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writes:Hi. Tonight, after drinks, my girlfriend of one week and a few days said she would be interested in coming home with me. In the end she didn't but said she would like to some time this week.I think she is expecting Sex since she is implying that we sleep together, and I'm completely fine with that. I just want to know how to keep my cool about this? We had both been drinking, so I don't want to be disappointed if it turns out she doesn't want to come back after all.Has anybody else experienced anything similar? I haven't had Sex for a while, and I quite like this new girl, so I wonder if there is any advice you can give me to secure something with her. Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): How is she implying that she wants to sleep with you? Maybe she just wants to see your house, or the way you live...Also maybe you should take a date with her in which you don't drink. I know being young that mostly all you do in social situations is drink, but I have been there, done that and you don't relly get to know someone if you're always drunk with them. I was forced to be sober around a guy I was seeing after years of only seeing eachother in situations where we were drunk. I felt VERY nervous & akward around him, as did he. And we knew eachother for years. So, just try it. You might not like eachother or have anything to say..but at least you'll get to know eachother and if you're actually compatible. But then again, maybe you're not interested in getting to know her & just want sex.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 January 2008):
 Yes, I have a piece of advice for you, regarding this girl and regarding all others.
Make sure she makes it very clear that she wants sex. Don't trust your own instincts ONLY. Let her be the one to initiate. Your desire is high and you may be seeing what you want to see. Her saying that she wants to come home with me is NOT identical to saying that she wants to sleep with you. If you don't want to blow it big time, wait.
I have another piece of advice for you, regarding this relationship and all others. Don't let the relationship be guided by implications, or suggestions, or tacit references to anything. Make sure the communication between you two is made in very clear statements, so that every party knows exactly what the other means. If you get mixed signals, or suggestions, implications, et cetera, err on the safe side and don't assume anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): invite her back to yours for a drink. cosy up next to her on the setee and put your arm around her. tel her shes beautiful and that you really like her alot. keep eye contact as much as you can. chances are you'll start kissing and the rest will just follow on from there
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