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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay so me and my boyfriend are in a really good secure relationship and we love each other a lot. However, when it comes to sex we both like to please one another. We both try hard to make sure the other is satisfied. I'm okay with everything apart from oral. I love giving him oral and he enjoys receiving it but today he wanted to 'return the favour' and 'go down on me' but i'm so self-conscious about it and so shy. I really want to see what it's like to have him do this to me. I let him kiss me in that area but then i chickened out and i told him to stop and that we'd do that another day. How can I let go of my inhibitions about that area being ugly and tasting/smelling unpleasant? I'd be really hurt if he hated it down there. Any tips on things i could do to make myself feel more comfortable and less worried about it would be helpful. And any tips or advice on what to do in preparation for receiving oral would also be appreciated. Thanks much.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Just freshen-up as you normally do for intimacy - do not overly scrub or any such thing - rinse and you will smell and taste wonderful to a man. Add just a bit of perfume if you wish, but only away from your vulva and perhaps just a slight dab near your anus. Licking perfumed skin is really not very enjoyable - hide it. If it is truly his first time, a close encounter with a woman's privates may seem quite aromatic and "personal" as well a bit "tangy" in taste. These are difficult concepts to explain, and every woman has her very own sweetness - but trust me, if he loves kissing you open-mouth, he will soon love kissing you in this much more intimate way.
You said that you have allowed him to "kiss" down below. Was it just the mound area or more deeply with your lips (labia) or vaginal opening exposed? If the latter, then he knows quite well your aroma and taste, and you should be totally comfortable letting your lover experience you with this intimacy. Suggest that he read my postings on cunnilingus by inquiry in the above search field, and let him begin to explore your marvelous womanhood. Let him go at his own pace, and you should relax and release in comfort.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 The more that you can communicate AND express to him all of your wishes, hopes and fears, the better. Sex is entirely Between The Ears, and the more that you and he share - and especially COMMUNICATE together, the better. You have to be totally comfortable and relaxed in order to receive pleasure, he is expressing his love and devotion by wanting to GIVE you pleasure. I KNOW - I am totally freaking out for you and I remember how Scary It All Was. THE Single Most Important thing is the fact that you are is that you love each other and just have faith in that! Honestly, just have faith in each other!
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