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writes:I am 16 and my boyfriend is almost 15. I got to thinking about sex and thought i might be ready, but my boyfriend has already told me he just isn't ready yet, that he wants it to be special and when it's right. So, what do I do if I think I am ready and he isn't? Reply to this Question
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reader, Myprince  +, writes (24 November 2008):
I think you boyfriend is a wise young man.... He was not only honest with you but isn't also illegal to have sex with him at his ago. You could also get into more serious trouble especially that you are over the age that you can give conscent and him not as yet ( depending on what state you are in).Honestly, I dont think you should be having sex at your age. You may feel that you are in love but you should take your time before you do. There are so many ways to enjoy teenage years without sex.
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reader, katatonik +, writes (24 November 2008):
 He's a year younger than you are, and boys often mature emotionally at a slower rate than girls do. Try to remember that a year ago YOU wouldn't have felt ready for sex and maybe you will have an easier time respecting his wishes on this one. I promise you, you will never regret waiting to have sex...and I'm not talking "until marriage" or any other religious agenda, just until you can say not "I think that I'm ready" but rather "I KNOW that I'm ready." Good luck =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): sex should be something many people do when they are truly in love. if you think you are truly in love and you are ready to make such a commitment that can only be made once then let your guy know. if he still feels that he is not ready yet, be understanding. this isn't an easy thing for some people. just let him know how you feel and give him time. when the time is right you both will know and it will be special, or at least it should be.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (24 November 2008):
 Well, respect him and his admirable wishes, but talk about whether some heavy petting might be okay. There are a lot of things you can do together that stops short of sexual intercourse, which if unprepared and not properly informed is likely to result in life-changing circumstances. Early pregnancy can result is disastrous responsibilities for young people. Think "poverty or mediocrity verses better education, success and great opportunities."
Still, I understand the urges - I experienced it all myself nearly a lifetime ago. But you have many options such as individual or mutual masturbation, petting (feeling up each other), hand jobs, fingering, dry-humping, etc. Even oral sex is a fairly acceptable option that will not result in premature pregnancy. Are you really ready for sexual intercourse at a very young age, including all the consequences?
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