A
female
age
30-35,
*ix
writes:My boyfriend of a month just broke up for me today, and I'm reacting really badly to it. I had a foreboding it would happen, and now that it has I'm really upset, even though I tried to prepare myself the best I could for what I knew was coming. I just want to know what things I could do to help me cope with the pain I'm feeling? Although we only were in a relationship for a month, I felt really close to him, sexually and emotionally. He broke it off with me today (after we had sex this morning!) seemingly on a whim because we don't have the "spark". And although I can agree, I feel that we should have stayed in a relationship to see if it would come to us...He says he'll still be my friend and be there for me, but it still hurts. I just want to know ways I can get over him and just be content with him being my friend, and move on. It is also extra bad because we share the same circle of friends at school, and he is in my program and all of my classes. I need to be able to move on so that I can't get ultra-jealous every time he talks to another girl.
View related questions:
a break, broke up, move on Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, DoubleM  +, writes (2 November 2008):
 To begin with, please be aware that you are still very young and that you have years and years of good emotions ahead. But there will occasionally be disappointments. From an older man's point of view (and some of us are sensitive too), you will learn that you just have to put things behind you. I know, it's not easy - especially when he will still be around. My suggestion is to begin a new relationship right away - it does not have to be sexual too soon, but start dating as soon as possible. It sounds trite, but I know the feeling as one who has suffered more ended affairs than you can imagine - dozens and dozens. The good part is that you learn from each and every one of them. Best wishes.
A
female
reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (2 November 2008):
 This must be really hard. I guess there is no 'best way' of coping with a break up. All you have to do is take it day by day, it may get easier, and maybe go out, you may find someone else you like more than him. Sorry, this isn't really the best advice, but it's all I can say really. The pain you are feeling should go away, not quickly, you've said how strongly you feel about this guy, but in time, it should get easier. Staying friends will probably be hard, but it's better to be friends than nothing, right? You will probably have to think about this, think whether it will be easier to get over him, while remaining friends.
Hope everything goes okay.
...............................
|
