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30-35,
*ayladiann
writes:hey...i am a senior in a very small school. i have been going there for almost 5 years now...but the thing is almost all of the girls hate me there...they talk about me behind my back and call me stupid and a slut (and im still a virgin)...i just try to ignore it all and be the better person, but i feel like i have no friends...i dont know if its something im doing, if im a bad person? or what...but im really depressed and lonely...i stay to myself alot...i used to be really outgoing and fun, but now im not...i try to let it not get to me, and at school i act like nothing is wrong (i would never let them know they have hurt me) but i dont know what to do...any advice?
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reader, Addi +, writes (2 April 2008):
Those other girls are jealous. They see something in you that they wish they had. Your independent and not a loner. You should try to be more active in your school and branch out a bit. When people see that someone is independent or strong they will do anything to try and break you. When they do this pay them no mind. When they see it doesn't get to you they'll stop the teasing and try to befriend you.
You have matured much faster than those other girls. You don't seem interesting in the "hype" of gossip and aren't trying to conform. Keep it up do well in school. And when you graduate and get a high paying job you can wipe it in their faces and make them eat your dust. Keep your head up never let them see you down, thats when they pounce.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): I remember a girl in my year at school at a similar age to you who was being picked on by many people. In the end her parents complained to the head teacher and EVERYONE involved or not in the bullying stayed behind after school and was told plainly and simply it stopped or we would be out. I remember the culprits looked so ashamed of themselves. The bullying stopped immediately and in fact things were better than ever. This is a lot for you to cope with on your own and you should not feel intimidated in this way. The effects can be long lasting. Please consider, if you can, speaking discreetly with a teacher or older friend within your family circle if you can who could help you in practical ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): i'm guessing that your probably a very attractive girl. Thats why your getting the name calling . You said,,"Almost all the girls"...what about the girls that don't hate you? Listen girl, your almost outta there. Try not to let it get you down, i know its hard, but trust me, In a few years, those people won't matter.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (1 April 2008):
 You just need to realize that your life has only just begun. Everyone in the school age years experience rejection, and it is mainly due to the immaturity and often the cruelty of others. You are also still very young and probably a bit sensitive and immature, and you will learn in time that your life in school is but a passing moment in life, and that the world will soon enough be open to to you to make what you will of it. Don't worry, dear girl, just be happy and do not let such stupidness bother you. You are a wonderful person.
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