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writes: Here's my situation: I am in a long distance relationship with a woman, and things are as good as they can be from a distance. We meet online every night, and talk on the phone every day, and we have visited each other several times, She's in The South, and I'm on the east coast, Virginia. But we drive to each other often as possible. I am planning on moving down to her in a month or two, also. We say we love each other every day, too.Just today I got a call from her and she says her internet is about to go out, and she doesn't know when she'll get it back, it might even be next week. This upset me a bit because we have been meeting online every night for months and months. But then she goes on to say her phone won't have minutes either. She's one of those that has no cellphone plan, she buys cards with minutes on them. Well the assumption is that she's having a tough time financially, though she didn't come right out and say it.I offered to buy her minutes, or pay her internet bill and she said she couldn't possibly let me do that. I asked why, and she just had no answer, she just didn't want me to. She said she loved me very much and she would miss me, and I said the same thing, and then her phone cut out, without us saying goodbye. I tried calling her back but her phone was shut off, I guess it ran out of minutes, like she said it was about to..It might sound stupid, but I am freaking out. We haven't missed a night together in forever. Is she trying to take time off from me without telling me so directly? Or is it only her pride that's keeping me from paying for minutes, or paying her internet bill? What should I do? Is it a test? We always meet online at 8 pm never fails and its 8:45 and no her.. and a whole week of this? I'll go certified nuts. I'm feelin pretty pathetic right now but I can't help it.. Anyway, enough of that, what I came here for is I want to know if you think she is taking time off? A break from me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou all were right. She called me today from her sister's house. After some convincing, she let me buy her minutes for her cell phone. My argument was we are going to be living together, so what is a little phone card compared to that?
And she says she wants me to move down to her more than I want to, and loves me more than I do her..and.. misses me more than I do her. She's always about saying stuff like that. She's so competitive, lol. But its sweet though
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reader, cnith  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 dont know how old your chick is, but me, I have a lot of pride or whatever you want to call it... idiocy most likely.
My bf offered to pay my bill when my electricity got shut off and I said no, I'll find a way, don't worry. I didn't want him to think I was that unresourceful or that he had to keep/maintain me. I thought well I've only known you two months or whatever it was, this isn't your place.
So many things go through a girl's head. Most likely she's in a financial bind, as you suggested and she may have my problem, doesn't want the white knight just yet.
Give her some time. You can still email her can't you? OK so she can't write back but at least when things are back online she'll know you were thinking of her.
And for future use, janniepeg is right, she could use the library or sprint store or even best buy if there's no apple store nearby. So many places she could go to write email. She just may not be aware of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): I doubt it, if this is the only strange thing that has happened and everything else is good, then she's probably being honest with you. My guess is that she has a problem she doesn't want to tell you about (probably money). I know this is hard, wait for tomorrow, the anxiety you're experiencing is from fear that she's leaving you, which I don't think she is. A decent woman would not do something as cowardly as what you're suggesting, just trust her and wait to hear from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): ...I'm kinda doing the same thing w/ my bf too in the past. She don't want to take a break from you most likely. She just want some time alone for a bit to think things out, i guess. Just dont worry too much about it again. She get minutes on her phone and get her internet back up soon. She dont want u to pay for the internet bill or her minutes because she don't want you to go through the trouble. She wanted to get through it herself, so she dont want u to think she's clingy...and she wanted to see if u still love her, if she is gone for a small bit.anyway she dont want a break from you. She loves you very much and wouldnt let you go. ...im a girl...and this is excatedly what happened to my bf and I and that is what I felt. Maybe she have another reason, but the reason I given to you is most likely in this case.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 It's only been an hour. Let's just hope that her check arrives and she can use her internet and phone again. On the mean time she could still use email at the library or the apple store. It would be tempting to just send her a money order but just let her deal with this alone. What was her reaction when you told her you are moving down there?
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