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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): 49 male who loves to masturbate slowly, married but masturbate often ,relaxes me,Yeah Think of her
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): yes... i fantasize about sex with her
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reader, Yos  +, writes (26 January 2008):
 Sometimes, but rarely. Usually its a vague fantasy of no one person in particular.
(To be honest I'm not always thinking of her when I'm having sex with my gf. I think it's ok to bring fantasy like that into your sex life. And talking about it before / after / during can be very intimate.)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (26 January 2008):
 Most married men do not think of their wives when they masturbate as they are having a sexual relationship with her.They will fantasize about other hot and sexy women.
As to those unmarried, not all will think of their g/f because they do not want to spoil their g/f's aura or cheapened her by thinking of her during the act.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (26 January 2008):
 I think a man will masturbate thinking of a girlfriend when he can't have her. I don't think that happens with a wife (though I've never been married), because you can usually have actual intercourse with her.
With all due respect to guillaume, good ol' Samurai Rick and Ponungalungb, why won't Guillaume masturbate thinking of Hillary instead? Angelina IS way more scary...
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (26 January 2008):
 Hillary Clinton? . . . now that's scary.
I don't masturbate when I'm in a relationship. When I'm not, I usually like to have some visual aids in front of me. Playboys are good. Nothing too graphic. I don't get turned on by obstetric photos like shown in some skin magazines. LOL.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): I think of my wife if I am doing it with her, but I usually think of some hot actress or fantasy woman if I am doing it alone. I haven't done it alone for at least 5 months, as we are having some form of sex every day. I have never done it if we are having daily sex.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (25 January 2008):
 When i have been in a relationship i did yes, but the time before and after relationships i thought of other people and looked at pics and videos on the net. But when im with someone i felt like i was cheating looking at other girls picks and such and it got me off better then those anyways.
So yeah some do some dont tho.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): I used to - when I wasn't with her. Now it's Fern Britton.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): In the beginning of dating someone new, I will think of them. But after a while, I don't think of them at all. I think of models, actresses, singers, women in magazines, and even on the internet.
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (25 January 2008):
 Hmmm.... I dont even bother jerking off. As a child it was fun, now Im a full grown man, I can hold out.
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (25 January 2008):
 Yes...and no...If I'm a relationship I will think of my partner. But I will sometimes fantasize about other women. I think I'm not alone in this. When you're masturbating it’s pretty much about fantasizing. It could be someone famous, a singer or just someone you know. For one brief horrifying moment I actually fantasized about Hillary Clinton. Yes it was only for a second! It just shows our human nature that we can use our imaginations and have fun with it. The women in my relationships have pretty much been open saying they fantasize about other men when masturbating...so I’ve never felt guilty about it.
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