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writes: Ok, hi people!I've been having some trouble trying to understand something, so thort you guys could help!?!i'll try keep this short, and i hope im not to explicit, or too confusing.Basically i know im gay, and have known like forever.But the thing is i dont really get turned on by lesbian porn, i do a little bit but not that much.I get turned on much more by straight porn, but i find it hard to understand because im gay. I see lesbian porn as a more loving thing rather then pure ravaging sex, i think this may be why i dont get turned on as i look and think 'aww how sweet' (weird i know).I've had a few boyfriends, but it never felt right and i always longed for a girls company. I've also had a few girlfriends and being with them is more then i could ever ask for. When having sex with girls i like giving oral and i like receiving oral, that turns me on loads.When watching straight porn i start to picture in my head that it is me giving the girl all this pleasure, and im instantly aroused. I do get turned on by lesbian porn more if toys are involved. I've never used a toys but would like to very much, im quite girly normally, but when it comes to the bedroom i like to be the male and be the more dominant one.Anyway, basically i want to know if this is noraml?? i know i dont want to be with guys and dont really find myself attracted to them, so could it just be the fact that i want to pleasure girls the same way??I have never ever questioned this before, it was only when my girlfriend thort it would be 'fun' to watch a selection or porn films.But do you girls like using toys during sex (it's not just for pornography right??), i've never done any of that sort of thing and wonderd if i should suggest it to my girlfriend?? Ok i think that's about it, keeping it short went out the window..but oh well.All help would make me very grateful, as this just wont leave my head!!thankyoubobbie xo.xo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2018): i’m a lesbian as well and i totally relate to what you mean!! oh my thank you for sharing this so much :) it has helped me feel more normal! x
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (14 June 2009):
 You indeed may be homosexual, but based on several things said, you indicate possible bisexuality. In my experience, some apparent lesbians can be equally pleasured by a man who really knows how to perform cunnilingus at length - followed by vaginal penetration. Sometimes, a three-way with an experienced male and another bisexual woman can be an ultimate experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for answering my question, it has eased my concerns so much already, it's strange how sharing something can take the weight off your mind. I suggested the toys to my girlfriend and she's up for it so thanks vensid889 i definalty took that advice :) Thanks again people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): You don't need to wonder about this. Thanks to science a large study at a medical university was completed on this subject in the last couple of years.
The subjects were heterosexual and homosexual men and women. Video scenes of sexual activity between: men & men, men & women, and women & women were shown to the subjects individually. Results were determined by survey AND with monitors attached to the subjects to detect sexual arousal.
The results were as follows:
Homosexual men were aroused by: men with men
Heterosexual men were aroused by: men with women, and women with women
Homosexual women were aroused by: women with women.
Heterosexual women were aroused by: men with women, and women with women.
The results in a study like this are not absolute and there is always variation about the mean value. That means that in your self-selected category (homosexual women) there was a lot of overlap and not precise Yes/No answer.
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reader, Skellington +, writes (13 June 2009):
 Well, I'm a little clueless on this one...
Although, I kinda get what you're saying. I'm a straight male and even though I watch straight porn, I also watch lesbian porn. And, you guessed it, the lesbian porn gets me hornier. @__@
Anyway, I think what you're used to is going to have less of an impact on you than something you're not used to. Although, my girlfriend is bi and gets equally turned on by all porn!! So it's just a little confusing.
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reader, yensid889 +, writes (13 June 2009):
Well, i for one am straight, and I can be turned on by lesbian porn. I watch all different types of porn and I think that usually it is the sexual ACT itself that you are turned on by. Also, (coming from a straight woman, so take it or leave it) I think you would really enjoy using toys during sex!! It adds an element of unpredictability to the same old same old.
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