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*elshlass86
writes:I have been with my partner for 5 years now..and recently he has been asking me to give him oral alot. I dont mind doing it, because i love him and want to satisfy him, but i find it incredibly boring (he says he enjoys it when i do it) but is there anything i can do to get myself enjoying giving him oral? any techniques/tips or anything? He also keeps on that i dont swallow his cum or even let him ejaculate in my mouth - its because i dont like the taste of cum - is there something wrong with me because i dont like it? what can i do to enjoy it more?Please Help!Thanks for your answers and tips!
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reader, MonicaC  +, writes (10 June 2009):
 The brain is the sexiest human organ and if that part of you is stimulated, then the rest will follow. If it isn't stimulated, well, then the rest of you isn't either. So, if you want more from the giving of oral, maybe you should try to enhance the entire sexual experience and not just the one part. For example, you could try to make the build-up longer, the tease more intense and therefore the oral process shorter and more explosive. You could vary things a bit by giving him oral in different positions. You could turn him on by putting him into a submissive role and making him plead for it a bit? :) Just some thoughts...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): ever try the 69 position? maybe both of you giving and recieving pleasure at the same time would not be as dull...
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reader, el.neumann +, writes (8 June 2009):
Funny you should say its boring since I was starting to think about that last night going down on my man.This is how you turn it around:You have to be happy with this little intimate session you two are having too. Meaning, you have to know that he is going to do the same for you, has done the same for you already, or that you are being equally pleasured. If you feel like you are just giving and giving to him and feel like you just want to be pleasured right now instead, then its going to be boring. It will only make you want to "get it over with" which is NOT the attitude you want give him oral with, it makes both of you unhappy.Now, if you are just as into this little love-making session as he is, start by looking at his naked body lying there, how sexy he looks, how he is all yours. Have him lie on his back, completely naked, and pursue him in a way that makes you feel like YOU ARE IN CONTROL and he knows it. This will get you exited, I promise. Then begin to passionately and lightly, breathily kiss down his torso and then up the insides of his thighs. Do all this with vigor: THIS IS ABOUT YOU HAVING FUN TOO! At this point, you need to continue with pleasuring him in a way that is fun for you too. Dont just say to yourself, "Ok, I just need to put him in my mouth, then increase the speed, then wait for him to climax." NO this will not get you anywhere. You need to imagine at the same time that you are HIM, lying there, try to imagine what would feel good to you. If you do this correctly, YOU will become just as turned on. This IS FUN, I know. It only gets boring for me when I forget to let myself be a part of it too, and instead just try to "get it over with." **Imagine the kind of passion and vigor you would want him to pleasure you with, and then DO THAT.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (31 May 2009):
 Interesting issue. Allow me to turn the table. I can suggest that giving oral to a woman is equally boring - or somewhat tedious for me - but cunnilingus certainly seems to drive every woman I've ever sexually known up the wall. Many had their first ever orgasms as a result of tongue and massage technique.
Sexual enjoyment is both participatory and a service to a partner. I think that every simultaneous contact between male and female genitals, such as coitus, is mutual stimulation - while oral and most other activities are providing a service to the receiving partner.
In other words, while giving a woman cunnilingus may tire my tongue and make my jaws hurt, I enjoy it because I'm giving her such pleasure. It also turns me on to be stimulating her so intimately. It can be considered a chore, but since I'm aware of the pleasures I'm providing, I do so willingly and with enthusiasm. In my opinion, it is an art form.
Perhaps the problem here is that you are not also frequently also the receiver. If he is not also providing oral satisfaction for you, then you certainly have good cause to be "bored" with your sexual relationship and he is being selfish. Oral is give and take.
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reader, Justjones  +, writes (30 May 2009):
 Well, as far as boring goes. Yea, it is!Here's a few things you can try, put a piece of ice in your mouth while your giving him oral. (it keeps you busy and the hot cold sensation will drive him crazy)If you want him to cum in your mouth or he wants to cum in your mouth, try getting him to drink fruit juice or eating ALOT of Skittles two hours before. It works and whatever flavor he eats, is what flavor he'll be. ( it works on girls too! more so with Skittles than anything else.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): First of all, there is no problem if there are other parts of the sexual act that you enjoy more (maybe the prelude, or the intercourse itself) but I hope my assumption is correct in that you don't totally dislike giving oral sex (since you are doing it) but rather want to draw more interestingness out of it. Do you find his penis beautiful or are just doing oral for his sake? This is important and should be dwelled on. It is more pleasant to perform oral when you are convinced of the beauty of his sexual organ. For this you may need to 'study' it more closely, for example not only touch it but also try and define how it feels, how it makes him feel and how you feel by touching, tasting, caressing it and so on, and just be in a mind frame that allows you to do all these. Something like 'A thing of beauty is a joy forever'. I apologise to Keats as it is not this which he had in mind when he wrote the poem. Good idea about not proceding mechanically that the other aunt pointed out. By proceeding with love and tenderness oral sex will be much more enjoyable. It is not like porn sex that is in its vast majority mechanical and barren, as there are no feelings involved. Porn can be good in other aspects but I won't debate that here. You can even watch those 'step by step tutorials' but apply them with the above mentioned ingredients, lovingly and passionately. You must be disinhibited (or tend to be so) to the point you can explore yourselves freely in intimacy and discover what you like.There is nothing wrong about not liking the fluids' taste. In this case you can use a towel to delicately spit the fluid and continue from where you left off, the kisses and the great romance. As for improving the tecnique, there are many sites that will describe that thoroughly at only a 'googling' away!
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reader, *plac* +, writes (30 May 2009):
 I myself find oral sex kind of boring, so what I do when I'm with my boyfriend is trying to make as less mechanical as possible. I tease him a lot with kissing, licking and biting his body in general, so it comes off more naturally when I give him oral sex.
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reader, Matt489 +, writes (30 May 2009):
If he's enjoying it then your doing it right. Your not abnormal for not wanting him to cum in your mouth alot of women don't like the taste of cum. Im sure your boyfreind will be happier with you not swallowing but being happy in bed with him. As far as making oral more interesting for you, you could try coating his member in chocolate or try using a dildo or vibrator on yourself while you do it. Just try new things and have fun.
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