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writes: Hey all, I would like to know the opinions of the males out there if I could please? My question is on the appearance side of things. I have really hairy arms (black hair), what do you guys think of this? I have just waxed them because I am sooo embarrassed about them and I think it would be a big turn off my boyfriend. Also tattoos, on a girl, what do guys think in general (I have 3 and one is on my arm which is another reason I keep my arms covered). I really feel I have fallen in love with my boyfriend but not sure if he has with me. I guess I don't want to get too involved and then him be freaked out by things. I have a habit of ending relationships before I get hurt (before I get dumped) but I really want this one to last!I know this probably comes under "he should like you for you" but I would really like some opinions please! Ladies also feel free to reply but I would mainly like to hear from the men out there.Sorry it's long, thanks in advance x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): Hi I kind of know what you are going through. I have very dark hairy arms. When i go out in public I feel as if I have to cover up. I never go out with just a t-shirt on because I feel so embarressed. I really don't know what to do about them. Also i am 13 and when i'm at school even in the summer when its baking i keep my blazer on in case anyone sees them. I've never had a boyfirend so im quite isecure I want to be normal and i know its a part of me but its the worst part! I feel like no one will like me. HELP?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): I love hairy armed woman. i find it very attractive.
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reader, daleben  +, writes (15 February 2010):
i absolutely love girls with hairy forearms. I dont even waste a second on girls without hair on the forearms. I love it love it
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reader, larry1031 +, writes (12 November 2008):
 NOTHING!!!!! of a "physical" nature is more sexy than a girl with really hairy arms sex appeal beauty alluring sexuaqlly agressive everything RIGHT is a girl who has hairy arms!!! or culture is sick with plactic-skinned stick barbie clones YOU GO GIRL!!!!
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reader, larry1031 +, writes (1 October 2008):
you go girl-almost nothing is as alluring appealing and flat out sexy than a girl who has hairy arms -it's a beautiful thing that is being ruined by the combined mass media-big business-pop culture rags-hollywood and madison ave-not that long ago no one thought anything about it "oh she has hairy arms- NOW it is portrayed as disgusting-embarrassing-dirty-unwanted-and it makes me want to puke when I see the stick plastic-skinned barbie clones hock hair removal products and are flippant and condecending "why of course NO self-respecting girl would be caught dead with hairy arms -what a LOAD of B.S. you go girl there are PLENTY of guys "in the closet" on this issue-THEY are embarrassed to admit now that they really like girls who have hairy arms!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): Hello...
Let me say that I think that tattoos and hairy arms are extremely sexy and attractive on women. I mean that in the truest form I can say it. You hair is part of your skin; in fact, it is your skin and it is what defines you. Also, and you may find this very hard to believe, but most dudes are really turned on by a hairy arms on a girl. It is part of who yu are. Tats are body art and they I really special to the person that has them.
If your BF hassles you about your arms,then I say scream as run away from him. he is not worth all of what you are doing for him. I know I would love a woman like you immediately!!!!
I am a male, by the way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): Hello...
Let me say that I think that tattoos and hairy arms are extremely sexy and attractive on women. I mean that in the truest form I can say it. You hair is part of your skin; in fact, it is your skin and it is what defines you. Also, and you may find this very hard to believe, but most dudes are really turned on by a hairy arms on a girl. It is part of who yu are. Tats are body art and they I really special to the person that has them.
If your BF hassles you about your arms,then I say scream as run away from him. he is not worth all of what you are doing for him. I know I would love a woman like you immediately!!!!
I am a male, by the way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): i myself dont mind a woman with hair on her arms. be yourself. tats on a woman im not fond of but that doesnt disqualify a woman with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): I think your boyfriend should appreciate you for who you are and as for your arms , I personally love women with hairy arms and tats so stay as natural as you are and don't give in to society who think women sholud shave.
If things don't work out with the boyfriend maybe we can hook up
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): I think it depends on your situation. If you want a short frivolous relationship, then wax your arms, or do whatever you want. If you want a long heart-felt relationship though, just be the way you are and focus on also accepting him for the way he is. Some guys really like females with hair... search for "NTK hairy" to see what I mean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): be yourself if nobody likes it fthemhairy arms on a female "can be" very attractive no matter what color of hair, if you feel attractive than keep it who cares what anyone thinks its how you feel is what matterswhy would something as common as hair make a woman unattractive? confusedIf anything the its the tatoos that could be repulsive or sexy depending on how much Cause its not natural and should match the personality or look.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi DoubleM we have known each other and dating for just over a month, i know we are still in the "honeymoon" period :) we are still learning about each other which is why i brought the tattoos up. But he is a sweet guy so you could be right about worrying over them to much.
Thanks for the follow up :)
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (2 April 2008):
 You do not mention how long you and your boyfriend have known each other and been dating, but you did say that you have "fallen in love." Have you really been able to hide these concerns long enough for love to blossom? Well anyway, I just think that your concerns are little to worry about. Kiss him, hold him, squeeze him and enjoy his love and friendship. You are young anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you guys, well update, i asked him about them and he said he doesn't mind tats on a girl however i am yet to show them to him. I still guess i have my doubts. I will show him them if he asks of course.
thanks again to you all you have been a big help! x
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (1 April 2008):
Must agree that very hairy arms on a girl would not be very flattering in the United States, although many women from other countries are often quite hairy, notably Latinos. I have never allowed a fairly hairy arm to deter me if I'm generally attracted. As for tattoos, I don't know how it is in Great Britain, but in the States it has become almost normal. Even this older man has grown to accept that any woman is likely to sport a small one or two, but big gaudy tattoos would certainly be a turn-off or embarrassment to me if visible in public. My personal preference would be none at all, but if a girl is otherwise attractive, I can overlook a bit of body art. I choose to remain a blank slate.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Hi there,
I admit I would be a little put off by tatoos. But only if they were prominent ( like the singer Amy Winehouse ).
But a lot of guys don't care and plenty will find them attractive. Personally it would only be a deal breaker for me if the girl wanted to get more ( I would see it as a sign of insecurity).
As for hairy arms, just do what makes you feel most comfortable. Hairy arms are not a turn off for me, they are part of who you are. But if you are not happy just keep waxing!
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for the new advice, i guess if i am embarased about the arm hair then i am better off without it :) Tattoos though i am going to ask my boyfriend what he thinks and go from there x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): One of the things that first attracted me to my current girlfriend were her two tattoos. Both are tastefully designed and tastefully located. So, I would say that, when done well, I find a moderately tattooed woman very attractive. It really depends, though. It's delicate to balance the location, design, colors and quantity of tattoos. Assuming that your tattoos aren't going anywhere, I think you need to embrace them rather than be embarrassed about them. They're a part of you now, for better or worse.As far as body hair is concerned, the call is yours. I'm of the opinion that the less body hair, the better. If you're self-conscious about your arm hair, the situation can be easily remedied. It's your decision, though. No one should make you feel like you HAVE TO shave/wax your arms, or any other part of your body for that matter. The choice really needs to be yours!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): Well I must say I don't mind hairy women at all. Nothing wrong with hairy arms, it's quite natural. Forget the waxing for a bit and see if you get a negative response from your boyfriend. Tattoos however, are a different matter. I think they're butch, especially on the arms. With the money your saving on waxing, get the 'toos laser-removed. But then, that's just my opinion!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDevilish Angel thank you for your excellent advice, i will try to open up more to him and see what he think. Thanks also to LazyGuy i thought that may be the case, i am glad i went though with the waxing :)
Anymore opinions would be great!
Thanks again x
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (31 March 2008):
 To be honest, no body hair of that sort is not exactly a turn-on. Soft downy blonde hairs can be cute, but long black hairs on the arm, no. On the whole I would suggest you keep up the waxing.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (31 March 2008):
 Do whatever you need to do to feel better about yourself but don't change who you are because your boyfriend is with you because of what he saw when he first saw you.
Why don't you just tell him of your insecurities?
It's make things alot more clear.
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