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writes:My girlfriend just can't leave me alone for a second. Whenever we are together, she just can't keep her hands off me and wants to have sex ALL the time. I mean I love her dearly, but i'm not really an affectionate person where as she is. I'm not really one for holding hands and cuddling but i have been trying just so she doesn't think i'm giving her the cold shoulder. And whenever we are alone she's like an animal, I've never known anyone want sex as much as her, she tires me out. We must have sex 10 times before we actually go to bed. I mean the sex is great but I'm absolutely exhausted when i go to bed and once we are in bed her hands are all over me and i think 'here we go again'. The other day i was trying to get some uni work done and she came in from work and started kissing me, with her hands all over me so i told her no because i was doing my work, so she stripped off sat on my desk and started touching herself until she got her own way. I just feel like i never get anything done because of her high sex drive and its driving me mad. What can i do to make her less horny all the time? Or am i just being boring?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): God knows I wish I had a girlfriend like that. I'm a female and it was good the first couple of months then "lesbian bed death" happened. Enjoy it, you never know when it will stop!.. As for your work, yes get her a vibrator and tell her to do it to herself while you're doing your work but let you watch while doing so!
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reader, turbine  +, writes (9 December 2010):
It's nice to have a girlfriend like that. It's good that even after her having a super charged sex drive she comes to you for sex and doesn't wander. But it would feel real bad to her if you reject her everytime. Have good sex with her and don't reject her. Go for more foreplay if you are not in the mood. Or see some sex on the net to get yourself in the mood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): Dirtball didn't get it all that wrong - there's nothing quite like a spot of 'carpet munching' to relieve a bit of sexual tension! It's less messy than a BJ.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (7 December 2010):
 Lol, I missed that one. Oops. Sorry OP. Still, everything but the BJ comment still applies. Think you could get work done still if she was giving you oral?
Really, you need to communicate this to your GF. She'll never know there's a problem unless you talk about it. Would a toy help her? Would you be comfortable with that? Do you like being the reluctant participant? You need to decide what you want and find a compromise. That can only come through open communication.
Again, sorry OP that I missed you were a woman. I don't always check the sex of the poster of the question and accidents happen.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (7 December 2010):
 She sounds like a dream for a short period but i understand over a long period of time that it is not ideal, such as your university work is important and it is not fair that she doesn't respect that.
One thing i would suggest that maybe her need for sex could have something to do with you not been an affectionate person, maybe if you tried to give her more kisses and cuddles and show her that type of affection then maybe she may tone down her need for sex.
If this option fails then you need to sit down and talk to her about how you feel, there is more to a relationship than sex and she needs to understand that you still love her and want her but you have many other things to do that aren't sex.
i hope this helps =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): I wrote the question and i would just like to state to 'dirtball' that a BJ wouldn't be possible because I am a FEMALE in a LESBIAN relationship. Sorry if that wasn't clear enough
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 December 2010):
You've got to talk to her about this. Nothing beats a good BJ while you're getting your work done though. That would keep her busy if you could manage to focus.
I say let her masturbate, or maybe buy her a toy so she can satisfy herself sometimes. Let her know that you love her, but just can't keep up no matter how much you try and that you need some time together without sex because you're starting to feel like that's all you are to her.
Hit her with the mushy stuff, that ought to help some.
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