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writes: Ok, I'd like to clear something up.As a girl, I naturally have some trouble understanding guys. I'm getting 2 different messages from things I read/people I talk to. One is that guys like it when a girl is the friendly one, goes out of her way to talk to them, and shows that she likes being around them, that it takes the pressure off of the guy and makes the girl seem more approachable.The other is that if a guy likes a girl, he'll start the conversations etc., and that it's a girl's best move to play hard to get because if he likes her the chase will make her seem more attractive etc. etc.Which, if either, of these is true??? I mean, in real life. Will being outgoing help or hinder a girl's chances with a guy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow, you folks answered fast!
Thanks for the insight :) I needed some perspective on that one lol
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 I've personally never liked the hard to get game, or any games for that matter. Usually when I sense someone is playing one, I decide that's time for me to leave.
Everyone is different though. It depends on the guy. Some guys do love that stuff, but then they are usually game players themselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): Just done a straw poll in the office for you. All the men here - whether single or married - say they hate women who play games. Hard to get just pisses/pissed them off. W could be dead tomorrow, why play games?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): hard to get will make you appear snobbish, but make you a good challenge for someone looking for sexual conquest. be friendly
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 Both ways are true. Not all guys are the same. Just comes down to what the guy likes better.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (10 December 2010):
 Not every man is the same. Some like the chase and have to "feel like a man" by pursuing you. Others will feel like you're not interested if you don't meet them halfway.
Personally, I need a woman to at least be receptive of my advances, at least flirt back with me, drop the whole "hard to get" game somewhat or I'll just accept that she doesn't like me and I'll go away. And if she never makes and moves in my direction, I may never think I even have a chance with her in the first place and whatever affection she has for me may just remain in her head in silence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): Well, you didn't request female opinion, but I'd say every guy wants something different, and every female personality is different... it's probably best to not be either of those extremes and certainly not being fake by putting on an act.
-T.V.
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