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writes:Hey everyone.I'm Jamie Williams.. (yes that's only a stage name on here so I can gain some credibility.. it is not my real name.)I'm a 17-yr-old male and I live in the states.My biggest pet-peeve is the typical alpha-male. They think they're all hot, and all they do is try to get women laid.I've decided it's my job to prove to women that not all guys are like that... And to HOPEFULLY give advice to guys that are having relationship problems for whatever reason.So...Ladies, Please leave me tips so I can keep learning for myself.Guys, Ask me for help and advice on situations.I'm Jamie Williams, and I'm here to prove single-handedly that not all guys are complete jerks and only in it for the action. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sex Kitten  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 Jamie Williams - I think you're just a little bit too immature and inexperienced to be handing out advice to gals or guys! You need to grow up a bit more first and then maybe revisit this site, yeah!
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 and i'm sorry but alpha-males/bad boys are the sex! As long as its in a strong/confident way and not in an arrogant/cocky/rude way then i'll take an alpha-male over all the money in the world any day of the week x
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (29 January 2008):
For the love of God. everyone needs to just shhhhhh and stop with the attacking and trying to argue over the internet. it is so sad. Danielepew if you dont like him/dont have anything nice to say then get off your high horse and go into a different question and stay out of this one because you are winding yourself up and its beyond ridiculous to read. grown men acting like middleschool girls. jeez.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): Guys might as well just be Alpha males. Because they're going to spend their lives cleaning up after Alpha males no matter which one they are.
I wish our modern post-feminist world wasn't brainwashing young males into believing that women actually want a Beta. It's not fair to young boys to tell them that they should be more Beta for 15 years and then turn around and lavish rewards on the few extreme Alphas who can't be converted. For most guys, this is their first big lesson that the world is not fair and they should not always listen to what females say.
I suffered from the stupid belief that treating women with decency would make them like me.
After spending my teens never getting laid and never understanding why, I finally got pissed off and stopped giving a F____ whether any females like me or not in my early 20s. I figured what's the difference? I couldn't even get them when I tried so I just didn't care if I made a bad impression anymore. At least being an unpopular jerk was easy.
And then the next thing I knew, I suddenly had all the girls I wanted for no effort at all.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Jamie, the proof is in the pudding, people will decide how good your advice is over time. Danielepew has given very sound advice in the past in my opinion. Everybody just needs to settle down and let's try to help our posters.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Well, finally we see the real you, Your Highness. You are the Man of Tomorrow, the Special One Every Girl Dreams Of. Are you saying you didn't send those messages? Do you think I don't have those messages on my mailbox? I'm not saying that I want the site's administrator involved, but, if he did get involve, do you think he wouldn't have proof you wrote all that?
Reality Check: Mr. Almighty, are there any women coming to this site for your advice? Do we see them all just admiring how good you are?
And this time, for God's sake, spare me the tantrum.
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reader, jamey_37 +, writes (28 January 2008):
jamey_37 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Dude.. Just grow up and stop being so mean. Please.
Stop making things up like I messaged you and all that.
Really.. just grow up. You're 38.. you need to act your age...
That's all I'm saying...
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (28 January 2008):
All right, Mr. Sensitive. You can go on and on if you want. I don't have any more time for you. Just for the sake of continuity of the thread of this post, here's what you wrote to me:
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Ok. Maybe not constantly, you do need a break for sleep. (anything else you might just have a laptop and carry the dang thing with you)
But 42 answers posted by you within the last 31 days DOES seem a bit exessive... and 9 answers on the 27th alone.. 4 of those 9 were only posted in the intent of bashing me, which I don't mind. the more answers to my post you give, the more evidence of the typical, alpha-male, high, pompous, cocky attitudes and lifestyles jerks like you give to the good guys.
So by all means, please keep posting answers.
As always..
I'm Jamie Williams, and now I'm just doing this to be annoying.
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All right, little bastard: you're annoying. You're so right in that. I have blocked your e-mail so your pearls of wisdom won't continue to come up in my mailbox. And I have better use for my time than talking to a conceited little asshole like you.
By the way, the purpose of this site is not to be annoying. Or to tell people to come to you for enlightenment. The purpose of this site is to provide comments, points of view, et cetera, to people who really need that help. This is not the place for people like you to come and pretend you're better than anyone. Or to ask people to "ask" you questions about your faith. Here you come to give answers, not to be considered the Divinity on Earth.
You're also paranoid. This is, to be true, the fifth post I write here. I don't know where you got the information that I have posted nine other answers "just to bash you". Get a grip on your ego and understand that I really don't care if you live or die.
And yes, I will keep posting answers. Some people have found help in them. I found help when I came to this site. Little bastards like you won't stop me from doing that.
By the way: how are we to know that you're Mr. Sensitive? Will we have enough with your divine words? Or little jerks like me would need proof of it?
Yes, you're annoying. Also, Your Highness, I need to highlight you didn't respond to the issues I tried in the post. Like the spoiled brat you seem to be, you're just annoying.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (27 January 2008):
I'm back in the site, where I am not 24/7 as Mr. Sensitive claimed I am in a private message. You see, he has a problem with logic: because I have answered a lot of questions, he immediately concludes that means I am here 24/7. His logic is "Many answers" = "He's here 24/7". It doesn't occur to him that the answers may have been posted over a long period. Which is the case. Let's have this by way of introduction, so that we all know we're dealing with a man who has a problem with logic.
I apologize to Just-Ask-XX, because I misread her post and she deserves an apology. Sorry, Just-Ask-XX. You deserve an apology and here it is.
Mr. Sensitive, on the other hand, might wait forever for an apology. He's not having one. Not that he's asked for one, but I couldn't care less about him. By the way, as a Sensitive man, he used a private message to call me a "douche-bag", and to say that he DID claim moral superiority over men "like me". He might be sensitive, but says some things in private. The bad things; nice words, those are said in public. That is because he is not a douche-bag. Perhaps some girls will think I'm a "douche-bag", but they will know for sure who I am. I say the same things in private or in public. If I resort to private mail, that is when the subject of my conversation must be kept private for the sake of the other party. We can't say the same thing about Mr. Throw-A-Stone-and-then-Hides-His-Hand.
Mr. Sensitive doesn't have a clue who I am, yet he claims moral superiority. Now that was at the heart of my reaction: here we have a guy who comes to the site and says he will teach us all "douche-bags", poor little fellows who are not at his level. Now this is something new: a guy telling girls that he's better than all other men. Oh, it has never happened before that a Sensitive Man courts a girl, sleeps with her, and then leaves her. The region where I live is full of these stories. The reason is, a man who shows exactly that he is a bastard will not get a girl. So he speaks with a soft voice and kind words to her, and then leaves her when a baby is on the way. But he is still Sensitive.
By the way, Mr. Sensitive is claiming moral superiority over all males. That must be because he is 17 and hasn't really learned to be humble about pointing fingers at other people. Now here's an advice I give you, Sensitive. Don't think you're any better than the rest. We all thought we were special when we were your age. Now we know better. If you want to save the world, you can start by recognizing you're imperfect yourself and it will take a hell of a lot of effort to become a better person.
You, Sensitive, said that I should bring on any problem I had with you. Well, here it is. Pointing fingers at other men, saying that they are all bastards unlike you, is pretentious, wrong, and, above all, is a cheap tactic to get laid. This is my problem with you. And, to the benefit of the ladies who come to this site, that is what I wanted to show. Be aware that a "Sensitive" man might turn out to be worse than a "douche-bag" who drinks beers at the football game with his friends.
Now here's a pearl of wisdom from Mr. Sensitive, Our Moral Superior:
"Women better believe me because I never once have been nice to a girl or treated her in any way just to try and get into her pants. I treat women with respect just because they're women, and I try hard to be a gentleman And guess what!I DID just claim moral superiority over you so get over it."
I copied the entire paragraph to be fair. You're advised, girls: "better believe" Mr. Sensitive. That seems like too pretentious to me (he wants women to believe in his word because HE is saying them). And a little insensitive.
By the way, Mr. Sensitive, a man, doesn't treat men with respect just because they are men. He treats men like A Moral Superior Does. He looks down on Men. Oh, they are just men, jerks who make him sick.
He "tries hard to be a gentleman". Geez, that's one pearl of wisdom I didn't need: I know he's not a gentleman. It is very clear that he poses as one. That's another way to bring on what my problem is.
Mr. Sensitive then wrote this:
"Join me in this cause, or fight me and lose.
I'm Jamie Williams.. And I'm too strong to be silenced."
Oh, we are in the presence of a winner, "too strong to be silenced". Geez, am I afraid of losing my personal battle with him.
I don't think I should silence you, as you have a right to speak your mind. It just makes me sad that there might be a girl out there who will believe you. Someone who might think you are incapable of doing her any harm, because you are "sensitive", unlike all of us "douche bags", Morally Inferior Men. Jerks, et cetera.
I agree with Yos. You hate alpha males because they get all the girls. Not being an alpha male yourself, you know you have to try another tactic. For example, coming to this site to say just how nice you are as compared to Your Moral Inferiors.
And then, I apologize to all the girls if my words were harsh to them. I do think that there should be respect among men and women. That people should respect each other. Mr. Sensitive, in his biased reading of my posts, should have noticed that. But I don't care if he didn't. I'm apologizing and explaining my position to all other readers. If my posts help anyone (even Mr. Sensitive on a Mission), then I'm happy. If Mr. Sensitive continues to believe he is morally superior to anyone, well... you can't help everyone.
This is all from me, Your Highness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): Good for you for wanting to be more respectful towards women (I hope that that is what this is about!). All this married/gay/dating/jerk/not jerk is irrelevent and not really advice at all. Relationship status and/or sexual orientation does not matter.
You will reap the benefits of choosing to live as a respectful person. You yourself will be respected and women will admire your integrity. That to me, is having success with women. If you find a special girl, she will be happier and more secure than she might be with someone who couldn't show her the same amount of appreciation. Sex will be incredibly better.
Treating women as nonentities or 'meat' with little regard to their integrity is a shitty way to be. There is no fulfillment in it. There is no intelligence in it.
So keep at it, it's something you won't regret.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (27 January 2008):
 If you really want to learn, you need to learn about yourself. You could consider starting by thinking about why you hate alpha males so much.
Meditate on this thought for a while: "perhaps you hate them so much because you are jealous of them, their 'success' with women (if you can call it that), and have covered over your envy for them by labeling them jerks and taking a stance of moral superiority towards them." Please don't dismiss this thought out of hand: I'm suggesting it because i have done it myself in the past and it took me a long time to accept that that was a part of what was making me feel they way i did. It was part of my learning experience.
Good for you for not wanting to be a jerk and to want to learn more about how to respect women and be a good partner. That's a good attitude to have and, whilst in the short term it might feel like the hard road (and you might miss out on a few cheap-shags), in the long run it's a much better place to be and will lead you to better relationships.
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (27 January 2008):
 Ok, all men are not jerks and danielpew: you're a jerk. Hello? He's trying to actually do something useful and all you say is he's a jerk.
And if you're commenting on my post, I think you kind of read it wrong, I said that all the decent guys are married or dating etc. so you can't have them, and I never said all guys are jerks, but I'm saying you are.
Ok, sorry for being nasty but ooo you made me angry. So sorry, I just felt it had to be said.
Bye x
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (27 January 2008):
Oh, and by the way. I'm 38. I don't need advice from a 17 year old.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (27 January 2008):
Available = jerk.
Married = not a jerk (many a wife would agree)
Gay = not a jerk (ditto for wives)
Engaged = not a jerk (yeah, at Dear Cupid there's never been a post about a woman complaining that his fiancé was seeing someone else)
Dating = obviously not a jerk. Ditto for wives and fiancées.
Apparently "all men are jerks". Including Mr. Sensitive on a Mission.
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (27 January 2008):
Aww, that's so thoughtful. You know, we really need more men like you! A lot of guys are total assholes and think it's awesome to 'score' to be cool or whatever. A lot of women have had really bad experiences with men, me in particular =(
Not all men are jerks, but there are only a few that aren't and they are all either:
*Married
*Dating
*Engaged
*Gay
And I am not a cheater, cheating is about as low as you can get! God some men are dicks, well saying that, it's not just men that cheat, women do it too but I've never understood why, I mean is one person not enough?
Anyways, as soon as I can think of tips, I'll post them to you on this question!
And I hope you succeed in what you're doing, I don't know anything about you, but already I know you're a decent guy, so...thanks. It feels nice to have a genuine guy around for once.
Bye x
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (27 January 2008):
I hope you're not trying to prove that no male wants to get women laid. I have a feeling that most girls wouldn't believe you.
I don't think any one of us can claim moral superiority over any other of us. And I think it's a cheap tactic to go something like "Hey girl, all those over there are scum; me, on the other hand, I should be called Immaculate".
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (27 January 2008):
Personally I'm a big fan of the alpha-male type. They are fascinating and something about me is unbelievably drawn to an alpha-male every. single. time. But there is a difference between an alpha-male and an asshole. My boyfriend is the most alpha of all the alpha-males, but he's a genuinely nice guy too.
He's sexy, funny, athletic, attractive and people are drawn to him and want to be around him because of his confidence but he is not a jerk or only in it for the action and i dont think I know any women who think ALL guys are to be honest....
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