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writes:Hi everybody.hope you can help .now were do i start? ok i recently broke up with my ex gf because we kept on arguing.the arguing for me was bcoz i felt rejected all the time.she on the other hand due to pof was very irritable,had zero sexual desire, very insecure about how she looked. We went out for a year and a 1half and you know wat i never got to to see her completely naked .even when having sex she didnt want me to look at her belly,privates and all that.it always used to hurt for her all the time. i understood this and was ok with going for months without.Every morning i had to tell her she looked gr8 and i did but still to her that wasnt enough to improve her confidence. i suggested dieting ,changed my own diet to vegetarian for her to get the body she was going to be happy with so i thought.lost a lot of muscle out of it but hey loved her right.3 months b4 the break up i almost left her bcoz of all the arguements but she conviced me that we could work things out so i stayed .i thought i was in the wrong so i tried to be the best lover any girl could ever have did everything for her and let her win arguments as i thought it wasnt her fault .she has pof and it makes women like this. after xmas after a few drinks at her aprtment we ended up saying to each other we were trying to make something work which wasnt going anywhere so we dicided to break up. week down the road i missed her alot told her i wanted to get back together. but she wasnt having non of it. i tried to get her back wen her mum was around but the bcoz her mum and her are like sisters everthing that happens they make a decision together she told me to leave her daughter a loneand move on. now the other day i was telling my ex gf i met a few women that wanted my number and she started crying?.she said she didnt want to hear about that it bcoz it hurts her feelings but she wanted me to move on?wtf?.i love her a lot but she wont have me back and is giving me mixed signal .wat do i do please help!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 January 2008):
 Sorry, man: Jayjay027 is just right. Move on.
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reader, Jayjay027 +, writes (27 January 2008):
I have been in a similar situation with my ex boyfriend.
I am sorry to tell you, that it seems that this relationship is over. You said yourself you tried your hardest to make it work, and it didnt happen. You were arguing all the time, and probably making eachother miserable, so breaking up was for the best - its just hard to see that right now.
The best advice you can get - and I know its hard to swallow - is to move on. I stayed friends with my ex and I wanted him back, and even though I asked him back twice, he refused. But we still stayed friends. Then I realised that I didnt love him anymore, and was able to move on - although it would have happened much sooner if I didnt see him all the time.
You dont want to hear this, but you will get over her. You will move on and meet someone else. You two obviously werent meant to be.
All the best in the future.
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