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writes:Ok This is really bugging me now so I despratley need some help please. I'll try cut a long story short.Basically I have been mates with this girl for 9 years and we met up back in March and she was engadged to get married but then she said she wanted to be wiv me so she left him and we were together for about two weeks all is fine, then i get a phone call from her mate saying she was just using me for sex and she didnt want anything to do with me and we were never together. I spoke to her and she said iv just come out of a 4 year relationship iu dont want another one right now. Even tho we were she asked me out she said " Can i be ur girl" and u make me sooo happy and i cant stop thinking aboutu...I was kinda hurt so just tryed my best to move on a week later she txt me saying she misses me soo much and she cant stop thinking about me, I am on holiday in america she txt me the first 3 days says how much she cant wait till i get back so i can see her..then she stoped txting me so i txt her and she sed oh hey sorry im just with my new fella, hes a really nice guy.So im like did she just use me for sex? why was she txting me and then she got with another guy when she sed she didnt want a relationship when she kept saying i made her sooo happy?Please help me as its doing my head in and im so sorry for the long question.Where do i stand do i question her or just foget about it? Im allways getting hurt my girls and i dont think i deserve it.Thanks in advance xx
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (9 May 2009):
 My best advice would be to avoid becoming too emotionally involved quickly with any young woman these days. Although you have have been friends for a good while, the sex was apparently recent and short-lived. So . . . you have enjoyed her "pleasures" . . . and you may well have the opportunity to do so again if you choose, but just don't get hung-up on her. She is possibly playing the field and using you for in-between shagging. That could certainly be risky with a girl who is getting around, but you can play it safe and still have some fun if you wish. Finally - Realize one thing in life. Women will come and go, and a true life mate is very hard to find. Enjoy the play.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): I don't know what the he_l is going on with her but definitely just back away slowly and run. She is absolutely not a safe person to get involved with. She can't committ and can't be faithful and has no idea what she wants. If you want to stop being hurt bu girls, by HER, then get yourself out of the situation that is potentially hurtful.
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