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*randonphill
writes:My girlfriend and I have been living together for about 5 months now, and we've only been dating for 6. Her dad is a drunk so I decided to move her out of there to come stay with me... but now it's just like I'm not so interested any more, I love the girl, but I'm not sure what I need to do to make a spark. Any advice?
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reader, Jesc +, writes (24 April 2010):
 I'm not for sure where the spark is needed so forgive me if I step out of line.First Be honest with her. I so way to soon to have her move in. Sweet your reasoning behind it, just to soon. You sadly get to know things about the other person you don't want to know so soon.Now, If you honestly feel like this isn't going to work out living together maybe you should try and tell her that. Approach it more a long the lines of "I really do care/love you, yet I feel that we are moving to fast and if we move to fast we could end everything we have even faster...." then go on from there, tell her it might be better if you get your own place and we still see each other. Let her know she can stay the nights,come over,etc. Just moving in might be bad idea right now.If it's something to do with spark in the relationship due to living together, try to spice up your life. Taking her on dates, go out for walks,workout together,(which surprisingly enough it was fun for me and my partner). Which ever or whatever you choose, Make sure you both make time for yourselves. You will need your space and her her own.I'm sorry if this did nothing, I'm happy if it helped out at all. Please just be honest with her. Good luck to you :)
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 The spark you see on chick flicks and romance novels is an overrated myth. When you search for that spark you will be disappointed. Be interested not in the adrenaline rush, but in each other's characters and personal growth. Look for similar goals in life, dreams for the future. Be there for the person's ups and downs. Have fun. Balance work time, me time, and intimacy time. Learn to be better lovers. Buy her flowers every day. I know they are expensive. Buy seeds and grow them in your balcony. They absorb negative energies and make you happy. She doesn't need candlelit dinners and bubble baths every night but defintely have something to laugh about every day.
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