccid even when I tell him it's not necessary. ... (read in full...)
Did he use me? Is he just selfish? Was it reasonable to expect him to pay his share?
Q. I just wanted to get an outsider's perspective on the kind of situation that my boyfriend and I found ourselves in. My boyfriend and I decided to move in together. I know, it was a super immature decision because we didn't sit down and talk finances...
A. 2 May 2015: He used you and is selfish. You did ask him to pay half. Also rent is not something that has to be talked about. It's common sense that when you share space you both pay. Only people with no conscience would think of moving in then think of excuses ... (read in full...)
What does he want exactly?
Q. I dated one guy for about three months. He doesn't live in the same country as I do but we meet regularly when he's back (he comes back very regularly). He really liked me for a year and kept trying to talk to me all the time and didn't stop asking ...
A. 2 May 2015: Following up from the last post, nothing had changed. He wants some cheap attention so he doesn't feel so lonely. He needs you more than you need him. You would think, if he doesn't like you, always get irritated by you, then why would he still want ... (read in full...)
Am I fit for marriage? My anxiety over my penis size is worrying me. Don't want my bride disappointed in me.
Q. Friends, Need a suggestion from you friends, Im from India aged 28 and getting married to a girl who is 26 in 2 months. From the date of my engagement im worried about my length of my penis, When erect its 5.2 to 5.5 inch. When i measure from...
A. 2 May 2015: You have an average sized penis. You are insecure over nothing. What do you mean you are not fit for marriage? You think only men with 9 inches can feel normal and confident as a husband? I guess there are vain men out there who feels if the women's ... (read in full...)
Dating a young guy but I don't see this is going to work out
Q. Hey, I'm living in weird relationship and I can't end it! The fair of being lonely again is stopping me! My partner is someone younger that me in 11 years ! I'm 31 he is 20 The age would not be an issue for me if he was older , as my ex was 1...
A. 2 May 2015: It depends on your long term goals. If you want to get married within a few years and have children this guy isn't it. Also if family and connections are important to you and you need to share everything to them, then move on. But if you want some ... (read in full...)
There are times I feel like he lacks the curiosity to understand me
Q. Is he just not understanding my love wants? Or am I not understanding what good boundaries are? My love language is Quality Time and Acts of Service. I don't know my boyfriend's, he hasn't taken the test or told me if he already knows. So I do f...
A. 2 May 2015: Are you feeling he lacks the curiosity because he didn't take the love language test, and failed to sense that you were hurt when he told you to stop tickling him, or understand that after a sad time in your life, your desire to be playful is to ... (read in full...)
I'm concered with my husband's parenting style
Q. My husband and I have very different ways of parenting. We are both relatively young and have not been blessed with much patience. We have a 3 year old daughter who is pretty hyper and defiant but I guess thats pretty normal for a child her age. ...
A. 2 May 2015: Your husband and your daughter would be okay, even though his logic didn't make sense when he said she wouldn't hug him because you baby him. She didn't hug him because he seemed to be angry! The importance is not to emphasize who is right or who is ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my trust issues will eventually harm the relationship
Q. I love my boyfriend of 3 years and while we've had our ups and downs, we have really gotten to a good place. He is much more open and affectionate with me and I am more calm around him and this has befitted the relationship hugely. We will get marr...
A. 2 May 2015: It's a viscous cycle of fearing he would cheat then worrying your paranoia would drive him away. Your boyfriend understands you have this condition so he's probably used to it and won't react so much whenever you have doubts. As long as you don't ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, did I do the right thing?
Q. I'll make this has short has possible. Me and my bf have been together for 6 years, we've had our problems, broken up a few times but managed to get back together to make things work because we love each other. I just broken up with him again ...
A. 2 May 2015: I think the answer lies in why you mostly don't want to have sex when he wants it. It's stupid to break up due to arguments about sex but it is just as stupid to stay in the relationship that doesn't work. Breaking up many times without resolving ... (read in full...)
How can my husband and I learn to stand up to his interfering parents? Currently my husband always defers to them.
Q. I am thirty seven married with two kids we live beside my in-laws. Lately I have started to seriously resent my husband because he is allowing his parents dictate his life and our children's life. They compare him and our kids to the other thirteen...
A. 2 May 2015: Your father in law can't do more than sounding pushy. If he continues to be mean then you can use this as a reason for not wanting him to mind your children. If that's the tone he uses with you, tell him your kids will be scared of him so no thanks, ... (read in full...)
Is it the kisses, where his breath is not so good? Or have I lost my libido? Or is it time to break-up?
Q. I've been with my bf for 5years now and i find kissing him totally disgusting. We used to make out all the time and i thoroughly enjoyed it but not anymore. I only find it cute on tv or reading about it but for us to do it i think about his not ...
A. 2 May 2015: I think losing weight quickly could affect your libido. I believe there could be a personality change too since you are getting rid of toxins and your cells are quickly replaced by new ones. Diet can play a role too. If you skip fats, even the good ... (read in full...)
We had a casual thing between us about 4 years ago. Why would she ignore me now?
Q. Ok, so me and this girl used to have a casual thing going about 4 years ago. We were both single then. Since then i've married someone else. We've stayed in touch and met up a few times. On a couple of occasions we have slept together which s...
A. 1 May 2015: If you concealed the fact that you had a girlfriend then had sex with her, then you were wrong. If both of you had an understanding that it was casual, it wouldn't have been leading her on. If you said a line anything like, "let's see where it goes. ... (read in full...)
My concern is that he's rather stingy and that after almost 2 years he's not ready for being together in person. Advice?
Q. I've been in a Long Distance Relationship for almost two years. My boyfriend is a six hour flight away and I fly to see him once a month, duration of stay is 4-7 days each visit. During the time that we've been together, he has only visited three ...
A. 30 April 2015: He's not stingy. He is a scrub. The thing that bothers me most is that he asked you for 20K when he only needed 8K. So that was to see how naive you could be. If you don't question him, don't ask for receipts, that 20k could easily he his, all ... (read in full...)
What can I do legally to get her to stop with all the crap shes doing so we can live our lives?
Q. Good day all... Here is the time for all you that give great advice to read my situation and give me advice on what I should do about it. I have been with my fiancé for almost 3 years now. Within a couple months of our relationship he ...
A. 30 April 2015: I would not get married to him and gradually withdraw as the mother figure. What has your fiance do, besides sleep with her? He could have turned his phone off at night. He could have set it straight with his kids that he's really the father. Your ... (read in full...)
What are your opinions and reasonings on when sex should occur?
Q. After a while of not having sex, I recently did, with a guy who I met a couple of hours earlier. It's not something I do often, it actually takes me a while to start liking a guy enough to want to hook up, but on my opinion if I find someone I like ...
A. 30 April 2015: Your thinking is correct, but I don't mind waiting until date three. That's the day when people think it's safe. By that time I already know if we both have serious intent. On the first date I am curious about the person and the horniness hasn't ... (read in full...)
Why does every girl just want to be friends? I don't get past date three. And now this girl'stopped texting me !
Q. so this girl was a regular customer at my store, and we had so much in common. (How many girls love giant monster and horror movies lol) and we started hanging out, nothing serious at all. We would watch cartoons together over Skype and text all the ...
A. 30 April 2015: Don't become friends with girls. Find out if they are single, ready and available then date them. Keep dating until you find a good match. There is no point in liking someone who can't like you back. The time you spend on prolonging a futile ... (read in full...)
She is on my mind all the time. Should I tell her or hold in my emotions?
Q. This has been on my mind for a while now. It happened a few days ago, but I am not sure where to progress. This is a long story, so bear with me. So here it is: A few nights ago, a large group mixed with work friends and others who I did not kno...
A. 30 April 2015: I suppose it was a farewell party amongst the coworkers. I had been depressed before. One of the symptoms was recurrent, obsessive thoughts. Sometimes music that played in my mind in loops, for hours.
When you tell people you think about them all ... (read in full...)
He's younger and broke!
Q. Hey, I'm 25 years old and I am currently in grad school. I met this guy a year ago, because he worked at the restaurant across from my job and he delivered my food. We also have a mutual friend. We never talked then because he had a gir...
A. 30 April 2015: If you agree to generously pay then you have to get over the mental conflict that he's using you. He's saying the appropriate thing that girls shouldn't pay but if you offered he won't decline, but also hoping you won't resent him. It seems you are ... (read in full...)
Online dating is making me a nervous wreck!
Q. I joined an online dating site and have gotten a few messages. Most of them are "hi" or "hey", not never interesting in my opinion. But, I came across someone with an awesome profile, seemed just as outgoing as me, VERY attractive, so I said "why ...
A. 30 April 2015: The online world makes you feel exposed. It's normal to feel nervous because you are looking at them as real people, with real feelings. That's a good thing. People who are experienced with online dating become numb and desensitized. It becomes a ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with this breakup?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years finished with me and is now in a relationship with another woman just 2 weeks later. I am in pieces. I cant eat I cant sleep I cant even go to work. We had a row and split but I thought we would work things out. But this time ...
A. 30 April 2015: Your son needs you so your priority is to get your life back on track. This is the second time around that he's dated single moms. So maybe it's not you he doesn't want, it's that he does not want to commit to one woman for long. So it doesn't ... (read in full...)
How can I fix this where I can just make love with my husband and not have to do the toy thing every time
Q. Don't know if I'm not what he wants any more or what??? OK I've been with my husband for going on 10 years we have a great sex life I would like to think. I'm very open minded an very understanding but I just got a question is he into something I...
A. 30 April 2015: It's clear that you got annoyed by having to stuff a toy in his butt every single time. Maybe it's the ick factor that turned you off. If you don't say anything he's going to assume that you are happy to please him and make him happy. As to his ... (read in full...)
Would my ex FWB consider a relationship with me now?
Q. I'm pretty good friends with my ex fwb. We were fwb for about 18 months but we've been just friends for the last year. I had a boyfriend which is the reason the benefits ended, but we stayed in touch. This friend has always been really helpful t...
A. 30 April 2015: So when you had your last boyfriend was your life still messy? If your friend were to ask you, why didn't you consider him as a boyfriend what would you say? Why couldn't you have dated him instead and transform your life with him at the same time? ... (read in full...)
If I really am the woman he is in love with and plans to be with for the rest of his life why has he made getting married so difficult?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years going on 3. We have two babies and are pretty serious about eachother. The only problem is that we seem to have completely different views about marriage. I want to get married desperately. Every inch of my ...
A. 29 April 2015: How financially tough are you guys? So tough that he can't afford $100 at the city hall and maybe some more for the witness?
I think you made the problem to be yourself, or the love, but in reality many men don't propose because they don't beli... (read in full...)
He's ''not sure about our relationship''?? Is this a temporary natural phase in a relationship? Or is it likely to be permanent?
Q. I've been in a wonderful relationship for over two and a half years now, and I thought everything was alright until last year. My partner said he wasn't sure about this relationship, so I gave him some space, and he eventually decided that he want...
A. 28 April 2015: For some it is temporary, and for others it's a way to let go slowly. No couple is ever the same and each has different reasons for staying or going. People also respond to a temporary break in different ways. It could be a time to reflect and to ... (read in full...)
How can people get STD if both are 100% faithful? Can a STD be inherited from a mother? Not sure how STDs work after hearing things from fellow classmates.
Q. Hello dear all and thank you in advance for taking your time for reading this. I am currently 21 years old and in a 4.5 year, heterosexual relationship with my first and only sexual partner, whom is 20 years himself. As on both accounts: we we...
A. 28 April 2015: You can get oral herpes (simplex 1) that's inherited from your parents. If you have cold sores on your lips and do oral sex with your partner, he could get genital herpes (simplex 2). Herpes is not routinely tested on the STD panel. The only way to ... (read in full...)
Is the spark going from our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together over a year now, and it is definately the best relationship i've ever been in. We started off as friends and it grew into more. My boyfriend has always seemed a bit shy in bed - he has a condition called ...
A. 27 April 2015: I don't know about phimosis but maybe sex hurts him? Also if his ex girlfriend left him because of this condition then sex would be the last thing he's going to appreciate in life. It is up to him to find treatment. His problem won't go away by ... (read in full...)
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