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*inkdiva101
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for a yr and three months now. I've been living with him and his mom and its like a relationship I've never seen before! So here I go...His mom has been married on and off been divorced three times so its really just been them two there whole life and like when they get into arguments she totally cowers down to him like he's her husband. She makes sure his dinner is on time freaks out if she didn't buy the right brand and I'm looking at her like she's crazy and I have mixed feelings about it and it seems strange to me. He talks to her like she's a child and she listens like one. I need help on how to control my feelings cus I don't know how to feel.
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reader, pinkdiva101 +, writes (2 April 2011):
pinkdiva101 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I'm not the type of person to coward down to someone and his mom is not responsible and he's been the parent she the kid it just gets on my nerves and I don't know how to come across the question without making it awkward or taken the wrong way.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (2 April 2011):
 Your boyfriend is used to being "the man around the house" and its been going on for so long, that neither of them probably even realize how it must appear to others. The mother is way too dependent on her son. What would concern me more is the point that chigirl brought up. What makes you think he wouldn't treat you the way he treats his mother? I'd be very leary of that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2011): He treats me good that's not the problem its just seems strange to me. Thanks for your answer.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 April 2011):
 His mom is having trouble keeping her men, so she is using her son as a substitute for love. Your son likes his mom that way because it's rare for a mom to make a son feel like a man, because usually mom nags, complains and worries what he could do wrong in life. He compensates the loss of a father figure by becoming a mature man to protect his mom. It's even possible that she began to act that way since she met you and felt a little competition. As long as your boyfriend treats you as priority, spends enough time with you, have plans for moving out in the future, then I won't worry too much.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 April 2011):
 This is how he will treat you soon. Especially if you marry him. When you have a son he will expect you to obey to your son as well. Be careful.
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