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writes:There is this guy i like at collage, and i have a sneaking suspicion that he likes me too (have been shamelessly flirting with him lol). He is a Johavas Witness and im not. I was wondering about the 'rules' regarding JW's and non JW's dating. As i have heard that it does'nt often happen and i didn't want to cause him or his family any problems. If a Jw and a non JW get married don't them and thier families get disowned by their community. I like this guy so much and don't want to hurt him. Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): I would advise you to learn about his beliefs. For you to have unity and draw together you need to be of the same mind in ALL things. Its hard I know but if he has qualities that draw you to him, these are the result of his up bringing and even more his beliefs. Good fruit can nor come from a bad tree, so take a look at the tree. Maybe you will come to know what makes him special and that will help you to become closer still. To take him away from something he loves will only make him resent you and, take him further from what made him what he is. Don't be frightened of what is good, taste it and you will find real happiness, embrace what he is rather than try to change him into something he will hate. He will love you all the more. Once more you will find more happiness than you imagined possible!
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (29 January 2008):
Being a mormon, I understand JWs really well and most people here are right. How much can you sacrifice for just being with him? How strong is he in his faith? How much is he willing to sacrifice over you? In the end you'll certainly realise differences in your beliefs. Who's willing to bend for the other? If you aren't strong, pull out before it's too late. But, if you can accept him together with his religous beliefs, and are willing to join him, GO AHEAD!Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): I've known Jehova's Witness' people and they have weird beliefs. I wouldn't recommend to anyone who's from another religion to get involved with a JW. I knew this young couple who had a good long relationship, she was JW and he had some catholic beliefs but wasn't a practitioner. They got married but it didn't last long because he got fed up with her weird beliefs.
You see, they don't celebrate Christmas, birthdays, mother's day, they can't vote in the Elections, they'd rather have a family member die because they don't believe in blood transfusions and more. They are not really Christians. They believe Jesus was just a 'great prophet' but they don't believe in him as The Redeemer of our sins.
They believe that teenagers of a certain age should start visiting houses to preach their word so they could be saved from the inevitable Armageddon War in the future. They usually do it on saturday mornings. I've also heard and experienced that some of them are very clingy and are always asking for favors shamelessly.
I'd say skip this one. I've known a lot of Jehova's Witnesses people in my life (my neighbors are JW) and I can say they are very firendly and usually very faithful to their church and I don't know if it's a coincidence but most of them are also little screwed up upstairs.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 You can read more about JW by Googling that word .
There is a news article here , if you are interested.
http://laura1318.wordpress.com/2007/11/05/died-for-her-religious-beliefs/
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Ponungalungb is giving great advice. People of different religions marry or date each other all the time, but I'm afraid that doesn't happen so often with Witnesses. They are encouraged not to date or marry outside of their own religion.
I tend to see your question in two ways. First, I think that true love should be more important than a different creed. So, if he wants you, let him be.
On the other hand, this could present problems to him, and perhaps the relationship wouldn't work out. Be sure you can stand this.
Good luck, dear.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Having dated a former JW once, I know a little bit about them and I would tread lightly.
I found a site that might help:
http://members.aol.com/beyondjw/inlove.htm
Good luck.
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (28 January 2008):
 When my witness friend married her boyfriend, her parents cut her off. It was crushing to her, but they believed that they were doing the right thing. It went on this way for many years.
Whether your guy would stand up to his family/church for you depends on him. But the folk in his life would be against you. You would have to be prepared for that.
That said, I have seen other religions handle it. I have a friend who is a Presbyterian minister, and her husband is an atheist. And they've been married for 20 years.
You need to have this discussion with your guy early. He may be counting on you to convert. If this isn't something you could do, and he's not willing (or you don't want him to) stand up to his family, then I don't recommend this relationship.
Good luck.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Talk to him about it, or research into it. I think things will go fine, so long as neither of you tries to push the other's beliefs on each other.
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