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36-40,
*tinak
writes:I was in a relationship for a little over a year, and it was constant fighting. It was my first relationship, and I really did learn what NOT to do..I hurt him pretty bad,nothing like cheating on him,but I did lie about some things..not intentionally, I can just be dense when it comes to communication. So, he finally dumped me two weeks ago. I was a wreck..I cried and begged for his forgiveness,I even wrote a letter telling him how much I wanted it to work. Finally, a week later, he agreed to meet me and the way he was talking before we met, gave me hope that he wanted to try again. He said how he loved me so much, and didn't really know what he wanted. I told him it sounded like he did, and that I didn't think we should meet up, but he insisted he didn't know..so we met up, and he let me down again..Almost two weeks have passed now, and I contacted him to let him know I was ok with us being friends..I really wasn't, I just figured it would give him some peace of mind.He was happy, it seemed like, he said thank you, and you know I will always be there for you.. The day after, he texted me saying hello. I didn't respond. He texted me again at night asking me how my day was. I replied, then he asked me what i was doing, I replied again, and then he asked what my plans were for the weekend..so many questions! He asked me if we could maybe hang out..And i was stunned. I told him I wasn't ready for that step yet, and he said Sorry, I don't know what I was thinking, I just miss you. Does he really miss me? Is he confused? Does he just miss me for the sex? What is going on in this guy's head? I feel like I still being strung along, and it does NOT feel good at all..
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 Meet him in a public space and then go home by yourself. You are not obliged to give him sex until you know he has forgiven you and is ready for a relationship again.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (17 April 2010):
 you will only know if u meet him and COLLECT UR SELF.dont let him understand whats going on with u. keep him in mystery. appear fun,and easy going,treat him like a friend and ask him if he thinks he sees a chance of u being together again.if he says he doesnt know,dont act paranoid.just dont give him sex and dont spend all of ur free time with him but still agree to meet him in PUBLIC PLACES sometimes. he will be eating out the palm of ur hand :D
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reader, raiders +, writes (16 April 2010):
 You two broke up and you should hold your dignity and not beg, he obviously is over you. I think its to early to be friends because at this rate you might become his friend with benefits, and you have feelings for him so you don't want to be in this position. You might even become his booty call, and after you guys are done with the sex you might feel use, because you expected more than just a wam bam thank you mam. Move on give it time to heal, Good luck!
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