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writes:My boyfriend of 8 months, has in the last month has gone back to his ex wife without even telling me,i dont know what to do or think, we did not live together but i thought that he could have wrote a letter or something to tell me but i have not heard from him, i found out from his sister that they were back together, as she thought i needed to know, how do i move on, do i contact him to ask him why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): It has only been 7 days my baby daddy left me. I cannot get through this we were having a few problems but i thoght we could get through this. I met this man in 2005 and we were both in relationships so we were just having fun but when we both realize we were falling hard for each other I wanted to end the fling but we decided to leave our partners and move in together. after three months of madly in love he left me and married his childre mother. I was devestated and I found out I was pregnant with his only girl. I cried for months we slept together many times and in may of 2006 he left his new wife and we lived together two years until last monday while I was at work packed all his things and did not leave a note or dear john letter. I am devestated and I want him back I love him. I do not know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): I can certainly relate to your situation. I just came out of a 17 year marriage not expecting to get immediately involved with someone but I did. He relentlessly pursued me. He had just come out of a 6 year relationship where they were engaged until she left him for another man. He and I both had just returned to our hometown and were slowly settling in. We were together for 3 weeks. Every day and nt. stayed overnight w/ him during the last week together. I fell hard for this guy. Then, his 22 yr old son died from drug overdose. It rattled the entire family. I did what I could as far as emotional support, attended the funeral showing, but not the funeral since I had to work. all of a sudden, I didn't hear from him for 24 hrs. I tried calling him twice, but nothing. I assumed he was severly grieving and needed time. I went to his house the nt after the funeral, and found him there in bed with another woman. She was crying, he was consoling her. Devastated me. he did not follow me out of the house as I ran out crying. He did not call me to explain. nothing. I found out from a friend who attended the funeral that his ex returned out of sympathy and it looks as though she won. But no explanation from him whatsoever. I don't understand how a man can bring a woman so close to his heart and be a part of something special and then turn around and drop you like a hot potato with not so much as a sorry!! I agree with the majority: Know your mans story first. I figure any man over the age of 30 is going to have baggage that you will have to deal with. Make sure your not there while he's rebounding. they can sweet talk you, use you, leave your head spinning with love and desire, then turn there back on you. Its a mystery to me. Just know that like this man did, another will come into your life and quite possibly bring you a whole lot more than this man ever did. Its happened to me 7x so I look forward to the 8th now.
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reader, kkong30  +, writes (18 November 2008):
Mine did the same thing two weeks ago and they had been separated for two years. I got an email from him telling me he was still attached to her, although she's been living with another guy the whole time. He said he has to close the book once and for all with her in order to move forward with me. Her BF is being sentenced next Monday for drug charges and she's been begging her ex husband (my BF) to try again. He asked me to wait for him. What do you think? We were happy until she begged him to come back.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (3 November 2008):
 What a jerk!!! He didnt even have the courage to tell you what he was going to do!! Move on and forget him... Oh and if he comes begging for you to reconsider, its only cos his ex has dumped him again.
Honeygirl
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (3 November 2008):
 You have no choice but to accept him and move on.
And if he later calls and try to get back with you it's because his ex dumped him. So don't take him back because he is a loser and wasn't man enough to take responsibility
for his actions. What a coward thing to do. The least he could have done is to end it right. Say good riddence to him.
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reader, Cheater32 +, writes (3 November 2008):
 I so agree with the other Post. It is so messed up what he did. I however think that you need closer to this. It hurts and you need to end it. Let him know that you realize he has made a choice to move on and you dont want him to contact you or reach out to you anymore. That's it you have ended it on you're terms in that way. That is just my opinion. I know you are hurting and its so tempting to want him back. Understand that as a married person he is connected to the relationship he is in and will always be pulled in that direction.
Take care contact me personally whenever you want to chat.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (3 November 2008):
 In my opinion, you simply move on. There is probably no useful purpose in contacting him because he has made an obvious decision. Any contact will only prolong your angst. Try to keep in mind that any recently married man who is separated - or even divorced - is basically "on the rebound" and may return to the fold. You may want to consider at least two years out to be a reasonable gamble next time. And I very much agree that he was totally insensitive not to explain or give some kind of notice. In Texas he would be considered a jackass.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (3 November 2008):
 The best suggestion? Move on and forget it. Yeah, it's a terrible situation that he wasn't man enough to face you and tell you directly or leave that note you mentioned. I'm sorry it happened to you.
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