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writes: After years of sexless marriage, is there a hope that sex will come alive again, or is it over forever? How many years of no sexual desire from my husband should be enough for divorce? Or most marriages will end up with no sex? I wonder so much, what is the truth? If it's over, I guess, we need to move on? Or am I wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): Here is some more detales...
It'' been more than 4 years.
He went to doctors, he has no medical problems
He has nocturnal erections.... so, it works
He just gradually stoped having desire
NO doctors, or himself seem to know why is this happening.
He went to psychologist too. He didn't find any real big cause.
This is my biggest pain,that I don't know why...
But , he says it's not me, and he wants to stay with me..
I hope it's enough detales. Thanks for any input.
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reader, pshalom  +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Don't lose hope. There's a root cause to every problem. Don't treat the symptoms but dig deep to find out why your husband is no longer interested. If it is some dysfunction, he may tell you although I would add that men generally don't like admitting any form of sexual disability - it makes them feel like failures. If this is the problem you would need to lead him into the subject e.g. by talking about other couples. Be a good listener - you may extract some hidden answers from his responses.
You could have hurt him repeatedly with criticism and other things, and he may have recoiled and decided to ignore you. In this case, you would need to "unwind" the damage caused over time by being nice and gentle. Don't belittle him in any way, just show him love. If this fails seek marriage counsel from a professional.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Little to go on here. Who knows? Sex may never "come alive" between you if neither are willing to initiate or be receptive to doing something different. There is no way for amateur advisors to suggest what that may be given the limited input, but introducing things that have not previously been tried may add some spark. Sexual activity has many possibilities.
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