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writes:How do people in their mid-40's hook up? I married young (19) and spent most of my life with someone (25 years) so I cam completely out of touch and I'm not in my 20's anymore so hitting the bars and being coy doesn't work at my age. But I am interested in meeting men in my age group (38 -55) I just have no idea how to go about this. I am slim, attractive, and look younger than my age. Sometimes I see guys at the grocery store, but they rarely make eye contact. Funny, when I was married I got lots of offers. I can't tell you the number of gorgeous guys that tried to hit on me a few years ago. Now that I'm single, nothing, not even a glance. It's weird. I'm dressing pretty much the same way, just casual, sporty, not overly sexy or desperate. I don't wear revealing clothes but I have a nice body. Any advise?... Reply to this Question
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (4 April 2011):
Hi - I'm not so sure on line dating is what you want becuase the people on there speaking from experience are most often not what they pass them selves off to be. Its easy to lie when not face to face, but harder if you are meeting face to face.I would advocate since you describe your self as having a good body etc to hang out with groups of people doing something you enjoy and be open and friendly towards both men and woman - expand your circle of friends to be larger and the contacts will be there for you to start engaging with. And also from friendships comes relationships quite often. Your not old being over 40, far from it and some of the hottest woman are ones that are cofident, know what they want in life and also have great bodies so go do it!Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): I met my wife (41 at the time) through a guy that I met in a leadership class in my suburban hometown. I was single, and let it be known to my 5 person team that I was interested in dating. This guy and I had ZERO in common, and I discounted his recommendation. My now wife was his property manager, and she basically discounted his reports of me. Both of us finally caved in and we met at a charity event (safe place, lots of folks, public.... she felt safe) and we hit it off immediately. Wed about 1.5 years later, celebrated 9 years of marriage last year! She'd never been married, I had (7 year relationship, 2 year divorce- no kids). I never thought that I'd find someone as incredible as I did, and life is wonderful!Network, make new contacts and network through them! If some suggests they know someone TAKE THE RISK! It's ONE NIGHT of your life, and it just may be true!
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reader, jakester  +, writes (4 April 2011):
I agree with the other answer, online has been popular with my 40 yo friends. After a long marriage myself, both men I met in the grocery store...ha, the first one was just dating and not long, the current has been more involved, but is in trouble hence why i'm on here :) Good Luck and take your time in the freezer aisle, same place for both for me ha.
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reader, $izZle  +, writes (4 April 2011):
 hi, don't worry about it just be your self and try talking to guys whom you find interesting and remember don't loose hope .... maybe what's happening is very simple you are forgetting to put on a beautiful smile and being happy... well let me just finish by saying that maybe just maybe you need to look for the right person in the right place ... hehe and let me be the 1st one to make a move :P em! it sure would be fun to have a sip of some heart warming tea and some pastry and see where it takes you... ;)
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (4 April 2011):
 They hook up online because they feel so out of place in bars. Picking a younger woman in a public place is risky, and most likely he will be seen as a creep. Join a dating site and you will be swarmed with phone calls. Make sure you know what you want in a relationship. I have talked to men online and despite all the warnings that there are rapists out there, all the men I met were decent.
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