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writes:if i am a virgin and someone sticks there two fingers into my vagina like a shove almost and i bleed afterwards is that losing my virginity? because i have been very close to losing my virginity before. like one time i thought i lost it because someone's penis entered through but we both had on clothes so they didn't go very far. but i did lose some of my innocence. so i was wondering if i was bleeding and i still can remember it was that my first time? because it is a known fact that if when you lose your virginity you will never forget the person or place and it always pops up in my head even when i'm not thinking about it. so was that my first time even though it was through a finger? please tell me. i wanna know if i am still a virgin or not. because it's kind of confusing to me and after it happened i felt the feeling in my heart from the finger. so it's like the finger was the first
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reader, MissUnique  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 It doesn't matter wether or not your hymen is 'busted' you are still a virgin. Even tampons can tear the hymen. Even though I've said it in another post and every other person has also told you so....YOU ARE ONLY A VIRGIN IF YOU HAVE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE!!!Which you haven't. It doesn't matter wether or not you think about it all the time. You are still a complete VIRGIN!!!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (19 November 2008):
 You are a virgin until you have sexual intercourse, which is vaginal penetration by a male penis. It is as simple as that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): Here's what I think: Your virginity is not a medical condition - it is a state of mind and body. If a 5 year old girl tears her hymen falling down, we'd probably all agree that she's still a virgin. You lose your virginity when you have consexual sex for the first time.Hope this helps. Assert yourself and say no if someone is doing something that doesn't feel right, and have fun!
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (19 November 2008):
 You have been traumatized by what happened. You probably feel some guilt about letting things go that far. It troubles you for fear that you are now tainted as they would say. Fearing that a new guy perhaps will look down on you for having this happen. A good guy will try his best to understand.
When the thought enters your mind just try to focus on something else and remember that you DIDN'T HAVE INTERCOURSE. Your intentions weren't even to go this far and it just happened. Two fingers being forced inside can cause stretching of the hymen to occur, which is also what happens during intercourse. Because it was strectched to far, too quickly it caused it to tear.
Don't continue to torture yourself over something that you regret, learn from the situation and move on. Next time be more cautious of letting things go this far as you could wind up NOT BEING A VIRGIN.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (19 November 2008):
you are still a virgin. when a guy penetrates you with his penis, you loose your virginity
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): "you're still a virgin, its when you have full sex that lasts + the lad finishes it off inside you at the end means you're not a virgin anymore!"
I have to disagree with the 2nd part of this. As long as you have had a penis inside your vagina then you are no longer a virgin. He doesn't have to finish inside you. If that is the case, would you still be a virgin if he used a condom?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut what if i can still remember it?it doesn't never leave my mind since it happened.i still think about it even when i don't want to.also when i am with another guy it pops up.does that means it gone?i mean come on now,it's busted for christ sakes!
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reader, MissUnique +, writes (19 November 2008):
You're still a virgin. 100%
The only way you lose your virginity is if you actually have proper sexual intercourse (sex)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): Hun virginity is a psychological not a medical condition. If a girl who never had any sexual act was raped for instance, would that make her not virgin while a girl who'd been with loads of guys, kissed, gave head , and all the stuff except intercourse, a virgin?! You might've lost your hymen over this incidence, but since we don't live in the middle ages any more it's not a big deal. Enjoy, but choose the right person.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (19 November 2008):
The physical integrity of an unbroken hymen denotes the actual meaning of Virginity. However it is concluded that a woman who hasn't partaken in sexual intercourse is therefore a Virgin. The hymen is valued as a sign and seal of a woman's Virginity. When it is broken by other means than sexual intercourse it is presumed that a woman is still a Virgin.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): you're still a virgin, its when you have full sex that lasts + the lad finishes it off inside you at the end means you're not a virgin anymore!
its not sexual intercourse a finger is it? thats just having fun like something different. so you are still a virgin!
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