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writes:A week ago, I met a guy; we were both proctoring exams at our university. We talked a little before the exam, and exchanged a few whispers during the exam. Our areas of research seemed to overlap a little and he said he had some sources I should look at.After the exam, he gave me his email and then indicated I should wait for him and we'd walk together. Along the way, he suggested coffee, so we stopped. The conversation was good...we had similar opinions on things; we talked about our work and our families; he mentioned right off that he is raising his child and that he's not with the mother anymore. Anyway, it was nice. We went our separate ways and a couple of days later I emailed. I kept it short and said I just wanted to say hello, that it was nice talking to him, and I asked him for the names of the sources he'd mentioned.Well, he hasn't responded. My inclination is to just let it go - maybe I misread our talk, maybe he lost interest at some point, who knows, right? Still, it feels odd that he didn't at least answer my email to say "here are those book titles" - he did seem like a sincere guy and even if there were no spark, we talked enough about our work that he could treat it as a genuine question. (which, in fact, it was! as well as being the excuse to email of course.)So, I guess this is a classic "why hasn't he emailed" question! And am I right to just let it go?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 January 2008):
 I agree with both Dearkelja and the anonymous poster. I would add that perhaps he doesn't want you to see how anxious he was about receiving this e-mail. His behavior does suggest interest. Just wait and see. If he writes again, well, you'll be happy. If he doesn't, you tried, didn't you?
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (27 January 2008):
 It is possible to that he didn't recognize your email address and it went to his junk box and he just deleted it. Make sure you have a good title for the email that he will recognize.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008): He might be one of those who doesn't check their email often. But if it's killing you you might send the email again just to see. What's the worst that could happen? That he doesn't respond Again! Don't worry you might not see him again. And if you do just smile and go on with your life. You are just doing what he told you to do. You don't have to feel ashamed for believing in what he told you. If he is deciding not to answer then it's his loss, and I'd say walk away from it of course.
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