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writes:Ok me and my guy have been talking on and off since last September. We finally started to date in Jan after we got really close. He told me he was thinking he was falling in love with me after a month which I felt the same way. So not too soon after that things between me and him started to slightly change. He wasn't as sweet as he was at first. He also told me that he wasn't really good at showing his feelings. So then it kinda got worse after his birthday he still was telling me that he really loved me but wasn't really showing it. So my spring break came along and he wasn't acting too interested in me so I decided to go back home instead of staying at school with him. When he found out I was going home he told me he didn't want me to go but I left anyways. So I was at home for the weekend but I asked him did he want me to come back he said yeah so I did. When I made it back he didn't even come to see me the first day I had to come see him the next day. Then I asked him if he wanted to be in this relationship he didn't answer he just sorta ignored me so I decided to leave. I ended up going back home cause I didn't wanna be on spring break alone. Three days of not talking he texts me like hey what do this mean? Like I really love him. I'm wondering if he still feels the same we haven't said it in awhile. Is hr afraid that he was getting to attached to me where he wanted to pull away? What should I ask him what should I say?
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reader, marine99 +, writes (6 April 2011):
 I think with some guys, specially if the relationship is new, he's not sure if he's ready to call you guys a couple just quite yet. Right now you're being yo yo-ed by this guy who can't seem to decide whether or not he wants to truly be in a relationship with you. It's pretty common for the first phase of dating to be infatuated with that person you're seeing.When those love goggles come off, you are hit with reality. You're going to have to ask him if he truly wants to be with you or not. If he can't see to answer you, that's a tell tale sign that he doesn't want to be with you. Don't let this guy string you along if he can't tell you what he wants because you deserve better than that. Remember, action speaks louder than words.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 April 2011):
 He wasn't acting interested before spring break. How so, and did he know that you felt neglected?
You went home, assuming he wasn't interested. It's possible he felt you were actually the one not interested.
He didn't come meet you the first day. Was it because he felt you didn't love him anymore?
You had to meet him on the second day. Did you express how disappointed you were that you didn't get to see him the first day?
He saw you as someone going back and forth and therefore he's confused, so he didn't know what to say.
Sounds like two clueless people with a lot of gaps in communication. Don't always wait for him to say something. We as women are taught that men always take the lead and we have no control over whether they will commit to us. Fact is we do have the power to inspire them to give us what we want. Don't withhold your love out of fear that he might leave, or is afraid of commitment.
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reader, Canadian Guy +, writes (1 April 2011):
Sounds like he is uncertain about the relationship. He seems like he doesn't want to let you go but at the same time he wants to have his freedom or see other women possibly. I am sure there is a part of him that loves you and another part where he wants to go out and do what ever he wants. He can't have best of both words. If he truly was committed to you, I don't think he would try to push you away.Try to talk to him, tell him that you want to know why he doesn't talk to you or why he pushes you away. If he doesn't answer or get back to you for a while than I would assume that he truly does not care about the relationship and wants to move on. If this keeps continuing than you need to let him go. Because it is not right for you to keep going on this way. Guys are kinda stupid :)Good luck.
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