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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Did I just get hot and steamy online with a married guy?
Q. Hi everyone, I'll try not to ramble too much. Well basically I play the online game World of Warcraft and I talk often to a guy on there who is two years younger than me. Although we are from very different social backgrounds I do enjoy talking to ...
A. 5 April 2015: If his intention behind treating you with gifts in the game is to get sexual thrills from you, then I would not feel good receiving them and you owe him nothing. I don't think it's common for married couples to live with both grandparents. So it's ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble with my baby daddy!
Q. My baby's dad is being horrible to me and trying to control things. We hooked up one night and had a baby never even dated. We were sort of seeing each other a couple of months ago but behind my back started seeing someone else. Now he's telling me ...
A. 5 April 2015: He doesn't get to control things. Having a baby does not warrant a full relationship but if you would not accept anything less than that you don't have to agree with him. He is calculating pros and cons. He wonder if it's better to pretend to be ... (read in full...)
I'd like to see him again, would it be okay for me to message him?
Q. Hey everyone! I just need some fast advice :) i broke up with My boyfriend about 3 Weeks ago and it took sometime but I'm feeling a bit better now ... So I met this guy 3 days ago at a party and we hit it off. He's friends with a guy I know and we ...
A. 4 April 2015: Of course it will be okay. Who cares if he thinks you are desperate? It's not like you have a lot to lose. You have to understand how a man thinks. Although there seems to be a lot of men who jump at chances to get laid, they still worry that they ... (read in full...)
His sexual exploits with previous work mates bother me, am I too old school?
Q. I have been dating a man for a year now. We are great together and making preparations to marriage a couple yrs from now. Lately, I've been struggling with an issue concerning my boyfriend. Before we started dating, we used to work at same ...
A. 4 April 2015: I would be bothered too not because of the difference in the numbers. On the surface it looks like he's sowed his wild oats and now he is ready to settle down. When you look deeper you might worry you are just a bigger challenge to conquer. You are ... (read in full...)
My potential date might be in an online porn video, should I let her know
Q. young woman who I have been growing closer to over the past few months has taken a romantic interest in me and she wants to try dating me and I have agreed to go out on a date with her. She is very much the good girl type and is extremely innocent ...
A. 4 April 2015: You said 90-98 resemblance? But you have not seen her boobs and ass yet. If you searched her name and her name came up, then you have your answer but what's the coincidence that you found that random porn clip and it happens to be her. Even if some ... (read in full...)
When is the right time to kiss a girl I'm going to take to the Prom? I really like her. But not sure of what is right
Q. Im a high school freshman and going with another freshman the girl I dreamed of going with to prom. I really like her and I think her feelings may be just as big for me. Weve never kissed, and I'm thinking I want to first kiss her on prom night. ...
A. 4 April 2015: A peck on the cheek is acceptable but kissing on the lips is a romantic gesture and usually it would lead to the two dating. You can have mutual feelings towards each other but that doesn't mean she is ready for dating. Although a surprise kiss ... (read in full...)
Am I being moronic about all this? Or ungenerous as my mother implied? And what should I do about it?
Q. My sister is 27, living in a house of her own with a partner who is very likely potential marriage material. She's not too far from our mum, who's only about an hours drive away. I'm in Student Halls over 5 hours drive away, I'm 21, coming back ...
A. 3 April 2015: I am sensing some sibling favoring, or at least this is how you feel. I don't think you are ungenerous. What's supposed to be a joyful Easter gathering has brought back old sibling rivalry, hurts that have never been resolved. I had been the ignored ... (read in full...)
No boundaries crossed, yet. But will my feelings for my friend affect my feelings for my partner?
Q. About 6 years ago, I met someone at a festival. We hit it off, and became good friends. Nothing untoward and beyond friendship occurred at that time. We've gone to that same festival together every year since, and we meet up outside of it an...
A. 3 April 2015: In my twenties I wonder if we could love more than one person too. We could love people as human beings but to be in love with them, we only want to be with one and to spend as much time with that person as possible. We grow and realize to attempt ... (read in full...)
Is he bisexual? Just a bit worried about the kinky things my BF enjoys
Q. Hi. First to give you a little background, me and my boyfriend have been together for just over 10 months, we are generally happy together, we argue like most couples but over all we get on just fine. There is just something I am a bit worried ...
A. 3 April 2015: No, liking anal play does not mean he is bisexual. Only if he can't come with vaginal sex or has to fantasize about a guy. Men who go to clinics to donate sperm or to check sperm sample have their prostates milked by nurses. It doesn't take long for ... (read in full...)
Am I trapped in this relationship with his Ex-wife a factor? Now he wants to move closer to his Ex !
Q. I will try to make this as short as possible. I am 60 yrs old, live with my boyfriend (AND his grumpy Mother) for 3 yrs...who has been divorced for over 20 years, he has a 30yr old daughter who is married with kids of her own. My boyfriend ha...
A. 3 April 2015: Some men can only "love" when their objects of love do not demand total commitment, or as long as the love is not finite and makes them feel stuck. They love when they want to and disappear until they miss the spouse. Because they feel it's legit to ... (read in full...)
Why do I always attract men I'm not attracted to? yet fail to interest the men I am attracted to?
Q. I'm hoping to get some opinions because I think I'm doing something wrong. I always attract men I'm not attracted to, but the ones I'm interested in never like me. I didn't think much of this as a teenager, even though it was annoying, because ...
A. 3 April 2015: You are certainly not alone. I read that somewhere (to that I mean the source is interesting, it's nothing scholarly but definitely convincing) that women are only interested in the top 10 % of men. These top 10% of men can afford to screw around ... (read in full...)
I'm 37 weeks pregnant and my Bf wants a threesome, He's already messaging the intended girl. Am I being paranoid? Or is this a red flag?.
Q. So my boyfriend of 7 years has asked for sex with another woman, I kind of understand, we are both our firsts and only. We found a woman about our age for a threesome. I am 37 weeks pregnant with our 3rd and she is fit, slender, and has more ...
A. 3 April 2015: I love it when some men make babies they only think of his virility. They like the thought they could blow up a woman's belly. Then when it comes to responsibility, loyalty, stretch marks, quality family time, changing diapers, soothing the baby at ... (read in full...)
Gf didn't want me to attend my work function. Am I not allowed a break? This isn't about girls...this is about a little freedom
Q. Is this normal? I have been in relationship for two years and we both had tough financial times but things are looking up. We do not live together yet. I found myself a new job, and after two weeks of declining to join work crew for drinks I f...
A. 3 April 2015: If she comes from a background of receiving benefits, she also comes from hearing guys who cheat whenever they see females. There really shouldn't have been a 3 hour argument. You go, come back sober, do this a few times and she will get that you ... (read in full...)
Will a married man ever replace his long term mistress with the next best thing?
Q. I am here to ask a question to everyone but WITHOUT JUDGMENT or PREACHING. I know affair posts get everyone very worked up. But I am not here to be crucified. Just to get help. I want to know what you think the answer is. It will help me immensel...
A. 3 April 2015: The fear is always of the future, the unknown. You think you will break apart if he replaces you, or one day stops receiving your calls. Perhaps you may feel free of the bondage, so you can find a guy who is single. Everything happens for a good ... (read in full...)
My husband masturbates to porn and turns me away when I try to initiate!
Q. I need some advice and opinion here. To sum it up in a gist, my husband has been married to me for two years now, but recently I found out that he masturbates to porn. This has happened several times. When I confronted him about it, he got agita...
A. 31 March 2015: You felt like screaming not because of porn, but because your husband is abusive. It's a sickening thought that you still want to have sex with a man who has the potential to kill you.
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How to re-create the spark with my ex?
Q. My ex and I were together for many years, broke up due to communication problems and thought we needed to part ways for awhile. We've kept in contact and have been talking about a reconciliation. During our BU, we worked on ourselves and tried ...
A. 31 March 2015: No you don't pretend you just met him. I don't think you necessarily have to recreate the spark, because it implies that spark is gone and can't ever get back. You can either go to a place you met at a first date, or you can go to a new restaurant ... (read in full...)
My husband masturbates to porn and turns me away when I try to initiate!
Q. I need some advice and opinion here. To sum it up in a gist, my husband has been married to me for two years now, but recently I found out that he masturbates to porn. This has happened several times. When I confronted him about it, he got agita...
A. 31 March 2015: I guess it's a woman thing to not need sex, to only wait for sex when husband feels like it, and to ask for sex is an annoying woman thing. Being tired and stressed out is a man thing, and never a woman thing. It's a man thing not being able to get ... (read in full...)
We've known each other 2 weeks so what do you take from these messages?
Q. I need your opinion please... I started talking to this guy, we started talking everyday for the first 4 days but then he stopped calling and says he us busy. It's a fact that he has a very bust job I understand but he doesn't even answer texts, ...
A. 31 March 2015: Some people go on the dating site whenever they get a break from their job, then they resume their busy behavior afterwards. Have you met yet? You can't be just talking then suddenly be a part of someone's life. Maybe talking whenever he is free is ... (read in full...)
Does this sound as solely friendly to you guys?
Q. Hi there, thanks in advance for reading! Hope you can give me some insights. I'm going to try and be as concise as possible. Basically I've just met a woman a couple of weeks ago and we had an instant click. Not necessarily sexual, but just...
A. 31 March 2015: I think you are friends who were flirting. In straight relationships women wait for the guys to make the initiative. For lesbians I guess either of you can be the more active one. Maybe she's wondering the same thing you do. It depends on whether ... (read in full...)
Do you think I've made the right decision to not attend this wedding, where my Bf will be the Best man?
Q. this may seem like a minor situation but it's stressing me out and im a grad student so extra stress is bad. A few months ago I had a falling out with my ex flatmates who are a couple. My boyfriend took their side which upset me. I posted on herea...
A. 30 March 2015: If they invite you it means they want you there. It can also be a chance for you to act with grace and give the couple your blessing. It means you moved on from the flatmate situation and you are supportive of your boyfriend being the best man.
I... (read in full...)
How can I get through this mountain of pressure? A new baby, difficult birth, my mother died unexpectedly and my husbane and my sister have betrayed me
Q. Please help! Hubby and I have been having marriage problems since the birth of my 2nd child and a difficult pregnancy and long recovery time (8 weeks) from an planned c section which ended up being an emergency as the surgeon made a medical error ...
A. 30 March 2015: You only see the real person when he is under stress. He did not remember his vows, "through sickness and health." If you are financially independent, you would have left him already. You only stayed because you had no place to go. I would certainly ... (read in full...)
Help me to move on after the he violated my trust
Q. Recently I split with my partner of 2.5 years. We split last August for 3 months and reconciled in October under the circumstance that we were completely honest about what had happened since we split, had it all out cards on the tables I completely ...
A. 30 March 2015: He was wrong for lying. I believe he lied because he thought he had a better chance to be with you if he made himself more innocent than he was. But it just seems like he's hiding something and he's still feeling for his other ex. Now you know he ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said something flirty in a text to someone else
Q. i have been with my boyfriend 3 months now. We had a staff party at work on Friday and there are a couple of girls who I get in with really well. One of these girls is married and likes my boyfriend work colleague. We have kept our relationship ...
A. 30 March 2015: I don't think it's a flirty text. He said so many girls, not just specifically one. Whether you are attached or not, it is nice to see beautiful people all dressed up for a party. It means they are happy in life and they care about looking good and ... (read in full...)
Divorced for 2 years now. Have an amazing new guy in my life. So why can't I deal with dating and decision making? What is wrong that I feel this way?
Q. I got divorced 2 years ago, I wanted it and my ex didn't. He absolutely did nothing but just crying for 1 year. I couldn't take his family making decisions for us any more. He is 49 I am 34. It's been 2 years now and I feel extremely guilty...
A. 29 March 2015: If that's the case I would go ahead and marry him and leave the past where it is. I would show him the appreciation that even I was not ready I would prepare for marriage because he deserves happiness. I hope that your son and him gets along because ... (read in full...)
We've been dating 4 months and I have taken him back after finding he'd been chatting with other girls and his ex!
Q. Hey, I'm looking for advice no a current situation with my boyfriend. We're both 23 We've been dating for 4 months now. The start of the second month I realized he lied to me about a nude photo of his friend but cast forward I got over that as she s...
A. 29 March 2015: He loves nobody but himself. How can you go back to a player who asks for permission to date two people at the same time? By the way he's not really asking you, he's going ahead and doing what he pleases. You only give people chances when they ... (read in full...)
If you like a woman but want her to slow down what can you do?
Q. Hi, Help needed! I met this woman who I've known for years and always liked. We got together recently and I really like her but she was coming on a bit intense. I backed off but she was still intense, texting a lot. I def' like her but want to ...
A. 29 March 2015: If a woman can't take "take it slow" as an answer and you had to say something stupid like you had a girlfriend then she might not be the one for you. She acted like she possesses you even before you agreed that you two were dating. Not a good sign. ... (read in full...)
My husband has been nasty to me since the birth of our second son! Any advice?
Q. Please can anyone give me some advice, i have been with my partner 5 years we have a 2 year old boy and a baby boy of 5 weeks. my partner since the birth of our second son is being nasty to me talks awful to me and shows me no affection at all he ...
A. 29 March 2015: He is in the army, so the possibilities are he developed PTSD or he feels that he's the one working hard in an uncomfortable environment while you do nothing, just relaxing at home. Coming home should feel like a celebration especially he has a ... (read in full...)
He was my first boyfriend. 11 months together. Then it ended badly. What help would help me deal with all the hurt I feel over this?
Q. 2 months ago my boyfriend and I broke up. I am struggling so badly, and Ive almost gone to see a psychologist. He was my first boyfriend; he was 26 I was 24. We were together for 11 months. He persued me in the beginning and even though he was t...
A. 29 March 2015: I agree with Abella. The mother in law wants a dumb compliant daughter in law who kow tows to her and serves her needs. He was crying uncontrollably because his mom probably messed up his previous relationship even though he really wanted to have ... (read in full...)
Why can't he face that his family is lying about me and tell them to butt out?
Q. My partner and I of 6 years broke up three months ago, we have been trying to sort it out but I have asked him to tell hi family to butt out of our relationship, or I am not coming back. HE used to work in the family business and moved from Ireland ...
A. 29 March 2015: It's the whole team against you and you can't win. If they are willing to bail him out with millions, there is no way they would let him go to jail. I've seen families fund drug addictions to their children, pay for thousands of license debts, ... (read in full...)
Divorced for 2 years now. Have an amazing new guy in my life. So why can't I deal with dating and decision making? What is wrong that I feel this way?
Q. I got divorced 2 years ago, I wanted it and my ex didn't. He absolutely did nothing but just crying for 1 year. I couldn't take his family making decisions for us any more. He is 49 I am 34. It's been 2 years now and I feel extremely guilty...
A. 29 March 2015: The marriage has made you feel jaded. Wasn't your ex husband sweet to you also at the beginning? Just because a man talks about marriage and kids doesn't make him amazing. LDRs are pointless without marriage at the end but he is either taking a huge ... (read in full...)
Ladies, your possible reaction if you surmised, during sex, that a guy was a virgin then would you stop having sex or what?
Q. Hi Cupid, I wanna paint a pictute here for woman and hear what they think. Pleeeeeeeease be brutally honest, no euphemism. If you (a woman) were in your twenties and liked some guy, just like, not a romeo and juliette love story, you've know...
A. 28 March 2015: I kind of skipped the part about "alleged girlfriends" and I am not in my 20s. I am 34. I am not some general 20's sample but I will answer the question again.
When I was in my 20's I was confused, lonely and open to different types of people. I wa... (read in full...)
I may be starting to like one of my ex-male friends whom I have rejected twice in the past. What should I do - forget him and move on or try again with him?
Q. Hi, A few months ago, a male friend of mine whom I became very close with, asked me out and I rejected him - twice. We were extremely good friends; we had a lot in common and we got on well with each other - I appreciated his company and he apprecia...
A. 28 March 2015: He was just asking you out, not pressuring you into anything. You can talk negotiate how often you are going to see each other then decide if the frequency satisfies you both. He wouldn't have asked you twice if he didn't feel you had a good thing ... (read in full...)
How I found a Possible Solution to Retroactive Jealousy and Trust Issues with my Significant Other
Q. Before all the feminazi's here jump on me this is what happened exactly. Their were no assumptions on my part or misinterpretations on my end. She lied to me and misrepresented herself as to not to lose me and put herself in a bad light. This ...
A. 28 March 2015: Sigh. That's how I solved relationship problems too. Although mine was not about retroactive jealousy. It sucks to bottle up anger and let issues fester. I think people who really love you would allow the honest, no-holding-back emotional catharsis, ... (read in full...)
Am I doing something wrong in this relationship or is she just "over" me?
Q. Well, I met this woman about a week ago at a friends party. We have been sending messages over email this week. I have told her a lot about things I am doing and she responded. I actually said I was sorry for sending a long message and that...
A. 28 March 2015: Not anything wrong. It could be preference of communication. Maybe she is waiting for you to ask her out? Many women don't want to be only good for chatting but not for dating. They don't see the point of chatting just for the sake of it. Some women ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex letting me know that she's stalking my social media?
Q. I recently broke up with my gf of about a year. Throughout the relationship she was frequently insecure and jealous, but when she wasn't her love was like the sun. Eventually her jealously and insecurities made her angry, mean, and distrustful ...
A. 28 March 2015: If you are suggesting that she still misses you and not really happy in her new relationship, it could be. I don't know what instagram looks like but I suppose it's a website with photos and you click a button "follow" and it's easier to access than ... (read in full...)
Ladies, your possible reaction if you surmised, during sex, that a guy was a virgin then would you stop having sex or what?
Q. Hi Cupid, I wanna paint a pictute here for woman and hear what they think. Pleeeeeeeease be brutally honest, no euphemism. If you (a woman) were in your twenties and liked some guy, just like, not a romeo and juliette love story, you've know...
A. 28 March 2015: No euphenism here. I would assume he is afraid of women, cares more about not being rejected over making a woman happy. He must think that a woman's body is a scary creature going to eat him alive. My first boyfriend was gay so I won't count that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is using my flaws against me, what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months, and we are in a long distance relationship (5 hours drive apart), at the start of our relationship everything was perfect, I generally felt he was the one! We had so much in common, but as the m...
A. 28 March 2015: I think the main issue is not whether he's going to cheat on you but whether he's giving you enough time and fulfilling your emotional needs. Long distance relationship works for him because you are out of arm's length. He can get sex when he misses ... (read in full...)
This boy who likes me is spreading rumours.
Q. This guy at school has liked me for a while and is constantly asking me out. I have explained to him that I'm not looking to have a relationship at the moment but he is insisting he walks me home everyday. Yesterday he was jealous of me and my guy b...
A. 28 March 2015: If he's spreading malicious misinformation then he's not your friend anymore. Some boys (and sadly, some men) feel that they are entitled to loyal girlfriends even when there is no established relationship. So even if you rejected him, in his heart ... (read in full...)
I may be starting to like one of my ex-male friends whom I have rejected twice in the past. What should I do - forget him and move on or try again with him?
Q. Hi, A few months ago, a male friend of mine whom I became very close with, asked me out and I rejected him - twice. We were extremely good friends; we had a lot in common and we got on well with each other - I appreciated his company and he apprecia...
A. 28 March 2015: I am sure he's not interested in being friends again. His time and effort is better spent on seeking another girl who's sure to reciprocate. The only way to get his attention is to ask him out but first honestly explain to him why the first time you ... (read in full...)
I'm back with my ex, who I love, but how do I tell my parents?
Q. so here goes...im 24. i have been off and on with my bf for 3 years. i give up when things get hard. he has been trying to get a good career for a while so he has moved a lot. we broke up 2 years ago and had no contact. he messaged me a week ago and ...
A. 28 March 2015: Try this relationship out one more time. If all goes well and you don't feel there's any "bad" that you have to tell your parents, then it's a good solid relationship probably leading to marriage. Until then it's just trial and error. You could tell ... (read in full...)
To date or break up because of his unworthy friends?
Q. Hi friends, I am here to know the opinion about how I am feeling is co-related in any manner with any one of you or am I the only person feeling this way. So I'm dating a guy who is 8 years elder to me and it's only beem 6 months to this relation...
A. 28 March 2015: I would not have dated a person who works during the day then "work" at night too. There would be no relationship. I don't think you would be top priority after one year or 5 years. I put a lot of importance in the courting stage. If does not care ... (read in full...)
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