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writes:ok so i am 13 i have been going out with this guy and he is 16 i know that tere is a huge difference betweeb our ages but im just in love and i know that he loves me too. i really want to have sex with him we both want that really bad but then i think that im too young and that it might hurt. im scared to try sex hes not a virgin so e has experience but im also scared of how i look naked and stuff i need help should i have sex with this i really love him but im just scared of this whole sex thing i want to know if having sex will be the right thing Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (26 November 2008):
 Be afraid, be very afraid!
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reader, Myprince  +, writes (26 November 2008):
Totally agree with 'hotpinkgirl'. You are way too young for sex. It can be so complicated. Do you also realise that your boyfriend or anyone else could go to prison for having sex with you?
Now for some brotherly advice, take your time... like I always say... there are probably a million other ways to enjoy your teenage years & youth than sex. At such a tender age, sex could scar you for a very long time. I'm a 27 year old guy and I was a virgin ntill 23 and I dont regret waiting coz it gave me enough time to really understand what sex is.
'hotpinkgirl.... you are so right, I couldnt have put it any better.... you too 'mandythemulk'
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): forget the diference between your ages, how young you are, whatever. the thing that really matters is if you're comfortable with your boyfriend and with the idea of sex.
my advice: talk with your friends, maybe some older girls, about their experiences with sex, how it was for them their first time, stuff like that - so you can feel more comfortable with it, and read about it online or in books too.
however, be sure you take the time to think it through before you decide to have sex. try this - some time when you wake up in the morning and you're really really relaxed, just lie in bed and ask yourself "am i completely comfortable with having sex right now in my life?" Wait for a minute or two (like literally a minute), and just notice how your body feels. if the answer really is yes, it will be obvious. however, if you feel even slightly strange about it, then your body is telling you you should wait.
just remember - if you feel uncomfortable, its so easy to wait a little while (you have your whole life to have sex, anyway), but if you do it before you're ready, you can never go back. keep that in mind.
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reader, mandythemulk +, writes (25 November 2008):
I think if you have to ask yourself that question then you are having sex too soon. I had sex for the first time when I was 14, I am now 29. It hurt, I felt bad afterwards and thinking back now I wish I had never done it.
Until you are comfortable enough with your own naked body, able to speak about sex in a mature manner and have spoken with your parents, then NO - you should not do it.
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