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*alaysianMango
writes:I've been in 3 long relationships, all of them lasting longer than a year and a half... Plus many many before that. So I've experienced quite a bit. The feeling I get when I think of my teacher, well, it's much different. It's like a platonic connection or a spiritual kind of connection. It's like I can feel when he's interested. My instincts are telling me he maybe might like me back. We like the same music.. Literally. When I plug in my ipod to his speakers and play some bee gees we sometimes start singing at the same time to the song. When I have dudes asking me to play some hip hop. (I'm more of an oldies person) We both react to art the same way, (he's my computer art teacher) It just feels like there is something more. I am 18 so technically it is legal, right? He's around 30 years older than me though. He's NOT married, he has a girlfriend, and 1 son older than me. I've never felt this way for an older man before. Never, EVER. I think about him so much. I'm not sure if he's just being nice or he may be crushing a bit back but help me out here...He does softly touch my shoulder a lot when ever he gets a chance. I noticed the way he smiles at me is different than when he smiles at others. He looks up to me to help others in class. (like he asks me a loud in front of everyone, "michelle, could you help Blah out? and hes only asks me! Half the time I can't even figure it out since I'm new to adobe programs.) He goes out of his way to do things for me... Like once I was asking him about a song he was playing and who it was by in an email. He gave me a cd by the guy the next day. He lets me turn things in late and I still get full credit. He's hung up 2 of my computer art works already. He puts many smiley faces in his emails sent back to me. (but not every time, I'm assuming he doesn't want to over do it?) When most teachers literally talk like robots in emails. He's just so free spirited and inspirational.. He gives me that sunken feeling in my chest. He has told me he feels a strong connection to me in an email... and that I'm very talented. I don't know what to do at this point either. I come in early now just to talk to him and we do talk. He doesn't seem bothered. He seems much more relaxed when I'm around. I believe age is just a number and that love has no limits.Especially because my aunt married my uncle and they are 22 years apart.AND My mother was a student of my dads. They are about 16 years apart. They are still married...I feel like I need to take a chance before its too late. Chances come and go. I'm starting to realize it, but I guess I may wait till near the end of the year to tell him just in case... So it's not awkward if he completely rejects me.I'm not like other girls my age. I've built up very strong relationships with my other teachers as well. (female teachers) Where other people make fun of them I come in on my own time to just talk to them about life... I've felt pain so deep I almost threw my life away. I've experienced things that most people my age probably haven't even come close to. I don't party like I used to anymore. In fact, I'd rather stay home. Learn some new things online do homework, photography and art. While my friends are out getting coked up on crap, I'm expanding my brain but also struggling with many things. When all seniors seem to talk about these days is the party the went to last weekend and getting so blazed and stoned. I don't find it interesting at all. Another reason why I have always been drawn to older men. I have more in common with them...Anyways,I seem to forget about all my problems when I think of my teacher.. He gives me that feeling in my chest. Like a sunken feeling in my heart. I don't get that often.. I never even felt that way once with my last boyfriend.What should I do? Any teacher that sees this.. If you were to have a student approach you what would be the best way? Or how do I show him I really am interested with out overdoing it? Any advice at all would help. But please don't throw me the same bull that everyone is saying that its gross and I should find someone my own age.It probably would never last. But the experience if we did have a relation would be an experience that would stay in my heart forever that I will be able to grow and learn from.My sister is even dating a 37 year old and shes 20 (he looks much younger maybe cause he's asian) She lives in malaysia with him nowI think it runs through the family.Please honest and real opinions.Thanks so much in advance!
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reader, MalaysianMango +, writes (23 April 2010):
MalaysianMango is verified as being by the original poster of the question You guys are right. He has a loving girlfriend he's been with for a while. I think Im just infatuated. I would never want to ruin that for him. I need to snap out it. Im sure I just over react to somethings he says and does for me. I make it into something it's not. But whatever happens, in my eyes he will still always be mr mc dreamy, hah.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 April 2010):
 This teacher has a girlfriend. Maybe if he breaks up with this girlfriend, but until then, you don't want to be the person who steals guys.
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reader, MalaysianMango +, writes (22 April 2010):
MalaysianMango is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe end of the year is coming and I will be graduating... He has said he wants me to come back and wants to help me with my art outside of school/after I graduate. If he really wanted me to bug off wouldn't he avoid suggestions to come back? And lemme note this is an art teacher. He's very spiritual and was a hippie back in the day. He has a personality not of his age.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 April 2010):
 Stop talking about your age. He has a girlfriend! She's probably hitting menopause and no longer giving him sex, but he can't break up with her, she's still dear to him. He's regressing to his younger years and being with you makes him feel young. There's nothing wrong with dating old guys, only when they are single okay. Don't use the age difference as a distraction to the main problem here- He's attached!
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