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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I have been with my boyfrined for afew years now. Atfirst our sexlife was great but it has slowly gone downhill. Before we got togther I had watched porn with ex boyfreinds and loved it. However when we got together and tried to watch it I felt uncomfortable and insecure. The other boyfriends didnt mean anything however this on ereally does so am thinking that this is why. Since being with him I have got my own flat and now have the privacy to watch porn on my own whenever i want. This is quite frequently. The more I watch porn the less i get turned on by him, is this why? or is the reson i watch it because of our sexlife? Its like a circle!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (26 November 2008):
 Most pornography that I have seen appears to be directed to the male market, so it is interesting to me that females indulge on their own, but times have changed, I suppose, due to ease of availability. While I support the freedom of expression and admit having "used" porn on occasion during periods when alone, it has no purpose for me when there is a woman in my life. I think that anyone can become so addicted to the fantasies that it detrimentally affects normal male-female relationships. Perhaps as the anonymous female reader below indicated, it is "a balancing act." It would be wise, I think, to use it as an arousal tool when needed or desired, but less as a guide to normal sexuality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): Try stopping for a bit and see if it has any effect, thats the only way to know for sure! I myself watch a lot of porn mostly just stuff with men though, the women are a turn off for me, and It helps me to get aroused and want sex with my man. But if you watch it too much maybe you won't like your boyfriend as much as the porn actors, or you will get desensitized to it. it's a balancing act, just remember that your boyfriend isnt a porn star and never will be, they are in porn for a reason and you cant expect every man to look like that, just keep it as a fantasy! close your eyes and pretend! haha
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