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writes:I masturbate but it doesn't feel as good as people say it does. what happens down there when you orgasm. i stimulate myself but it doesn't seem to work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): A few years ago, I found it impossible to get any pleasure out of masturbation and became increasingly stressed about my sexual tension - this is not the way to go! Masturbation is different for everybody, because everybody likes different things but the main thing to remember is not to expect too much - or you'll probably get nowhere. When you want to masturbate choose a time and a place where you're unlikely to be interrupted for a long time. You should make sure you're very comfortable and relaxed - I'd recommend lying down in a bed with your knees up like the pregnancy stance if you're not very experienced. If you've had trouble getting pleasure before, then for your first time you may want to forget about actual penetration - most women can orgasm on clitoris stimulation alone. Try lots of different finger motions on your clit until you find one that suits you - this isn't something anybody can tell you, some women like a gentle, rhythmical, circular rub and others a hard, fast paced side to side rub, you'll know you've found something you like when it starts to feel pleasurable. Take your time and give yourself at least half an hour - don't expect to be quivering with pleasure after 5 minutes of half-hearted fumbling!Keep trying and stay relaxed and you'll soon find the way for you- when you find something that really works you can start to try different positions and add some penetration to make things more interesting but stay relaxed - if you're tense you just won't be able to relax and all your vaginal muscles will be tight making it impossible! When you orgasm, you'll just know it! I know that doesn't sound very helpful but it's very true. Most women describe a feeling of incredible pleasure that includes warmth from within, an energetic feeling of confidence, a soothing sense of calm and sometimes even head rush. Most women can tell a definite difference between normal pleasure and an orgasm - I've heard quite a few people describe it as being similar to when somebody tickles you - you really enjoy it but its so intense its almost hard to bear.Hope this helps! Good luck
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reader, Bobbyjo  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Take time and pay attention to your clit, as this is the most sensitive part if your body. Gently stroking and rubbing around this area will give u alot of pleasure. Dont rush it tho, u need to lay back relax and maybe read/watch something sexy or use a vibrator. U will know when u have an orgasm x
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Suppose that none of can speak for anyone else, but masturbation has never been nearly as pleasurable for me as good ole sex with a member of the opposite gender, therefore, it has been primarily an activity of the last resort category. Nevertheless, I do understand that it is a very good way for girls to explore their sexuality and learn their pleasure spots without the threat of pregnancy or other problems.
You provide little information to go on, but perhaps you have not discovered your G-spot, which might help you reach orgasm. And what "happens down there" includes wetness, contractions, warmth, perhaps some tingling and shudders - but much of it is mental, a huge release of tension. Overall, you may feel extremely relieved, elated, surprised, very happy or many other kinds of emotions. Men feel both similar and different kinds of release.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): ok thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): If your expectation is to high, then it won't feel good. If you are nervous, stressed, anxiety, sex will not feel good, and may feel numb.
It takes time for girls to get it right. Just go slowly as you masterbate, there is no hurry.
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