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*erry James Paul
writes:Please i need your advice,i wrote last week concerning my girl friend whom i said;said i gave her hiv,but i tasted negativ.It been 2 month 2day since we saw last,initially she was not in town,but came back 3 days ago,that anxiety of seeing me whenever it long is no longer there.I was fortunate to see her in the market the very day she came to Abuja were i reside though she told me on phone she'll be in town that day,there we talk briefly because she said she came with her friends and wanted to catch up with them and promised she'll come and see me on tuesday.When the day came i waited for her till late in the night only for her to call me that she can't come till the next day because they've been working all day in preparation for her friends birthday,i said nothing.I waited to no avail the day she said she'll come,she didn't come as she promised and no call i decided to call her today,but she told me her girl friend is having a birthday party today.My problem is i want to surmon that courage to breakup,but its difficult because i love her so much.Pls assist me cos my heart is crumbling. Reply to this Question
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reader, Myau  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 You already are broken up. Thats why she isnt seeing you.Have you told her that you dont have HIV? Might make a difference
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Sounds like she is keeping herself busy to avoid thinking about her condition, and to postpone dealing with you. She may be in denial. Considering what she did to you, on top of them blaming it on you, I wouldn't go back to her. Be there for her for emotional support, but tell her you can't go back to where you were romantically. She probably won't expect you to continue to be her boyfriend anymore. I am not so sure if it's necessary to break the sad news to her. She is already in great pain but without expressing it. Somtimes quietly accepting it's the end makes a big difference than overtly saying it's over out loud. Write her a letter about how you feel, the good and the bad, and emphasize that you did have a great time with her, and you will still care for her as a supportive friend.
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