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writes: sick of them going on about it .all my friends keep going on about my best friends boyfriend .and how she needs to tell her parents the truth but to be quiet honest why should she tell them she is going her bf's when they don't agree on her seeing him .#he is a decent lad she is 16 he is 18 and here parents are worried about her gcse's can you give me some advice on what to tell her please.they said they don't want to split upshould she tell her parents she is going his?
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (7 December 2010):
 Suuuuuuuurrrre they haven't. I've got a great deal for you too. I know this Nigerian millionaire who is fleeing his country and he need people to stash his money for him. I can hook you two up. He'll even give you a cut for helping!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni mean go to his house for a few hours a night or something and they haven't even kissed or nothing yet
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): I agree with dirtball, love conquers everything including illiteracy. Who cares about having a good education when she knows she'll be with this guy forever? Popping out babies on the dole in a council estate. What better life is there?
If her unfair and downright mean parents want her to "secure" her future first then they just can't handle the fact that she has a love stronger than anyone else ever has, an unbreakable love that is worth more than all the money in the world. They're just jealous, they don't know how wonderful he is and how much he loves her. So they just want to spoil her fun and make her unhappy, that's all, they just can't handle that she is happy now because they're jealous they've never had a love like their daughter has now and they just don't know what it's like to be her, they don't know how hard it is to be a teenager, no one does!
Stay out of it OP, don't tell her anything, she has enough friends telling her to tell her parents she doesn't need another one telling her how to live her life. In fact she's just going to do the opposite of what you say anyway because she's a teenager in love. She has this "us against the world" "Edward and Bella together forever" mentality now with this guy so just let her get on with it and focus on your own life. She will make her own mistakes and if her grades suffer then that in itself is just another lesson in life. Just make sure you don't do the same thing, no guy is worth risking your future over at such a young age.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 December 2010):
All you meanies... Let love reign I say! She won't need the GCSE's when she gets pregnant in a couple months at the rate she's going. Then she can live with him when her parents kick her out. Then they can raise their love baby together. Until he gets scared and disappears. Then she can try to find a job, but without having gone to college, she'll only find a minimum wage job where she can barely support herself. It's the future dreams are made of! Isn't it?
Her parents are right to be concerned about her, but it's her life to live. As a friend you just have to give advice when it's asked for, but you cannot interfere in her life. She won't realize the mistakes she's making now till it's too late.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): Her parents are right about her GCSE's. Maybe you could tell her that although shes excitied about her boyfriend if her GCSE's are rubbish then she has messed up her future oppertunities. Perhaps tell her if she concentrates more on her GCSE's she can get a better job with better pay and be able to afford to live with her boyfriend one day-anything to do with her boyfriend will probably get her listening!
She should tell her parents-yes they might not agree but if she can show them she can act responsibly and like an adult then they will treat her like one and may change their minds.
If she refuses to tell them and nothing you say changes her mind then remind her that she should get herself on the pill and use condoms! Otherwise her parents may wonder how she got pregnant and all the lies will come out anyway!
Best of Luck X
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (7 December 2010):
 As in spend the night at his house? Or live there? Be more specific.
What business is of it of her friend's what she does with her boyfriend? I totally understand everyone's concern but your friend is going to do what she wants regardless of what her parents or her friends say.
Your friends are also right she should tell her parents the truth, eventually they'll find out. They were once her age, and they're not blind or stupid. If she's going to live there, then she'll have to tell her parents and brace herself for a battle. Now, if she's just going to spend the night..she doesn't have to tell them exactly where she's going or who's house she's staying at. But like I said, her lies will catch up with her and her parents will find out.
P.S. GCSE's are much more important than spending time with your boyfriend.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 December 2010):
She probably should. But she won't. And it's not your job to tell them on your behalf.
I would suggest to her that she just focuses on her GCSE's, rather than him. And also explain that you won't be drawn into lying for her, because you don't want to get into trouble.
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