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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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How can I set some boundaries for my boyfriend without him getting angry?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and I wondering where is our relationship is at right now. We have been fighting for awhile and we sometimes said thing to each other that we either mean or don't mean.today he ask me if he want ...
A. 14 April 2015: He is talking from the little head down there. He won't be angry because you say not to him, but because you said yes then fell asleep. It made him feel like you were disinterested and bored with his penis.
When I was 16, I had no interest in seei... (read in full...)
Will I ever meet Mr. Right or will I be single forever?
Q. Dear cupid, I've been single for three years now and I never have time to go out and meet anyone. I have four kids but I'm lonely . I just want to meet a nice guy that I can go out with like to the movies,or out to eat or the mall. Will I ever meet ...
A. 14 April 2015: With 4 kids I am afraid time will be very limited. If they go to sleep at 9 maybe you can catch a late night movie but I don't know about eating and going shopping. Is your mom able to help you with babysitting? I understand why you would connect ... (read in full...)
Why is it so difficult to meet women on a dating site?
Q. My name is Ryan and I'm wondering why it's so difficult for me to meet a woman from a dating site. I know they are being very careful cause of not knowing me well enough still I don't understand why so many of them are like that Another question I ha...
A. 14 April 2015: I didn't go into a dating site with fear and caution, and I don't think many women are. I ignore certain messages asking how I am and how my day was. I would check into their profiles and determine whether I am interested. If I answered every single ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling with jealousy in my FWB!
Q. Hi everyone, Thanks for taking the time to read my question. Basically, my issue is to do with jealousy. At the moment I'm in a FWB with a girl, we've been on this arrangement for about 7 months. Through this time we've had a few bad pat...
A. 13 April 2015: FWBs mean you don't have to argue? Five years ago I was in one and we attempted a real relationship. We had gone through shut down periods like you did. Maybe you feel like you can't argue in FWBs but if you felt like that was necessary it would ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling with jealousy in my FWB!
Q. Hi everyone, Thanks for taking the time to read my question. Basically, my issue is to do with jealousy. At the moment I'm in a FWB with a girl, we've been on this arrangement for about 7 months. Through this time we've had a few bad pat...
A. 13 April 2015: People can get jealous even if they are not together. You are attached to her, but as far as feelings you need to have a deep respect for that person. Which I don't think you do with this girl. I guess what you have is territorial feelings, the ... (read in full...)
Do you struggle with people's scathing comments daily, if it offends you like this & how you deal with it?
Q. I've recently rescued a beautiful dog. My very first dog, who I love dearly. Having a dog, I've been out socialising more at the local dog playgroup. I thought this would not only be a great way to socialise my boy, but also an ideal chance to meet ...
A. 13 April 2015: You may think a dog group is a place you feel warmth and share common interests but in reality it's just people being guarded and snobby. I do struggle with this because it's not just dog group but everywhere. It happens to newcomers especially and ... (read in full...)
How do we continue to enjoy ourselves despite the language obstacle?
Q. As most of them go, I met him online. He's a German intern only around until June and this works fine for me as I was not looking for anything too long term either. However, I have little knowledge of German, and only speak English and Xhosa. He is ...
A. 13 April 2015: Based on what you write here, I think you can communicate fine in English. For a two month connection, you are overthinking this. Just because someone has to make an effort to speak in a foreign language doesn't mean he is not enjoying time with ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me to pack up and go since we have been arguing so much. How do I show her I want to stick around?
Q. So my girlfriend and I are having twins together and her and I are both excited. She has two kids already from a previous relationship and their dad isn't around and so I've pretty much have been dad and I love her kids to pieces and they love me ...
A. 13 April 2015: It takes two to argue. Must it be you who have to move out? I will give you credit here because you are taking care of the other kids who aren't yours. It takes a generous heart to do this so I would feel she's a bit ungrateful for her to keep on ... (read in full...)
I'm confused and feeling guilty but think I need to end my marriage to my gambling husband
Q. I feel so confused and riddled with guilt. I am married to someone I've been with for nearly 4 years. I do love and care about him very much. However a few days ago I told him I didn't want to be with him anymore because I'm not inlove with him...
A. 13 April 2015: You did not fail your marriage. He did. You did not cause him to get angry, to gamble and to party a lot. If your family can't see that and you can't explain what you wrote here and have them understand, then you don't really have a family. You have ... (read in full...)
I've ruined my chances with a guy I really like, don't know what to do?
Q. Hello. There has been this guy I was seeing for two months, and I invited him to a birthday get to together, he was very excited to come and spoke about it regularly. The night before, he said he doesn't think it's going to work because I'm very ...
A. 12 April 2015: You simply don't like each other. He is far too angry in general for dating. Your insecurity might have turned him off but his response to you showed that he had issues with the past and now he found an outlet to be nasty to you. If you are unsure ... (read in full...)
I feel my boyfriend has just given up on getting a job and I'm tired of paying for everything!
Q. My boyfriend is very on and off with jobs but now it's gotten to a point where he is unable to take me out anymore. When i first met him he was working hard at two jobs. He moved to an area where it is very isolated, no bus and he had no car. We ...
A. 12 April 2015: That's even worse. With no rent to pay where did his money go to, that he couldn't afford his phone bill?... (read in full...)
I want him to be able to pay for himself!
Q. Hey everyone.....I have known my boyfriend for almost two years and we've been dating for seven months. I love him and I know he loves me too. We've decided to get married next year. Here is a little background. We both have degrees from the univ...
A. 12 April 2015: I would not think about marriage and kids until he pays off the loan. It's not a guarantee that a medical degree would make him a doctor. You said you want to go into master's school so is that a full scholarship program or do you pay for it? I ... (read in full...)
I feel my boyfriend has just given up on getting a job and I'm tired of paying for everything!
Q. My boyfriend is very on and off with jobs but now it's gotten to a point where he is unable to take me out anymore. When i first met him he was working hard at two jobs. He moved to an area where it is very isolated, no bus and he had no car. We ...
A. 12 April 2015: He doesn't have good money managing skills so even if you help him he would be behind in bills. Lack of transportation can be depressing but he should have thought about that before he moved into that place. He thought by moving out of his parents, ... (read in full...)
Is this just a good friendship? Or is she flirting?
Q. Okay, I really don't know what to think about this, like at all. My best friend, let's just call her Katy, I've been crushing on. I think she may like me too, but I don't know exactly. A few nights ago, her and my other friend "Kelley" invited me ...
A. 12 April 2015: It's flirting. If the dream was real it could mean she had been thinking of you a lot lately. It could be made up too. Either way it's a hint that you and her should watch a horror movie together. Friends don't cuddle. You have to make sure you both ... (read in full...)
I'm confused and upset over my ex and how to treat the situation! I'm only young but I was with my ex for a year and a half and it was a pretty intense and loving relationship.
Q. Ok so I'm confused and upset over my ex and how to treat the situation! I'm only young but I was with my ex for a year and a half and it was a pretty intense and loving relationship, in which we spent a lot of time together. During our relationship ...
A. 11 April 2015: I have seen cheating in a few cases where people don't like others seeing them in a weak situation, be it mental illness or drama at home, so an affair with another was to refresh their outlook on life, as an escape or to forge onto a new path when ... (read in full...)
Why is it worse for a man to be bitter and resentful than it is for a woman?
Q. If a man is bitter, resentful, is filled with feelings of bitterness, resentment, no woman will want him, but a man is generally more forgiving if a woman is feeling bitter, resentful, why is this? Why are guys expected to always, or almos...
A. 11 April 2015: Judging from your user name I am guessing you are a lone gamer and are afraid to go out and meet women. Men and women may be bitter about different things. You may be asking this from a position of wondering why it's so hard for you to get a ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for us to move in together?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years We are both is our 40s .. We both live in our parents house to save money .. He is divorced with two children. He pays for everything in his parents house and also pays for almost everything for his ...
A. 10 April 2015: He's not going to say, wait until both of our parents die. Although this is what many people think. In front of you they would say they wish in laws live a long life but secretly they feel life is more convenient without them there. Maybe if he ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to know if she enjoyed it and if he wore a condom?
Q. I have a 27 year old girlfriend of 3 years and we have recently been having some issues in regards to spending time together. She has been spending a lot of time with a co-worker (going out, going to his place but just as friends as she claims). ...
A. 9 April 2015: She didn't want to say no and make you angry so she said "I think so." If she really wasn't sure maybe she drank too much. You are not wrong to ask about protection and also if she enjoyed it. You have to protect yourself from STDs. Getting true ... (read in full...)
Confused, in love, but stuck! Please help!
Q. Any advice would be great please.. So the thing is, I'm 24 now and this all started many moons ago when i was 10. I've always been mad after this lad I've been close to, I literally fell head over heels with him. We have always been on off where we ...
A. 9 April 2015: I don't know what your family and friends are seeing that made them say it's obvious he loves you. When you love somebody you don't call her future girlfriend. If there is a reason why he can't be in a relationship I would guess he has to work hard ... (read in full...)
I've fallen deeply for a man I haven't met yet!
Q. I need to ask for advice about something very special and a very complicated situation. Two years ago I got divorced and after had been enduring a very tough relationship. I always knew I would eventually move on and find someone who would deserve ...
A. 9 April 2015: One thing very important is, do you share his political views? You once disagreed on something he wrote. He's too humanitarian for you. His focus in life is uplifting the human condition, and romance comes second. Even if he has children with you, ... (read in full...)
Why do I have to bring such effort into forcing my ex to take responsibily re child support ?
Q. My child's father has sort of, abandoned responsibility. I have filed for child support, but a part of me just wants to close the case because it's already been more of a hassle than anything. It's been such a mess that I feel like it takes away...
A. 9 April 2015: For me, the grunge work, the paperwork I could deal with. It's all step by step and patient waiting. What would shock me is how I got involved with someone who only cares about himself. Where is the love? How can you create a life then ignore it? On ... (read in full...)
He's wonderful, yet I feel like he's not the one for me. What do I do?
Q. I have the most loving, attentive, handsome, and caring man I could ever ask for. And yet I feel like he's not the one for me. We've been together for two plus years and I love him so much. But when I think about going further in the ...
A. 9 April 2015: I am not a family person as I have no concept of it but out of love, I would do family gatherings with a man I love so I feel he must be very stubborn, probably about other things too. If your version of love requires someone to care about your ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my husband's infatuation and his need to talk, all the time, about a girl he works with?
Q. I am so frustrated with my husband! We have been married ten years but together for 15. I thought things were really good we have a child both have good jobs and holidays. Right now we are on a family holiday. My husband keeps bringing a girl up ...
A. 9 April 2015: Tell him you need quality family time and by that it means it's the family against the world. Like there's only three of you and that's all you need. You want his mind, and body present with you. Your husband may not be fully aware that he has an ... (read in full...)
What are the steps to getting back out there and overcoming my fears?
Q. dear cupid i have been single for a number of years now 4 to exact. i haven't been on a date or kissed a guy in four years either. my last relationship was very controlling and when we spilt my daughter and i moved back home with my parents....
A. 7 April 2015: Most of the time guys who walk up to me and chat with me are creepy types, and mostly taken people or others I am not interested in. People who hang out in community centres are usually in families already. Bars are places for hookups. So besides ... (read in full...)
After me being madly in love with him for years, he wants FWB!
Q. Soooooooo after 5 five years being maddly "in love" with a friend who always blew me away, he finally decided to tell me about his feelings and, he want to be friends with benefits , and idk i like him IN THAT WAY but i also want him in other way ...
A. 7 April 2015: I will answer on behalf of male nonny. She is good enough for sex but not for dating, so it feels disgusting to be attached to a slut. A slut's purpose is to get a man off then get lost and drop off the face of the earth. Best to get out as fast as ... (read in full...)
I think that I might be in love with my best friend but he is ugly and I have no idea if he likes me like that!
Q. I think (80%) that i'm in love with my best friend (boy) but he is ugly and i admit that. Beside that fact that his face is full of pimples, he has elephant ears, a very long face and he is like 10 15/64 inch (26 cm) taller than me, he is funny and ...
A. 7 April 2015: African black soap (dudu osun) is good for pimples while gentle on skin. If he has a long face and elephant ears then a flattering hair style is long and layered. You are attached to him but I don't think you can call someone ugly when you are in ... (read in full...)
Do I need to stop believing?
Q. Hi, I'm the kind of woman that stands for her own. I'm 29 years old, I'm a doctor with a nice monthly income, I own my own apartment and car, I'm intelligent and thankfully good looking. My question is why I can't attract an understanding man? I'm...
A. 7 April 2015: Italy's fertility rate is like what? 1.4 per couple? And you wonder why it's so hard to find a man for marriage and kids? People no longer get into relationships to create families. They hope to fall in love, and if everything is still in place ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue something and stop overthinking, or am I being realistic?
Q. My best friend has this close friend, and hes really good looking and sweet and I've known him for a little while now. He is desired by most of the girls I know and once even my friend, however now hes admitted to liking me. But i don't know what to ...
A. 6 April 2015: You should be realistic because the odds are stacked against him being able to give you happiness. He's known to have cheated. He lives far away and he may not be over his ex. If you can cheat one someone your feelings can't be that deep, but that ... (read in full...)
No matter how hard I try, I will never be as attractive to him as younger women!
Q. My husband seems quite disinterested in sex with me. When I say that, I mean that he seems pretty unexcited by me even though we have regular sex . I try spicing it up with lingerie and new ideas . I've tried everything but despite the fact we hAce ...
A. 6 April 2015: I assume everything else is good in the marriage and you don't argue about anything else. Stopping his porn use is half of the problem. Men and women are not so different from each other when it comes to sexual attraction. I bet you were not as ... (read in full...)
After me being madly in love with him for years, he wants FWB!
Q. Soooooooo after 5 five years being maddly "in love" with a friend who always blew me away, he finally decided to tell me about his feelings and, he want to be friends with benefits , and idk i like him IN THAT WAY but i also want him in other way ...
A. 6 April 2015: If society is no longer double standard about sex, then girls won't be labelled sluts. There is no deletorious effect for a boy to try out a love relationship. Unless that girl is a gold digger and just after free meals. In many cultures, a girl is ... (read in full...)
Text overload and being clingy may have scared him off!
Q. Hi there, I am looking for some honest advice and interested in hearing views from men as well, if possible. Basically, if a guy really genuinely likes a woman and is 'into her', during the early dating stages and she freaks him out with text ov...
A. 6 April 2015: You see, some men are only interested in "early dating stages" that go nowhere. When you first date it's best to ask what his intentions are. That's especially true if you live in different cities. If he doesn't say anything near long term, then you ... (read in full...)
No contact or contact? I want to feel indifferent. I want to get over him. But is it normal to still want to be friends? Or not?
Q. My ex contacted me after a long time. He was the most serious relationship I have had and although I have moved on with my life, I have not found someone else yet. He has moved on and has a new long term girlfriend. We split because I felt h...
A. 6 April 2015: Be indifferent then. Whatever happens with his new girlfriend shouldn't bother you. Don't see him because you are curious if his new girlfriend is getting the better treatment. Don't see him to get an answer whether he is using the possession as an ... (read in full...)
Should I ditch my current relationship and try being single again? Could this new guy be problem free for me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and we have began fighting quiet regularly over almost anything. This has made the relationship difficult, and we both have been debating going our separate ways. In the past four months a guy from work ...
A. 6 April 2015: The guy at work is only interested in sex. It is not an appropriate topic for coffee. A cafe is a place for light conversations. A guy who has the potential to take care of you emotionally would not go straight into the topic of sex. You should end ... (read in full...)
Am I just wasting my time hoping for a long term relationship or should I give him the space to figure out what he wants?
Q. I met a guy, who is new in the city 4 weeks ago through a dating site. He is 44 and divorced in another country nearly a year ago. On date one he told me that he wants a chance to date and meet women, but that he does not rule out a long term ...
A. 5 April 2015: WIth the whole online dating thing, I would only put my heart into a guy who says he's looking for long term, and not just say not ruling out long term as a possibility. With wishy washy guys you need a lot of work convincing him and at the end he ... (read in full...)
Is there any positions that will help me to please him and increase the amount of him that I can feel?
Q. Hi, I have started seeing a guy with a very small penis. I love being around him and love being intimate and don't mind the size but unless I am on top he seems to go soft or fall out often. I would really love to have great sex with him,...
A. 5 April 2015: Being wet and open is part of the problem. Maybe sometimes you can have sex when you are not so aroused. You can feel more of him when you are in the jackhammer position. I won't go overboard with suggestions and changes though because he will feel ... (read in full...)
After me being madly in love with him for years, he wants FWB!
Q. Soooooooo after 5 five years being maddly "in love" with a friend who always blew me away, he finally decided to tell me about his feelings and, he want to be friends with benefits , and idk i like him IN THAT WAY but i also want him in other way ...
A. 5 April 2015: Women friendzone men whom they are not attracted to. If a woman makes it obvious that she is not attracted to you, offering them emotional needs would not lead to a relationship. Women want both sexual attraction and their emotional needs met, but ... (read in full...)
Is it just a teen thing? I prefer girls. I like girls. So why have I been having fantasies about guys lately?
Q. Hello everyone! Just got a question about my sexual orientation, and the fact that I fear myself! I'm 15 years old, and like women. I'm straight. At least, I think I am. I have often (increasingly recent) been having sexual fantasies with men...
A. 5 April 2015: Some people go through a bicurious phase in teenage while for others their bisexual tendencies continue well into adulthood. If the male fantasies come from porn it is not as convincing as if you are crushing on a male figure in real life and doing ... (read in full...)
What are the signs a guy may give when he likes a girl or is starting to get feelings for a girl?
Q. hi! I like a guy from my college. He has got to know that I like him from someone. He doesn't have any idea that I also know he has information about me liking him. So whenever we come across each other he looks at me from far and every time when ...
A. 5 April 2015: You can't develop feelings from looking at people. It's very common to like the face of someone because it's pleasant to look at. It invites more glances because you are curious about them. That doesn't mean people suddenly start dating because of ... (read in full...)
How can I improve our sex life? My wife does not like to try new or different things. She is a plus size too
Q. MODNOTE: for those in other countries here is a size conversion link ADDED to this post by a Moderator http://www.usatourist.com/english/traveltips/shopping/shopping-womens-sizes.html ---------------------------------------- How do i make sex with ...
A. 5 April 2015: I thought "boys need a little more booty to hold at night". Does size 18 automatically mean sex sucks? Does she not enjoy sex itself because of body image issues? It depends on what new things you are talking about. If she can't enjoy sex because of ... (read in full...)
My mother is NOT a positive person!
Q. I came here because right now i dont have anybody to talk to. Im typing in tearz. .my heart broken. .my soul weak. I wish i had a good relationship with my mother. We argued again today. She thinks i hate her but little does she know how much i love ...
A. 5 April 2015: You can not make a person positive by arguing. She has a lot of anger and her outlet is you. As a child she feels you are an extension of her so whatever she feels you have to feel it too. Refuse to be a companion for her misery. It would be hard to ... (read in full...)
Did I just get hot and steamy online with a married guy?
Q. Hi everyone, I'll try not to ramble too much. Well basically I play the online game World of Warcraft and I talk often to a guy on there who is two years younger than me. Although we are from very different social backgrounds I do enjoy talking to ...
A. 5 April 2015: If his intention behind treating you with gifts in the game is to get sexual thrills from you, then I would not feel good receiving them and you owe him nothing. I don't think it's common for married couples to live with both grandparents. So it's ... (read in full...)
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