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writes:I found out yesterday that this girl I'm in love with likes this total loser, no one really likes him. This happened before too when my ex had history with a loser and got back together with him.I'm a cool guy, I have lots of friends, and I have a lot of girls wanting to go out with me, but I always choose these girls. Why do some girls go out with total losers?
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reader, frankie.says.relax  +, writes (6 November 2008):
 prehaps you just like a challenge.
or prehaps these girls just prefer guys who dont use having lots of friend or having lots of girls wanting them as some sort of personal quality.
show her that your kind and fun and loyal and that you have a sense of humour etc ... other things attract people rather than your percieved status of 'cool'.
then maybe she will go for you :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): You want to know why girls do that? It is only the ones who are secure in themselves. The ones who will go out with a guy she really likes instead of a poser like you who has "plenty of options." Hate to break it to you dude, but it's hard to get anything real out of a bunch of girls just trying to be popular by hanging all over you. Try looking inside the girls you are dating, instead of just what they look like. Unless that is you are just looking for sex and sex alone with no real relationship involved. Then yes...you get plenty of that. Maybe I'll be your therapist in a couple years...
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reader, extremityman +, writes (28 October 2008):
 I'm glad to hear that some girls dig losers. I would be called a loser by some right now. I'm at a low in my life. I got a degree in computer science but did nothing with it, and since it's from 2004 it's too old. Of course I did so much computer programming I got bored of it over 14 years. So my poor parents paid for an education for me and I didn't do much for myself with it. Now a couple of lower-caliber girls like me. Something about me they were attracted to. So I know how to answer your question by personal experience.
I'm not surprised girls like losers. Some girls are losers inside but you don't know it until maybe you hear about it later. Maybe something about her on the inside is reflected by this guy, and they are two of a kind in some way. Do you suppose they both like to smoke dope together, but don't go broadcasting it, and they know each other through a mutual friend?
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reader, dinosaurexx +, writes (28 October 2008):
 maybe because alot of popular guys seem like jerks?
(not saying you are a jerk, or you seem like one, but maybe she just isnt into popular guys, and doesnt want to deal with the drama of all the talk?)
its different for alot of girls
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): i dated plenty of losers and it's because i see the good in them. i have alot of standards that i look for in a relationship and the guys i choose has most of them. to others...they may think "what the hell is she thinking?" but i know what i want and willing to see if they got it or not. and there were guys that had a crush on me, but i never date them because i can tell that either we will be better off as friends or that i wasn't attracted to them. you are also young...so focus on females who do want you and forget the females that chooses the losers...their lost right? it's all about experience and finding the right one. give it time...but one question...are you sure you really want these females? or you just want someone you can't have and acting jealous? cause you are calling the other guys losers...i mean what makes them losers?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): "Loser" how? If he's a "bad boy" or bad person, that's one thing. If you're calling him a "loser" because he's a geek or not one of the cool kids, though, that reflects badly on YOU, and maybe it's that kind of attitude that makes some girls not attracted to you.
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reader, goingnuts +, writes (28 October 2008):
 Maybe she seems something in him that everyone else doesn't? My ex and I are complete opposites. My girl friends probably wouldn't have given him the time of day; but I think he's the greatest thing since sliced bread. There's just something that girls see in some guys that is irresistible.
You might even be better for her, and dating him is only going to improve your chances with her. Have you told her how you feel?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (28 October 2008):
 Who knows? In some cases it's the bad boy syndrome, or sometimes the "danger" element. But if he is simply a slob or a creep - who knows? Some girls believe that they can change or repair a man, but it is usually quite futile.
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