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writes:Im starting to feel like my boyfriend doesn't like me anymore. We've been together for almost ten months now, and like we just don't really hang out that much. My friends are always on my case, saying that Im never the one to go over to him..but he hangs out with the guys, and I with the girls.I feel awkward when I'm with the guys sort of. It's gotten better, but one of the guys is my ex crush. They both know it, and even if my ex crush has a girlfriend now, it's sometim awkward for for me since my boyfriend knows how I used to feel about his friend.A second guy that my boyfriend hangs out with is this guy that I barely started to get to know this school year. He and I text a lot, except my friends say he has a crush on me, so I don't like being with him. I know it could be rumors, but I still find myself being cautious around him.Another guy my boyfriend hangs out with was my crush about two years ago. I recently found out by him himself that I fit "his type," whatever that may be, but he said he wouldn't ever do anything since I'm with his friend. I hang out with them, yes, but whenever I find myself with this guy in particular, I feel kinda weird. Especially since they joke around a lot, and it might seem like they're joking, but if they knew what he had told me then I don't think they'd joke around like that.It sounds like I'm a homie hopper, but im not. I just had a crush on the third guy I hung out with, cause I thought he was cute cx Then the first guy I talked about came about a year later, and then it was ended since my best friend started to date him. So that was a long time ago, and I know I've forgotten about it,But I think my boyfriend might not have. When were together, things become awkward real quick...but I dont want it to be that way. I love him, and I have a great time whenever I'm with him. He's super funny, and he doesn't get mad at me. But lately, I feel like he might have gotten mad or something, because he's stopped talking to me, unless it's literally just us two together. I don't tell my friends this, since they'll most likely confront him, but I honestly don't know what to do'
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2015): If he stopped talking to you it might not have anything to do with the other boys. You just feel guilty, because there is a couple of his friends who you just happened to have crushed on at one time or another. Hey, you're only 13!
Ten months is a long-time for kids your age to be together.
He might be feeling it is time you spent some time with other people. You can't hold onto him forever. He has to be able to just be a kid, make a lot of friends, and stop acting like an adult couple. While you're shying away from his buddies, all because of some rush you used to have. Seems you're the one feeling awkward.
I don't think he is mad about anything at all. I don't think he wants to hurt your feelings, and you're too serious about staying together. Even if you were 16, you're acting far more serious about a boy than someone your age should.
If one of the boys had said something; I don't see any reason he wouldn't tell you, if he was upset with you. That doesn't make sense. You've gotten along okay all this time.
I'd go with the possibility that he would like you both to see other boys and girls about now. Two years ago you were about 11 or 12. You talk like you're 20 years old, referring to the past in years, when you were only but a little girl then.
You really need to be a kid sometimes; and boys aren't as serious about dating as girls at 13!
They can't be with the same person and never want to know what it is like to spend some time with another girl. You had your crushes. There might be someone else he thinks he likes, and doesn't know how to explain it to you. You'll cry and get upset, that's when you'll decide to act your age. He doesn't know how to handle that; so he just doesn't say much. He is trying to put some distance between you without any drama.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (14 March 2015):
 You didn't do anything wrong and it might not have anything to do with ex crushes. I can see that your feelings for him haven't changed. Ask to see him more often and if he can't, then ask him if he's still happy in the relationship and then you can decide what to do with it.
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