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writes:Ok i am curious..i myself when i am having Sex with my fiance he is all i think about, not any other men or nothing like that, i have been like that with all guys i have had Sex with..i only get off on what is in front of me and what i am feeling, but my Q is are guys different, i mean do they think about everything like a big nice ass they seen earlier or a girls tits they like or do lots of things go through there mind that is making them Hott, i hope this makes sence what i am asking lol i guess i am curious if my fiance thinks about other women besides me when we are having Sex but there is no way i would ask him that because i wouldnt want an answer i dont want to hear, so is it possible a man can think about only one women during Sex??
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): My wife told me that she thought or fantisized about other men while I was working vigorously between her thighs to bring her to an orgasmic feeling, she says thats the only way she can orgasium, does she really need me? should I take my skills else where where they may be appreciated?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): Only way to know is to be able to read his mind. Don't ask this question until you've been happily married for 30 years, unless he volunteers it.
Yes, in short, probably some of us do all of the time, probably all of us do some of the time, depends upon the circumstances I expect.
But, as a woman said below "I really need to concentrate and think about stuff that turns me on" this can be anything, such as even a sexual act you have never done.
All normal.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (8 December 2010):
 I love all the women with insight into the minds of men. You ladies make my day.
I'm not pleading the fifth on this one. Do I ever fantasize about someone else while having sex with my partner? Nope. I've honestly never done it. Do I think about body parts I like from different people? Again a big fat no.
Want to know what I think about during sex? Math, work, chores, basically the mundane. Why? Because it helps me last longer. If I get too focused on how into my GF I am I run the risk of being a one minute wonder. The more I focus on what we're doing, the less control I have over my ejaculation.
So, I focus on other things (while still being attentive to her needs and desires of course) so that I can control my orgasm. When I'm sure she's satisfied, I will switch my focus to her and what we're doing, then I can finish rather quickly.
What I do agree with the others on is that this shouldn't be a concern to you. No need to suffer your insecurities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): You can't really ask this question to all males because everybody is different. We're all individuals. Of course, some men will fantasize about other women whilst they're having intercourse with their girlfriend/fiance/wife. Others don't need to and they will not. Honestly, everybody is different.
And I'm sure your fiance wouldn't actually tell you if he did would he? I know if my boyfriend told me that I think I'd be extremely upset! And it would put me off having sex with him. He wouldn't tell me, so I'd never know. Who knows?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): As the second male that is answering this post then I too will take the fifth. Just know that if he loves you and you're his life partner then he doesn't and probably never has thought of another girl while with you.
Just assume he doesn't and don't ask, there's no need, you know what he'll say anyway.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (8 December 2010):
 YOu know, it's perfectly possible that your guy is thinking of you while you two are having sex and its more than likely that he is.
Men are very visual creatures (at least mine is) I asked my fiance this question ( I had to know, regardless of the answer). He told me that men are visual and are sexually stimulated by sexy things and he loves me, so when I wear sexy things or just look really good then yes, he is so thinking of me when we have sex. Especially if the lights are on.
He also told me that if I look frumpy or if the lights are off, then yes, he does envision a fake girl, someone he makes up in his head to get him to his "moment" if you will. That doesn't bother me. I only think of him.
But every man is different. Yours could very well just be imagining you while you are being intimate and its more than likely that that is what he is doing.
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather  +, writes (8 December 2010):
 So if you hear the answer from us instead of your man, the result will still be the same!
So long as you love him and trust him, that's all you need to know.
Sometimes, ignorance is bliss!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): Just remmember men are visual and not that able to multi task, so if a man is making love to you all his energies are focused on to you to be honest the only thing he'll be thinkig whilst having sex is exactly what is goin on in the moment.
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