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writes:Help here please I am in a relationship with a man and we are both in our mid 60.s we have sex on a regular basis but the last couple of times we have ,i think he has been faking it and i'm wondering if i should say something to him about this or just let it be as he may get upset if i do ,he is loving and always see's my needs are met but i don't want him to think he always has to have an orgasm just because he may think i might wonder if i don't do it for him anymore but maybe men around his age can run into problems now and again and i want to let him know i understand but should i say anything about it or not. I know men can be very sensitive about this subject. help please some advice thank you
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (3 May 2009):
 Yes, older men (I'm 60-something) can have issues, such as erectile dysfunction and inability to ejaculate at times. For some the issues may be chronic, but I think that most men with such problems can still enjoy sexual activities.
The causes can vary, but one of the very frequent culprits are prescribed medications, such as hypertension drugs like beta-blockers. One solution, other than alternate high-blood pressure treatment, can include sildenafil citrate tablets such as Viagra.
In my opinion, you would probably do no good by confronting your man about this, especially if it has only occurred a couple of times. Let him deal with it and you should enjoy whatever he can accomplish. In my opinion, you should probably be thrilled if he can maintain an erection. That alone deserves a nice blowjob on occasion, whether he cums or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): Hi - I know how you feel as sometimes my boyfriend just seems like he can't be bothered to orgasm. He is keen to please me which is lovely but I feel like we only half have sex. I mentioned all this to him and he took it badly and now says he feels paranoid and that he is expected to orgasm each time. Though he has not faked it I have made the assumptions on a couple of occasions that he has reached orgasm. My advice is that you will have to discuss it because once you start thinking something like you are it keeps niggling away and it will affect your sex life eventually. HOwever the way you approach it is important. I think emilyanswers has got it spot on. You can imply something without really saying it.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 May 2009):
You are right when you say they can be sensitive. This is going to be very tricky.... and yes I would be tempted to leave him to it rather than deal with the issue.
If you do want to talk to him about it then just tell him how sexy he makes you feel and how amazing he is in bed. Just say that you wish you could do more for him so you know he's enjoying it even more.
Then give him the big eye treatment and tell him that he should know he can be honest with you about things in the bedroom.
If he wants to talk about it then that's up to him after that. The ball is in his court so to speak.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): I think you should ask him straingt or look inside his condom ans when there is nothing ask him then if that was a fake - I'm 27 so I don't really know if you have sperm at that age bt if he does then see it yourself and then you will know
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