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writes:I am 46 and just met this man 64. We gets on well and have been together for 6 months now. We have sex 3 or 4 times a week. I really enjoy it. We dont live together and just see each other 3 times a week. And recently he starts to complain I am wanting too much sex. He said it is not normal for me wanting sex all the time when he touches me. I love him and is happy to try to kiss and caress without full on sex. But am I not normal wanting sex with him when he comes near me? Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 I'm with XxAngelDust89xX. And, to an extent, with Laura1318, too. Quote: He "should be flattered that you want him like that... I see nothing wrong with a healthy sexual appetite. I think it's perfectly normal".
He can't keep the pace, maybe because of his age. But he should say that, in those terms. It's not right of him to blame you. And it's even worse that he is saying you're not "normal". That's so, so wrong. "Normal", in his definition, is "sex as often as I want".
Maybe you should reflect on whether you two are compatible in the long run. He's 18 years your senior. You still have the desire of a young woman, and he doesn't have the desire of a young man. And maybe he's not young at heart anymore. He should have a spark of mischief regarding sex, I guess, so that "how often" could be compensated with "how good".
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): You're normal - and so is he! It's just that the years have taken their toll on him and he's at that sort of age where he's not quite so active as he used to be. That said, I hope I could still manage it 3-4 times a week, if called upon to do so, in 4 years time!
You're only 6 months into this, and perhaps the passion will die down as time goes on. I'm sure he hopes it will, but enjoy what you're getting because he's doing extremely well for his age! And he's a lucky boy.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 His age maybe a factor and since he cannot keep up with your pace, you should accommodate him .If the horse can only trod, surely you don't expect the horse to gallop .You cannot flog the old horse to gallop, he can only trod. If you feel unsatisfied, you may have to find a younger stud.
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (31 January 2008):
 It's perfectly normal, maybe it's just that his libido isn't quite what it used to be!
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 your boyfriend should be flattered that you want him like that. It should sya to him "hey, this is how attractive you are to me." I see nothing wrong with a healthy sexual appetite. I think it is perfectly normal.
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