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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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When I ejaculate, It's see through. Does this mean I'm firing blanks???
Q. Ok, I'm 17 and whenever I come i ejaculate and everything but it's clear.....as in see through. Does this mean I'm 'shooting blanks'? I'm REALLY worried...
A. 5 March 2008: Well, that explains it all :-). Fortunately, porn is not like real life. Wait for, say, three days, and you'll see how white it gets.... (read in full...)
Leaving marriage for affair partner is that a good thing??
Q. I'm pretty much down to my last option. I'm a 37 year old married man, with two children. Have been married for 8 years, have been together for 15. I am in the middle of an affair. Not real proud of it, it is with a co-worker and it just happened...
A. 4 March 2008: I wouldn't want to be in your situation. Whatever you do, you and someone else will end up very hurt. I feel like none of us can really tell you what to do, as only you know what hurts the least. You have been given great advice but perhaps ... (read in full...)
We had sex but she says she loves her husband too much!
Q. I'm in love with a married woman. She has 7 months of marriage. We had sex one night. She loves me but says she will not leave her husband because she does not want to make him hurt. I can't really let go. What should i do ?...
A. 4 March 2008: You should let go, the faster, the much better.
She is playing you AND her husband. Something must really be the matter if she's already sleeping with someone else after only seven months of marriage. Obviously she doesn't care about hurting ... (read in full...)
When I ejaculate, It's see through. Does this mean I'm firing blanks???
Q. Ok, I'm 17 and whenever I come i ejaculate and everything but it's clear.....as in see through. Does this mean I'm 'shooting blanks'? I'm REALLY worried...
A. 4 March 2008: Sorry, ladies. It does matter how often he ejaculates. If he's ejaculating ten times a day, the "white" in the ejaculate is depleted. That is because the testes produce only so much spermatozoa a day. Any man knows that there will be more ... (read in full...)
When I ejaculate, It's see through. Does this mean I'm firing blanks???
Q. Ok, I'm 17 and whenever I come i ejaculate and everything but it's clear.....as in see through. Does this mean I'm 'shooting blanks'? I'm REALLY worried...
A. 3 March 2008: How often do you ejaculate?... (read in full...)
Is it possible for someone to change if they meet the right person?
Q. I'm 17 and I was in a long term relationship that lasted just under 3 years and it finished because I became pregnant and wanted to keep the baby. I had a missed miscarriage and am grateful that this made me realise how wrong my ex was for me. He'd ...
A. 3 March 2008: I like the advice that everyone gave, but I agree more with Tellulah. I like it particularly because Tellulah is advising you, poster, to stand your ground and be bold and brave. That is what you need, and not only now, because someone was abusing ... (read in full...)
She says she wants space. How much space is space?
Q. Hi. Could do with some advice. My girlfriend of three years (great relationship etc) recently told me she 'needs space/a break'. Not 'breaking -up', just needs 'space'... Everything was good until she started studies on her university course...
A. 1 March 2008: Randomguy, I know you're broken hearted now, but you can see this as a new beginning. She was dumping you, but instead she asked for space. It's her fault that you went for her again; she gave you hope to cling to.
Just move on and remember... (read in full...)
Would sex be a problem because of my hight?
Q. Hey. I am a 6"1 girl and haven't had sex before. I am nicely built (slim) and quite pretty and popluar, but am worried that boys won't want to have sex with me because I am so tall. What is it like for a boy of similar hight or just slightly ...
A. 26 February 2008: If you were not underage (and much younger), I would love to date you. I don't think your height should be a problem. There's just more of you to love.... (read in full...)
Are black men different in bed?
Q. Hi I would like some honest answer. my wife and i have a great sex life that involves having sex with others at swinger parties. resently we have watched a few home made pornos from the net that have had large black fellow in. these have realy...
A. 25 February 2008: Why isn't she asking the question? And then, if you have swingers parties, what prevents her from finding out herself?... (read in full...)
Is there any man out there that's decent and right for me?
Q. I have dated men for years to realize that they aren't right for me. I see their flaws and see past them and I "deal with it".. in hopes that it may be forever. I am a caucasion Italian female. I'm trying to figure out a pattern but then even wh...
A. 24 February 2008: Francine81, I think you have done the right choice in coming to this site for support. This is what we do here. I would encourage you to do a lot of thinking, and, if you feel unsure, to post questions here, so people can give you their opinions. ... (read in full...)
Is this a way of saying she needs time or are we actually breaking up for good?
Q. My girlfriend says she wants a break. She says her priorities are all messed up. This happened right after I told her that she doesn't show me affection. She thought she was hurting me and says she cant do that to me right now. She used the ...
A. 24 February 2008: You do have a point, dear hlskitten. The girl might find it difficult to be clear and direct. Point well taken. However,
a) I still think it's best to speak clearly
b) I still think the poster is not being spoken to in a straightforward ... (read in full...)
Should I trust him? Does he just want a visa?
Q. Hi, I have know this guy for many years. He said he loved me before and we met again after three years,recently in the states. We started dating a year ago. He wants us to get married so that he can remain in the states. He isnt a citizen by the w...
A. 24 February 2008: I won't look at whether he is using you or not, though he might. Instead, I would like to point out that, if you ask the question whether you should marry him, you're obviously not in love. And then the answer needs to be "no", for the very same ... (read in full...)
Is this a way of saying she needs time or are we actually breaking up for good?
Q. My girlfriend says she wants a break. She says her priorities are all messed up. This happened right after I told her that she doesn't show me affection. She thought she was hurting me and says she cant do that to me right now. She used the ...
A. 23 February 2008: Poster, your happiness can't depend on whether people will do as you expect or not. You need to be happy even if they don't, and that is only too often the case regarding love. Life is never as we expect it to be, yet we manage. This is what I ... (read in full...)
Is this a way of saying she needs time or are we actually breaking up for good?
Q. My girlfriend says she wants a break. She says her priorities are all messed up. This happened right after I told her that she doesn't show me affection. She thought she was hurting me and says she cant do that to me right now. She used the ...
A. 23 February 2008: This is her way to say she's breaking up with you for good.
Dumping someone is a difficult thing, especially if you know the other person loves you to bits. You are aware that you're breaking the other person's heart, and you can't feel that is ... (read in full...)
What are the benefits of marriage?
Q. In the week when Paul McCartney and Heather Mills agree monetary settlement, the question of fairness and behaviour arises. What are the benefits of marriage, if any? Isn't it just an unfair contract where if one party breaks the terms, the other ...
A. 23 February 2008: I can't give a real opinion on this matter, as I have never been married. But I'm not blind, and I see the poster's point: with so many failures, so many horrific stories of what happens when people divorce, and the divorce rate so high, what is ... (read in full...)
Is there any man out there that's decent and right for me?
Q. I have dated men for years to realize that they aren't right for me. I see their flaws and see past them and I "deal with it".. in hopes that it may be forever. I am a caucasion Italian female. I'm trying to figure out a pattern but then even wh...
A. 23 February 2008: I'm afraid this is not what you want to hear, but, when you fail repeatedly with people, you're also to blame. You are not just unlucky; there is also something you're doing wrong. Let's see if we can find a pattern here.
The first thing I ... (read in full...)
Me and my fiance are christians. Should we have sex before we marry?
Q. I've a fiance whom we've been dating since last year.She and i are christians,is it good for us to have sex since most of the time we spent together?We were organising for an outing but how will we spend our time during that outing,will we sleep ...
A. 22 February 2008: All Christian churches frown on pre-marital sex. However, I'm afraid this is one area where no church can claim to be winning the battle. I think that your question can't be answered here: that's for you two to decide.... (read in full...)
This relationship puts a great financial strain on me. Should I continue being with her?
Q. My girl friend does not make her exhusband pay child support for his 2 kids (because he is a whiny baby) he does nothing for his kids only on christmas. When they come to his house for the weekend, he does not have food for them most of the time. ...
A. 22 February 2008: Enough said. I understand your being upset about carrying another man's financial burden. I have the feeling that he won't contribute much, but his demands need to be heard anyways, as he is the father of two kids. I agree with all the posters.... (read in full...)
I'm 54 and need to know...how do women really feel about a guy with a beer belly?
Q. How do women feel about men with a medium size so called beer belly? Hard to get rid of and be a stud at 54? Does it really matter that much?...
A. 22 February 2008: Let's have several beers in honor of all the posts and all the posters!... (read in full...)
Why do long term relationships end?
Q. Hello, Andy00 here. First, I want to suggest that nobody here answer this question if they think that they will just be opening up old wounds. Most of you know that my long distance relationship (2 years) disbanded (she dumped me) almost...
A. 22 February 2008: Sorry if I misunderstood your post. I thought you were seeing someone. Other than that, I just can insist on what I said.... (read in full...)
Help! Can any one help make some sense of this?????
Q. Okay please help me... I just found this site and from what I could see people here seem friendly enough and certainly mature. I am not a young girl and I believe I know in my heart what is right here but I have to ask some mature men out there a ...
A. 22 February 2008: I would like to comment that Jugurtha has a point, too. Some men wouldn't have sex as often as your man does, poster. Maybe you should try to see what happens if you don't continue doing this.... (read in full...)
Why do long term relationships end?
Q. Hello, Andy00 here. First, I want to suggest that nobody here answer this question if they think that they will just be opening up old wounds. Most of you know that my long distance relationship (2 years) disbanded (she dumped me) almost...
A. 22 February 2008: Ooops, and a little opinion. You never move on from an old love because you stay with someone for some time. You move on when you make the decision to do so. Do it, Andy. Make the decision to leave the past in the past.... (read in full...)
Why do long term relationships end?
Q. Hello, Andy00 here. First, I want to suggest that nobody here answer this question if they think that they will just be opening up old wounds. Most of you know that my long distance relationship (2 years) disbanded (she dumped me) almost...
A. 22 February 2008: Life is never the way you want. The trick is to learn from the bad parts, and to be happy no matter what.
You have someone with you now. She deserves all of your attention. It's right that you're asking questions about why your previous... (read in full...)
It intimidates me that she is smarter! And she loves me although I don't see why!
Q. I don't know if there's anyone out there with this problem but my girlfriend is alot smarter than me which imtidate me alot.She went to USC and I dropped out of community college after one semester because I simply can't speak in front of a group ...
A. 22 February 2008: My hat is off to all three of you, dear friends.... (read in full...)
Help! Can any one help make some sense of this?????
Q. Okay please help me... I just found this site and from what I could see people here seem friendly enough and certainly mature. I am not a young girl and I believe I know in my heart what is right here but I have to ask some mature men out there a ...
A. 22 February 2008: My life is as short as the poster's :-), but I'm old enough to know that Dearkelja's hit the nail. It's obviously not a case of dysfunction. It's not a case of stress, either, because all that "stress" doesn't seem to prevent him from enjoying ... (read in full...)
Are these acts considered sex??
Q. What is considered "sex"? For instance if the Male and female are in the US but the male is 18 and the female is 17 and the female gives, for lack of better words a "hand job" would that be illegal and considered "Sex"? and the 2nd question would ...
A. 22 February 2008: I assume that even legislators are aware that it's only too often that a couple of teenagers has sex. I don't remember where, but I have the hunch that somewhere I read that in some states (maybe California) they don't apply the statutory rape or ... (read in full...)
Are these acts considered sex??
Q. What is considered "sex"? For instance if the Male and female are in the US but the male is 18 and the female is 17 and the female gives, for lack of better words a "hand job" would that be illegal and considered "Sex"? and the 2nd question would ...
A. 21 February 2008: Now this is an interesting post. I don't really know what would happen in this case, as she is 17 and you're 18. However, it seems to me that an adult who fingered a minor, and who was masturbated by this minor could be prosecuted. This is a grey ... (read in full...)
Part 2 - Why did they put their pictures on facebook?
Q. My ex and I split up a little while back. All throughout our year ling relationship, she desperately tried to get him back. Now, through photos on Facebook, it seems she has got her wish. Hundreds of photos of them doing stuff together, amoungst ...
A. 21 February 2008: In my opinion, their posting photos on Facebook is not what matters. His going back to her all the time is. He is obviously not done with her. Well, that's so good: now you're free to find someone who will consider you number one. Think of it ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my friends I can't help them out with their studies?
Q. I hope that the moderators still publish this, being that it's not a sexual love relationship. I am currently a Biological Sciences major at the University of Nebraska. Along with my biology courses, I must take chemistry. Chemistry at the...
A. 21 February 2008: Poster, Macchiavelli wrote a hell of a truth a long time ago. He wrote that, if the Prince has to choose whether to be loved or to be feared, he has to choose to be feared, just taking care not to be despised. He wrote that people are not afraid ... (read in full...)
I was suggested a threesome with my mother and her lover, when this woman found out I was bisexual!
Q. Hiya all so iam 18 years old and i realy badly need HELP!! when i was 11 my mum left my dad for a women at her gym. I live with my dad and he realy hates the both of them so i now live with my mum and her lover. we talk about...
A. 20 February 2008: Good question by Toasty. Does your mother know about this proposal? If she doesn't, you should tell her, and see how she reacts. She needs to do something. Something like dumping her lover.
Whatever she does, look after yourself. I have a s... (read in full...)
How can I tell my friends I can't help them out with their studies?
Q. I hope that the moderators still publish this, being that it's not a sexual love relationship. I am currently a Biological Sciences major at the University of Nebraska. Along with my biology courses, I must take chemistry. Chemistry at the...
A. 20 February 2008: I fully agree with Bemused. I just would add that all you need to do is say "no".... (read in full...)
I see her every Sunday in church, but I'm hesitant in talking to her for fear of rejection. Help?
Q. I'm nearly 17 and there is this girl I got a crush on. I see her every Sunday in a youth bible group and afterwards in church. She knows me but not personally. I don't know what to do because I'm afraid of rejection. could someone help me with thi...
A. 20 February 2008: If you're always afraid of being rejected, you will never get your girl. Any girl. You need to ask her.... (read in full...)
I just want the truth...is my bf bi or not??
Q. I need some serious help, my boyfriend and I have been together off and on for over a year.. I found out he was a member of a adult website and listed himself as bi-sexual, when confronted he was defensive and said no I just like looking at ...
A. 20 February 2008: Dear poster, none of us can tell you the truth. The only person who can do that is your boyfriend. All we can give is opinions.
My opinion is that he really is bisexual, meaning he likes to have sex with men and women. It seems clear, too, tha... (read in full...)
Is it time for me to suggest we walk away??
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. Things started brilliantly then an unusual work situation had us more focused on how I would deal with it from day-to-day. I had a really malicious boss whose main objective was to e...
A. 20 February 2008: Sorry girls, I beg to differ. I'm afraid a "break" wouldn't solve anything.
First, a "break" is, in itself, very ambiguous. Why do people ask for breaks? Do they really just want some time off to think, or is it because they want to dump you... (read in full...)
Another Example Of A MAN!
Q. I have 2 beautifully little daughters, one is 5 and the other is 2. The 2 year old's father (27) is a long story but to make it short... We lived together in the apartment upstairs from my mom, my younger (aged 16) cousin lived there too. That means ...
A. 20 February 2008: I agree that beating the girl wouldn't help anything. However, I do think you should tell your cousin and your mother that you know they were sleeping together. I don't think she didn't know this was backstabbing. And, judging from your post, it ... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to Man up?!
Q. Is there a site where professional women can talk about their lives with blue-collar husbands? I heard something about that on 20/20 or something, but I really didn’t catch more detailed info. When I got married in my early 20s I was a junior a...
A. 19 February 2008: Great advice from Collaroy. And he's right: your comments do enlighten a lot. You want a man, not just a male.
Your husband looks like a Rip Van Winkle, in modern version. Not only does he avoid problems, he has no ambitions. I understa... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to Man up?!
Q. Is there a site where professional women can talk about their lives with blue-collar husbands? I heard something about that on 20/20 or something, but I really didn’t catch more detailed info. When I got married in my early 20s I was a junior a...
A. 19 February 2008: I'm with good Bemused and Ponungalungb, and also with Collaroy's final paragraph. You either take him as he is, or leave him. I don't think you would succeed in changing him. Maybe he's been this way all the time and it's only know that you're ... (read in full...)
Would I go to jail in a few months when I'm 18 if my 14 yr old girlfriend is pregnant?
Q. Hey hi! i need information because im kinda worried What would happen if my girlfriend gets pregnant but she is underage(14)? and im 17, plus she is from US, and im from México. She lives in USA, and i live in México. Would i go to jail in a...
A. 18 February 2008: For starters, paisano, it's a very bad idea to have sex with a 14 year old, and an even worse idea to impregnate her. I have a feeling that you're already in this problem. If you are, you had it coming.
Everything would depend on where you had ... (read in full...)
I've got back with my husband and it meant moving to his country, But I'm not happy here. What do I do?
Q. Hi, please advise me, i have recently gone back to my marriage, which ment me moving to the country where my husband is from, i am here because of my husband and to save our marriage, as i believed that if i had not come over to him our marriage ...
A. 18 February 2008: I agree with Namatjira and, as is often the case, with Irish49 (my hat is often off to her). This is the heart of the matter: if your relationship isn't strong enough for either of you to live in the other's country, then perhaps you should not be ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my Mom I lost my virginity?
Q. I recently had sex for the first time but i dont know if i should tell my mum or not, i dont want her hatin me for it, what could i do?...
A. 18 February 2008: It's a personal thing. I don't think I would tell her. She doesn't need to know.... (read in full...)
Do men put on a condom for oral sex, and why?
Q. Do men put on a condom for oral sex, and why?...
A. 18 February 2008: Another reason: in order not to get a disease yourself.... (read in full...)
She says she wants space. How much space is space?
Q. Hi. Could do with some advice. My girlfriend of three years (great relationship etc) recently told me she 'needs space/a break'. Not 'breaking -up', just needs 'space'... Everything was good until she started studies on her university course...
A. 20 December 2007: When someone asks for space, usually what the person really means is s/he wants to break up. For some reason, some people feel that it's better to break up in this confusing way. In my humble opinion, she wants to break up and she doesn't want to ... (read in full...)
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