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writes:I'm a female in my late 30s who has recently noticed that my labia looks different from others in adult movies or pictures. My lips hang down a bit. I'm not tight like those I've seen in pictures. Before someone asks if it's from excessive use - NO. I've always been this way, even as a virgin. It's only been recently that I've noticed I'm different. So my question is, is a loose labia a turn off to men? Or women for that matter? Is it uncommon? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): Thanks to all of you for your answers. I appreciate each of you taking time to assure me that I'm normal. Thanks to all of the gents for letting me know it isn't a turn off. Emily, thank you for making me laugh about it. And to the anonymous poster who said, ".. I'm guessing you been with men before and they haven't said anything so why are you worrying about it?" You're absolutely right. No one has ever mentioned it. I let the images get to me.
Again, thanks ladies and gents. All the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): I agree with everyone else here - and speaking purely from a man's point of view it doesn't matter what your bits look like as long as there's a vagina in there somewhere. There's no such thing as 'normal' when it comes to labia shapes and sizes. Large lips are good for keeping a man's nose warm anyway! Seriously though, you don't have a thing to worry about. No man is ever going to be turned off by how it all looks down there. As we men are told often enough, 'It's not what you've got - it's how you use it that counts'.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (29 April 2009):
 Some plastic surgery does occur. I think the question for you is does it cause you a problem physically? The next thing is that if you still feel uncomfortable, seek medical advice and get it sorted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): By your age, I'm guessing you been with men before and they haven't said anything so why are you worrying about it?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 April 2009):
Sweetheart, have you noticed that those other women in these movies etc also have ridiculously perfect boobs? and very blonde hair? and very pink lipstick?
They are in porn because their genital area looks like that. They are picked because of the way they look down there. If you notice, their faces are often not that pretty... this is because that is not where men are going to be looking.
It's NOT REAL LIFE!!!
You can't compare real life to porn. I bet you also differ from porn in that you may need foreplay and don't pull stupid faces and don't get turned on by very ugly men and scream about wanting it in your face.
None of us are perfect down there.
Please don't mistake the women in porn for actual real women... they are blow up dolls personified. It's exactly the same as a man looking at the size of the male porn stars and feeling bad.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (29 April 2009):
 Must totally agree withe anonymous poster that men generally do not care about that. Just don't worry anymore and best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): Hello! I have the exact same thing and i am 20!! I've never had anyone (a bloke) say anything bout it! Every1 is differnt and unless it causes discomfort when wearing tigh clothes, its not really a problem. Don't get me wrong i get really self concious about it but i never have a reason to be!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): No it is not uncommon - we are all different in one way or another. And comparing yourself to what you see in porn is not a good idea - a lot of those women have surgery to make themselves look 'neater'. The last thing a man will think about is how you look, it is more about how you feel and how responsive you are.......
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